Lately everytime I go on a date i always end up paying my half. I even had to pay for a guy since he claimed he didn't have any money. He mentioned it on the phone in a jokingly way but I thought he was playing. I didn't wanna go to the movies but he convinced me to go. He picked me up from my house and I had to pay for the movie. In the theatre, he had the nerve to ask me to buy him something to eat. I sure didn't. On another first date, this guy kept complaining about the costs of the food as if he wanted me to buy the cheapest thing. I did and after the date he talked about the next date and said that I'll have to pay. Whatever happened to treating a lady. I'm not a cheap person but its sucks that time spent with me is not worth the cost of a plate of food. After all those dates the guys were still interested but i sure was not. what do you think? Should I stop going out on dates?
2006-11-08 15:38:34 · 16 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am old fashion...He pays for the date, always. I refuse to accept his role in the relationship. I think the problem with most men is that we as working, independent women feel the need to display our equality. I don't. I am equal but you will open my door. I am equal, but you will pay for the date. I am equal but if you see me carrying heavy bags or see something in my house that needs repair, you will offer your services. And in return, I cook my butt off, never say no and make each intimate moment an adventure. Also, leave that tired clown alone, he's not a real man and will never make you happy.
2006-11-08 15:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Debbi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally, the one doing the asking is expected to do the paying, unless is it made clear before hand that the date will be dutch treat. If a guy asks you out, he should pay. And if you initiate the date, then be prepared to pay for it. If a guy complains about the prices at the restaurant he picked, then take that as a hint of things to come. Chivalry is not completely dead.
2006-11-08 23:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd much rather pay my share than pay for something I didn't eat or have the guy pay for something he didn't eat. I can afford a meal. To keep things even, you should find some way to nudge the idea of going Dutch into the guy's head before you get to the cash register. When you go out to eat/to a movie, ask the server/cashier to charge the meals/tickets to two separate bills. That should make it clear enough.
2006-11-08 23:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...Who ever asks, pays.
(EXAMPLE) If the girl wants to go out to eat, see a movie, go to magic mountain, etc....she needs to be able to pay(whether or not the guy offers). When the guy asks, he should pay.
A good rule of thumb, The first date should be split down the middle (50%).
A quick comment to your story...If they guy isn't willing to spend some of his money equally, then stop going out with him. Don't let it happen twice with the same guy...on the other hand...don't expect hand outs. Girls are use to guys paying, spending their money, and once a guy has a girl pay, she complains. Overall...It needs to be equal. Take turns....No problems!
2006-11-08 23:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by RumorHASit 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If a man asks you out for a dinner date they are offering to buy you dinner. If you want to be generous offer to leave the tip.
If he doesn't have the funds to buy dinner then he can make you dinner as an option. As a gesture of politeness bring either desert or a bottle of wine to go with the dinner he is cooking for you. (Don't offer to buy the groceries for the dinner though).
If you ask him to dinner you are offering to buy.
2006-11-08 23:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by tricia k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should stop going on dates with broke guys. But I also feel that if you ask him out you should pay but if he asks u out then he should pay.
2006-11-09 00:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by jsxy695 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sorry to say that most guys don't even open the door so why would they pay if you are just friends then you split it but if you are dating then he should pay and so should you he pays for food you pay the tip same with move and the rotate it
2006-11-08 23:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by rradboys 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I always pay for myself and for girls that go with me wether they are my dates or not...thats pretty crappy but don't stop going out on dates tho. Maybe be careful with who you go with?
2006-11-08 23:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you dating LOOSERS.!
I always believe a guy must pay whenever in a date..
2006-11-08 23:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'D TALK IT OUT FIRST IF IT'S A DUTCH TREAT OR NOT. SOUNDS LIKE YOU NEED TO FIND SOME GUYS WITH JOBS WHO KNOW HOW TO TREAT A LADY.
2006-11-08 23:42:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋