We went to school together and he was one of my best friends, but we lost touch when i had to change schools. Then about 8 months ago we got back in touch and within a couple of weeks we were going out. So, it's not just an 8 month relationship, we've known eachother for over 5 years. I'm 20 and he's 21.
I went through a really bad time recently with depression and he didn't seem to understand this. We would argue regularly and i would become very upset and insecure. It got to the stage where he said he only wanted to see me once a week and we almost split up.
But since i've been getting treatment for my depression things have been amazing. We get on better than ever and we spend up to 6 days together in a row. We are incredibly happy together!
It was his suggestion to move in together and i love the idea but my friends think it's too soon. They worry that we may go back to arguing again, but i know that that was a lot to do with my depression and i'm a lot better now.
2006-11-08 15:20:23 · 18 answers · asked by merihell75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're not considering getting married, we're not the marrying type.
Something that i find amusing is that he's actually started telling his friends we are definately moving in together when i thought we were just talking about it. He's not a romantic, clingy sort of guy btw.
I've lived with a lot of different people and i don't think there's anyone i get on better with than my boyfriend. He's my best friend.
2006-11-08 15:32:27 · update #1
If you think it can work go for it, if you have any uncertainties try renting first and see how you get on, at least you wont have the stress of the mortgage to pay back.
Well done you for getting help with your depression but i think your boyf really needs to try and understand it, maybe buy a cheap book on it and get him to read it before you move in together, if as you said it was his idea to move in to gether then he should oblige, at least then he has some idea of what you were going through and what he can do to help should it return.
Best of luck to you both.
2006-11-08 15:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would said give yourself 4 more before you 2 decide to move in together!
if for some strange reason y'all can't Waite !
don't buy an house! not unless you 2 get marry!
don't sign for an lease that over 1yrs.!
don't rent an place that over $500. an month!
make sure ya ll come up with an budget!
Like who going to paid the cable bill,water,phone,etc?
try look for place that going to paid electric and water!
And always make sure you have an back up plan for yourself!
I what i wrote down sound like an lots BS & Work!
Trust me it will save you time and money if think before you act!
Love can make you do some wired thing!
2006-11-08 15:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by Oie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy-friend seems to think that moving in together can solve problems ; thinks that this will cement the relationship, create a more binding friend-ship,will make amends for past mistakes on both sides.
2006-11-08 15:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by skeetejacquelinelightersnumber7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you will never know if you dont give it a try, you have been together and known each other for a long time, if it doesnt work you can always say you gave it your best! Hope it works out for you..?? x
2006-11-08 22:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is probably a mistake. He likely just wants to mooch off of you in terms of food, rent, and free sex at all hours of the night. He will just steal your stuff and then leave you stranded for another girl. I hate to even be tying this stuff, but the only way you can be fully free is through knowledge of the truth. I have a gf who had this very thing happen to her, and more, not long ago. Good luck!
2006-11-08 15:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
move with him ... some time people don't understand how depression fell and u won't understand that they don't understand because to u is such a big felling that is happening all around u but is no the same for then
best of luck
2006-11-08 15:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by legna20v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've just married my childhood sweetheart so why not? As you are not really sure though I would suggest renting rather than taking out a mortgage.
2006-11-08 15:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it if you plan on getting married. There's a statistic out there that says couples who live together before marrying have a higher divorce rate. I wouldn't risk it.
2006-11-08 15:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it a try, you seem to have worked things out, but you will need to still work at things, like your despresson, sounds like things are great for you and i hope it will stay that way, good luck sweetie and god bless.
2006-11-08 16:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by donua1022 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you guys can spend a couples of days with out arguing go for it.
2006-11-08 15:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by nm_cpr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋