SERIOUS sex and relationship questions if anyone can answer truthfully and seriously.?

Question

1. How easy is it to get pregnant if you take birth control everyday, and have sex with at least 2 days left on your period but dont use a condom or anything?

2. My boyfriend tells me some girls at his school are whores, but still talks to them and doesn't want me to tell them what he thinks even though they want to talk to me, and the way he describes them behind their backs, I don't think I'd want to... but he'd get SO mad if I told them what he really thought... can anyone give me advice? (maybe a guy?)

3. Me and my boyfriend are engaged and have told eachother everything about eachother, but then we still have big fights, but not often... is this normal and okay?

4. Is it normal to be tighter after you've had sex quite a bit so that you have to use lotion than when it was your first time?

5. Is it normal to not want to have oral because you think eachother tastes bad?

6. Is it normal that you want to hurt yourself when you disappoint your fiance?

Thanks!!!

Answer 1

1. It's not, birth control, if you take it every day at the same time, is really, really effective. Don't worry about it.
2. can't help you there, sorry.
3. Yes, my girlfriend and i also have fights, and we live together. we pretty much know everything about each other too. Fights are normal in relationships. Don't let small fights make big problems.
4. Yeah, kinda.
5. YES. Just because you are in love, doesn't mean you have to love everything about each other, more acurately the way each other's bodily fluids taste.
6. no, it shouldn't be, because how ever much you love him, you should love yourself more, and you shouldn't really want to hurt yourself...just try harder. After all, if he loved you, he wouldn't want you to hurt yourself, and if he does, than you have some serious thinking to do.

Answer 2

Honey, you have some very serious issues here. I have to say that it is always possible to get pregnant, especially when you are young and your periods are not well established. Having said that it is unlikely that it would happen while on your period and properly using birth control. I do want to caution you to use a condom. No matter what your b/f says, there are all kinds of STDs out there and it's the only thing that may protect you from some of them.

Why is he talking to girls he has such a low opinion of? And why he he judging them? And how does he know they are "whores"? I would certainly not betray his confidence though.

Are your fights OK? Are they OK with you? I guess it depends what they are about and whether having them resolves anything. If fighting does not involve name calling, physical violence, or belittling eachother and if by arguing you learn about eachother, you resolve an issue and your relationship is better for it then I would say it is a healthy thing. For some reason I am rather concerned that this may not be the case.

I suspect that you are not tighter but actually dryer. And I would never use lotion because it often contains perfume or other ingredients that can irritate delicate tissues. You need to use a lube specifically designed for use in the vaginal area. You may be dryer due to increased activity or because you feel stressed due to the other issues you have or to maybe not feeling safe or valued in the relationship. Women really need a lot of caring, attention, time and security to produce the stuff neccessary for comfy sex. Try to get lots of each.

Nope. If you have both had a shower, and are both healthy and don't have any big hangups then there really shouldn't be any real revulsion in going "down south" It can be an aquired taste for some people but you also could have a mutual infection or other medical concern that is causing a problem. I would check this one out with a doctor.

No and no and no!!! It is never normal to want to hurt yourself under any circumstances. If your bf is dissapointed in you then he has the problem. Please talk to an adult that you trust about this. It's a big one.

All in all I am concerned about this relationship and your place in it. Things just do not sound very good for you (and maybe not for him either) and I suspect that you are getting hurt in some way. Please, get some help with this. You need more than some answers from strangers. If you can't talk to your parents then choose a teacher, other relative, doctor or adult friend that you are comfortable with. Many of the things you mention can and should be overcome or dealt with. Please get some help today.

Answer 3

Hi, first of all, I think this is the longest Question page I've ever seen in Yahoo!Answers.

Well it's Q & A time, to answer you with regards to the above doubts as follows:

A1. It is NOT easy to get pregnant if you've taken good precautions like taking birth control pills and using condoms or caps during sex. But I'm not certain if having sex for the last 2 days will it be safe.

A2. I think you're bf is acting weird and sounds like a bad guy to me. How can he exactly talk behind their back & expect you not to reveal what he says or how he perceives them. He's quite a hypocrite. But as far as I know, I understand no one likes to be known talking behind someone's back. So I can somehow understand the situation a little.

A3. I think what you guys did was absolutely correct. You guys are great in fact! Normally, the best part is always missing is that many couples are lacked of communication and heart-to-heart chats. And that shows they're not honest and comfortable to tell each other things. Do continue this habit, it definitely helps! Having fights doesn't have to be related with your communications, it maybe linked when the conversations involved each other. But it's good that both of you're honest and brave enough to say things out, rather than cooping secrets and unhappiness inside. That'll not help in your relationship, in fact worsen the situation.

A4. Normally, I don't think after sex, your vagina will be tighter, shldn't it be looser because it has been expanded. Using lotion for the 1st time, I've never heard of it. Isit because you guy didn't give you enough foreplays, that's why you think your vagina is tighter and not wet enough and that's the reason you're using some lotion.

A5. Yes, no oral sex is perfectly fine and normal if you think the tastes is bad or weird. No worries. There's still anal sex or etc. You guys can continue with other foreplays right?

A6. No, you shldn't have hurt yourself when you disappoint your man. A guy wldn't even treasure someone who doesn't even know how to treasure oneself. You must learn to treasure yourself before you want him to respect & love you more. Instead of hurting yourself, do something more constructive to make him forgive & understand you and MAKE SURE you'll never going to repeat the mistake again.

Answer 4

Don't listen to the boys. That's just what there are - boys not men who only are out for one thing. Always use a condom no matter what. You're boyfriend sounds like he could be a player which could put you at risk of worse things than getting pregnant. You sound way too young to get married. You have plenty of time to experiment and not jump into something with someone who gets mad about your concerns. If you want to continue with this guy, why don't you both take a shower before engaging in oral sex.

Answer 5

1. Here's is all the info.
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/preventingpregnancy/birthcontrolfailure.html

2. I would bite my tongue, really look into the reasons he's saying these things. Does he want to manipulate you to thinking a certain way about them when he actually feels differently? And why would he want to manipulate you?

3.Yes fights are. I'm assuming your very young so to be engaged already No. that's not normal. Have some life experience behind you so that you have a frame of reference to base this VERY important decision on.

4.If your not "wet" then tightness would be normal, perhaps look into why your not creating enough fluid.

5.That's completely up to you, if it tastes bad don't do it.

6.NO! this could be signs of other deeper issues, perhaps some professional help, or if your afraid head to the Library and look up depression.

Answer 6

hmm, you seem to have serious questions, i hope you already spoke of them to your significant other, b/c it would be him you should really get answers from. but to give you SOME guy knowledge:
q1: if you're gonna be on the pill and want extra security, have him wear a jimmy(condom) it doesn't matter if he gets mad or throws a fit, get this! if he's a real man he will respect your decision.
q2: he tells you they are whores so that it is easier for you not to be jealous.
q3: fights are always normal, but NEVER fight about money.
q4: see a sex doc.
q5: if you want to have oral sex, and you are scared of distaste, make a it a romantic bath clean each other until you are satisfied, and right after the shower...eat up! oral sex is sex, you should not be thinking about bodily odors.
q6: see a shrink THAT my friend, is not normal.
find your self esteem, it is vital to a successful relationship that and communication. good luck.

Answer 7

1. Not likely
2.umm..are you sure he's not trying to talk to them and just doesn't want you to have contact with them?
3. Fighting is part of all relationships
4. Not sure
5. If you love someone it shouldn't matter. I mean as long as the other person is clean. It's not supposed to taste good!
6. No

Answer 8

If it bothers you this much, and it sounds like it does. Tell your current boyfriend you don't like the porn, that it is the main cause of your past relationships failing. If you don't say something how will he know what bothers you and what doesn't if he loves the way you love him, he will do what makes you happy, good luck to you.

Answer 9

1. its unlikely but possible
2 i would stay out of that one
3 perfectly normal
4 everyone is different so its not strange i guess
5 same as above, not normal or abnormal, you have a right to think that
6 no that is NOT NORMAL

Answer 10

k i can answer # 3 for you!

my boyfriend and i know everything about each other and tell each other EVERYTHING.. we fight all the time.. its really normal, we both love each other, but when you see someone everyday for years on end, your bound to get on each others nerves..

just remember the bottom line.. you love him and you most likely wouldn't trade him for anyone else