So, I have a crush on this one boy, and he made the first move, and we found out we had a lot in common and became BFFs. Anyways, as time went on, he never knew I liked him, and he got a GF. His GF is constantly talking behind his back, and getting new crushes on other boys. I decided I would keep the info. to myself because the last thing I wanted to do was get mixed up in drama.
Well, his GF found out I liked him, and told him. He's treated me really differently since then. Now he walks me to class, flirts, and touches me a lot more. I really want to ask him to break up with his GF, b.c. she is such a ***** but IDK how. So seriously, how? And also, does he like me back? We haven't really talked about my crush, at all, but I want to know.
2006-11-08 15:06:59 · 24 answers · asked by unknown 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This may be hard for you to do, but make a copy of your question and give it to him and ask him to read it, just as I am reading it now, and tell him when he has finished reading it, to tell you what he thinks.
I think when he knows how you feel about him, along with everything that has happened, as you explain in your question, it will get the results you want, without you having to say anything.
If you do this, I know you will be happy and glad you did. I think you will get a very pleasant and much wanted response from him to you. His reply will let you know 100% what he thinks and I know you will be pleased, very much so. Just do it and you will be glad.
Good luck,
Darryl S.
2006-11-08 15:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to him. Explain that over the course of things, that somewhere along the lines, you began to like him for more then just a friend. And if he really is like a BFF, then he will respect and appreciate your openness and honesty. I mean, come on, it really takes a lot to tell someone that you like them for more then what they thought. Which could explain why he never asked you out first. He may have thought that that's all you wanted out of the relationship was just a friend. And the best way to destroy a friendship with a person of the opposite sex, is to rush right into the "boyfriend-girlfriend" stuff. But you took a nice slow approach. He will either accept or reject your offer. Just remind him that no matter what he thinks of what you have to say, that remaining friends is what you really want to maintain. Regardless of how painful a more intimate rejection may be.
2006-11-08 15:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, good time eh? Sometime when you and he are alone and there is no chance of interuption have a talk. You should probably clarify the fact that his gf ratted you out, admit your feelings and the fact that you want to continue being friends if he's not interested in that way (it sound like he does like you). Guys are notoroius for not being big feeling talkers, but try to hash it all out then and there. If it comes out that he is interested don't let him convince you to be his side dish, it's dump the gf, or tell him to stop flirting with you. It certainly sounds like he's flattered. Try not to call his gf a *****, that may not impress him. Good luck in your boy friend chase.
2006-11-08 15:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may be trying to make his gf jealous or trying to play with your emotions. I would back away from the situation for a while to see how he acts.
Maybe he knows about all the other guys his gf is running after and he is using his relationship with you as a cover You may end up getting hurt worse than he did when he found out about her.
You shouldn't have to ask him to break up with anyone. If he realized that you were the one he really wanted all the time he should have asked you to be his by now.
Don't make yourself so available. If he really wants you make him work for you.
2006-11-08 15:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Big mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication !!! I cant stress this enough. If you really are is BFF wouldnt you want him to tell you if you had a BF who was talking behind your back ? Do the same for him. Explain how you feel and that you would never come between someone he really loves but he needs to know what is going on. This is not getting in the middle of drama you are only looking out for his best intrest. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Good Luck
2006-11-08 15:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now do you really want a guy who flirts with a girl he knows likes him while he's dating you? Have some self respect Girl...there is somebody out there that has his name on his heart. Give it time...this is a crush...and idle curiousity. Don't sweat it, in a few weeks your gonna see the two of them with different people anyway.
2006-11-08 15:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get all of this information out into the open, let everyone know how you feel so that they can be the ones to react. That is the best way to go about this. Yes indeed, you were right when you said this was for easy points!
2006-11-08 15:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo you got to tell him to break up with her. He obviously has interest in you if hes feelin you up. When you tell him you are going to have to be prepared though because you also must tell him all the stuff his girl been doing behind his back and be ready for his girlfriend to start some drama. I really think he might choose you. First tell him you like him then do all that stuff
2006-11-08 15:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by monte_x2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool, Stay best friends, It sounds like he's coming around to you more and more. You will know when the time is right, to talk about the situation. Rumors about her talking behind his back, will get back to him. If he is what you want, be ready for the rebound, It will come very soon. When you latch on him, reel him in. Good Luck to you and him
2006-11-08 15:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by Speedbuggy43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to ask him to break with his Girl friend . Be your self and if he should leave his GF for you then you know you have it made. Be natural and not be bothered about a thing
2006-11-08 15:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋