ok my brother has passed away its been about 6 years now and i still miss him am i ever going to get over loseing him he killed himself i wish he didn't and its hard to talk about it cuz we were closes and we were 10 years apart i don't know what to do help me please it hurt so much i have tried to talk to people about it but they just told me i was a baby i just can't stop thinking about him
2006-11-08 15:05:36 · 11 answers · asked by ASHLEY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i had a son in 2005 and him and my boyfrined are the only ones holding me togather i named my son after my brother my son's name is christian and my brothers name was christopher
2006-11-08 15:39:29 · update #1
No, this is a natural part of the grieving process. You should merely let it play out as it is meant to be. There is no correct answer for how long it will last or how it will feel, since everyone deals with loss differently. I am sorry to hear that the sadness has lasted for about six years. What you need to always remember are the happy times you spent with your brother. That is the only way that you can keep him close, as though he is still there with you. You have done the right thing by posting to Yahoo Answers. Hopefully you will get plenty of comforting responses from people that care. Good luck with the healing!
2006-11-08 15:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Justin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will NEVER get over losing your brother, or the fact that he committed suicide. The people who are telling you to get over it, probably don't understand what it's like to lose someone close to them. Even though you will never forget, you can still move on and enjoy a happy and productive life. You just have to find that balance. I suggest joining a grief support group. It may sound weird, but it may help you, especially if you don't have anyone to open up to. People who lose loved ones do this all the time. Good luck!
2006-11-08 23:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Isla14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key to your sorrow and inability to let go has most to do with the fact that he committed suicide. You will never get fully over it. Suicide of a loved one are one of the worst traumas a person can experience.
There are special groups of people who have lost loved ones this way and who help each other move on. I suggest that you find one. Also, I suggest that you spend some time and money on a competent counselor/therapist. There are good strategies for coping and reducing the pain.
2006-11-08 23:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to a professional? Everyone handles grief differently, so it just may be taking you longer than it does for some people, and there is nothing wrong with that. You may NEVER get over him, but you will someday learn to move on without him. I'm sorry you had to go through this.
2006-11-09 11:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, first i want to say i am very sorry for your loss ! your not a baby you loved your brother my mother lost her father in 2003 and still has not quite yet got over it the thing is it takes time more time if you were very close see alot of people won't understand that untill they lose some one thay loved and were close with. and you may never get over it but thats o.k ! you loved your brother and thats what counts ! God Bless!
2006-11-08 23:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Heather F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a baby! This has to be one of the hardest things to go through. I am very sorry to hear that this happened to you. Maybe you should talk to the rest of your family about this, i'm sure they feel the same way that you do. Or try going to a thereapist. THey are professionals and they are probably going to be the best people to help you with this. I hope you feel better soon...
2006-11-08 23:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't that was your brother I think we never get over it we just learn how to deal with it You should take as much time as you need too. And don't let other people tell you when to stop grieving until they are in your shoes they will never understand
2006-11-09 01:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had also a brother who passed away almost 3 years ao..he got drowned...our home is not that the same as before..he's funny sweet and a loving brother..with the age of 17 we couldn't even imagined and believed that he's gone..until now the pain in our heart is still..we missed him so..but what i realized is that there's no such word of healing,,it is just wer getting used of the pain that we feel,,getting used that he is not around...u've already let him go..it just u missed him so because no matter wat he's been a big part on ur life..
2006-11-08 23:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by cj r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your pain is this intense after 6 years you really need to get into some type therapy to deal with your loss. My heart goes out to you and i pray you take my advice
2006-11-08 23:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI SWEETY , I LOST TWO SONS SIXTEEN YEARS AGO AND I STILL CRY MYSELF TO SLEEP MANY NIGHTS,YOU NEVER GET OVER LOSING SOMEONE YOU LOVE, YOU JUST LEARN TO LIVE WITH IT.IF YOU THINK YOU NEED TO BE WITH PEOPLE WHO UNDERSTAND LOOK FOR A COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS SUPPORT GROUP IN YOUR AREA, YOU WILL BE ABLE TO LET YOUR FEELINGS OUT WITH OTHER PEOPLE WHO FEEL THE SAME WAY,TALKING TO SOMEONE WHO CARES IS GOOD,MY BEST TO YOU HUGS AND KISSES JOANNE
2006-11-09 03:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by joeandhowie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋