My friend is broken hearted because she has to send the child she has cared for for 2 years back to a bad situatuation, her and her husband already adopted her older brother abd was in the process of adopting her , when the Aunt decided to make a claim for this child.
The childs mom is a bad person ..used drugs throughout her several pregnancy's ..left her kids with a legacy of Fetal Alchohol Syndrome, and Hyperactivity and attention deficit disorder and a whole array of other things...and now they have given custody to the Aunt who will of course expose the child to the bad parent again as she see's her regularly.
It's wrong and now they have run out of appeals 2 years later....how can the supreme court make such a bad bad decision and get away with it ? is there nothing my friend could do ? the little boy is so upset that he is losing his sister.....I have no faith in the justice system of Canada ..any others have similar experiences? Can ANYTHING be done now? or is it too late ?
2006-11-08 14:58:41 · 5 answers · asked by Wishing 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unfortunately, they will be screening the aunt and if she passes the criterion and it is within her legal rights they will do this. They can't afford to have the dept. sued by her.
I recently took in a teenage girl. In this state she is considered an adult by law however there is a catch 22 in which according to family services and the school system she is still under guardianship of her mom. The girl moved into my home for safety and the police can't make her leave as long as we allow her to be her. However, her mother who recently got out of jail for possession of narcotics and various other violations goes to her school and will check her out for NO REASON. The child seldom knew where her next meal was coming from or where she was going to be sleeping. The girl often worked doing janitorial services until 2 a.m. and never got paid because the mom took the money to support her habit. She would disappear for days at a time leaving her and her younger brothers alone w/o food in the home. Since she has been with us she has made the honor roll and put on some weight. However, the mother still maintains control w/o any of the financial responsibility. We take care of all of her needs but the mother is constantly harassing the family and trying to court her daughter back saying she has changed.
Everyone gets Jesus when they go to jail. The woman continues to see so many men that she should have a set of Golden Arches put over bed. Anyway, Do the best you can. Consult an attorney. If it is beyond your control; all you can do is walk away.
2006-11-08 23:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a product of the foster system, the courts will always attempt to reunite the immediate family, no matter what.
Although the family may not have the child's best interest at heart, the courts feel as though they would because after all it's supposed to be family. This will take it's course, that is what I can tell you. You can also ask the social worker if ever the child returns to the foster care system, you would like to be notified first so that you can take him/her back in. After so many mistakes, the courts will supervise her visits.
In my case, it didn't used to be like that in the 80's, the family stayed separated.
Good luck,
2006-11-08 23:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by selysammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to your friend. As far as a lawyers help goes we all know if we have ever had any dealings with a lawyer you better hope you win the lottery just to pay them.
I have no faith in the USA justice system when it comes to cases like this. I have heard horror stories of kids that were badly abused going back with irresponsible parents when they should have been left with good people that had grown to love and want them.
I wish I had a good answer for you. I had once contemplated becoming a foster mom but knew eventually I would probally have a nervous breakdown over exactly something like this.
I hope a miracle happens for your friend.
2006-11-09 00:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My adopted son and daughter are 2 of the 8 children a woman has had. They all have fetal alcohol, yet she's allowed to keep having children. Believe me, I feel your pain.
2006-11-08 23:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not canadian, but If I were them I'd get the best lawyer and fight it out!!!! I would have an investegator watch the aunt and see how that goes. That is so sad...
2006-11-08 23:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by ximxca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋