help!!!!!!!!!?

Question

i am 11 yrs old and i am in 6th grade and im going out with this twelve year old guy who is in 7th grade. I really really really really like him and i would do anything for him. and when i say that i mean it. but everyone says he wants to f**ck me. and they say that he does weed and coke. even his younger brother. i like him way too much. but everyone except for him has said that he wanted to f**ck me or make "sweet love" to me in the bathroom. but he is soooo pefect aside from that. if he asks me for s*x should i say yes???no??? idk??? but if he wants to do it right then and there...am i way too young to be doing it?? or would it not be too terrible if i used protection???? I REALLY need help so PLEASE leave advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!









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i know this is under the wrong category but it seems like more ppl come here then they do in the REAL category belongs....

Answer 1

I think its completely up to you when you decide to do it....how you feel about him...you really really really really like him....isnt the same thing...specially if hes in to wed and coke(he soo reminds me of my kids dad) lol we started off on the same foot as yall......and let me tell you its not the easiest rode...in things in life you have to learn to let go even if you really want them .....giving yourself to him...isnt going to fix him or make him want you anymore....does he love you or does he just want to have sex with you? guys tell girls things so they can get closer to them...closer to getting what they want...my babies dad is on a coke and weed....and its completely crazy...when he turned 20 he had 3 kids by 3 different girls...no telling what hes going to have this year. No one wants to be with him cause hes a complete loser...and no one wants to claim they have kids by him...if your really sure your ready...which you sound like your not....make sure you use protecton people who do drugs...get aids and stds....it sounds like...your in the wrong kinda crowd anyways goodluck sweeite in whatever you decide!

Answer 2

I am going to let you in on a little secret....sex is a beautiful sacred thing from a spiritual place. You share energy with someone when you have sex....energy that some times can create a baby....so I tell people, "Do not have sex with anyone that you would not have a baby with!" And if you are not in a good place to have a baby, then you should not have sex. At twelve you have your whole life laying ahead of you. Do not risk putting yourself into a position where you are spending your youth raising someone else.

You have your whole life ahead of you to have sex....and honestly it is not all people make it out to be....typically, it only last a few minutes....it does not feel that great for the woman, ecspecially when you are young....and a lot of guys leave girls once they get sex from them, because they think the girl is easy. Women who really get the guy, get him by not giving it away until they are married. Once you give in the mystery is gone for the guy and he will start looking for the next girl....He might even say bad things about you to his friends. You never think they will, but they do.

There is an old saying, "Men do not buy the cow when you are giving the milk away for free." Sex is the milk and you should not give it away, until after the guy buys the cow....ie. marries you.

I know waiting until you get married might seem a little old fashioned, but with so many diseases out there that could change your life forever or even kill you it is well worth the wait. Think about this ten years from now, when you are 22 and really beautiful and smart you are going to want to give yourself completely to the man you will spend the rest of your life with....and you do not want to have to say to that person, "I cannot be with you, because I got HIV from some 13 year old geek." I know he seems awesome now, but ten years from now he is just going to seem like some silly kid who was using girls.

You can have an incredible life in the future. Do not waste your youth doing grown up things. Childhood fades too quickly, enjoy the journey....and respect yourself. If you respect yourself and love yourself all the rest will come.

Remember too that language has power and it effects how we see ourselves and how other people see us. Do not use the f-word, because that effects how people look at you. Someone told me once that when it is really time for you to be with someone it will be making love all night long, not f-ing for the sake of someone else.

Another word of unsolicited advice, if a man has any substance abuse issues run the other way now. Do not start your life with men in a place of co-dependence. If you put yourself first you will always make the right choices, if you put someone else first everyone will suffer. It is like when you are on a plane and it starts to crash, if you do not put the oxygen mask on yourself first you cannot help anyone else. Helping yourself means steering clear of people using substances....and not using them yourself. Life is a gift....people dying of terminal disease would give anything to have a healthy body....if you think of poisoning your own body do not do it in honor of people who would give anything to have the opportunity to make different choices that would lead to choosing life.....choose life and love yourself.

Answer 3

Eleven years old is way too young to be thinking about sex. Have you thought that you could end up pregnant or with an STD? Considering what your friends are saying, this guy just wants to get into your pants. Stay away from him. Wait a few years until you're more mature to deal with sex, and talk to your mother about going on the pill.

Answer 4

You are wayyyyyyy to young to be even concidering sex, dating and the like. If he's into weed and coke then you are setting yourself up for a horrible future. Have a little self respect. Get into your studies and worry more about your grades. Make a future for yourself. You have all the time in the world to worry about stuff like that when you become an adult.

Answer 5

hun, you are too young to be even thinking about doing something like that with a guy. i know from experience from that age that most of those guys only want one thing, and they are immiture, what if you got pregnant? do you think that he would stay with you for the baby? well first off his parrents would probobly ground him or something since he is way too young, and then you would have to raise a baby all on your own. wait till your a little bit older, and then think about doing stuff like that, but only with a guy that you know will be there for you. and dont even do it if you are using protection, because you are only 11 years old and you are still going through puberty, that can really hurt your body if you are having sex. and trust me hun, if a guy is saying that he wants to sleep with you, obviously he only wants that, he doesnt want a relationship with you. and i would NEVER go out with a guy that does drugs! i am glad that my fioncee doesnt do stuff like that, but anyway, its ur decicion what you do, but that doesnt mean it will be a right decicion.

Answer 6

WAY....WAY....WAY.... too young focus on other things besides sex and boys right now, you are far too young to be asking such a mature question. Do not do it get away from him sweetie and do it quickly, you are only 11 years old you have plenty of time in your life to worry about boys. Focus on school and just being a kid dont make that big jump and have sex with someone this early in your life.

Answer 7

It may be hard to bring up, but talk to your mother, or a close female adult.....You need to talk to someone who has been there and I think that even a school guidance counsellor or a trusted teacher would be able to help you. Talk to someone, You are way too young, and sex should be the farthest thing from your mind right now.

Answer 8

All i have to say, is your are worth the wait. You need to treat your body like a sanctuary that it is. No one should ever try to manupliate you in having sex. Boys that age are going through a change like you are, and they aren't always willing to control there hormones. You need to make a choice of whether you are worth the wait. If you feel that you can't wait, and that you pursue this, I gurantee you, he will dump you like a yesterdays' trash the next day.

Answer 9

NO way, you are way too young. 12 years old is way too young. End of story, stay away from him.

Answer 10

I think neither one of you should be dating.. Whats wrong with the young people today.