Can anyone help me get rid of the hurt?

Question

i had a misunderstanding with my boyfriend for the last few days, n he said something that really hurt me, n now he is apologizing for what he did,n he really feels guilty for what he did,i love him n he loves me so much n what he said was just his anger talking....but the fact is i still cant get rid of the hurt.Help.... i dont want this to end

Answer 1

It is understandable that your feelings could be hurt as you are of the gentle sex and any man who is fortunate enough to be in your presence should be wise enough not to hurt you because if they do, you may not get over it.

I will now share with you a high tech method of making your hurt go away very quickly. This is going to take a little bit so please bear with me. The method is called:

Neural Linguistic Programming.

Get in a place where you will not be disturbed, maybe when you go to bed at night. Close your eyes, and relax, relax, relax.

See yourself walking into a large Movie Theater and it is empty, you walk in and find yourself a seat and get comfortable and start watching the screen.

Now see yourself get up and walk up the stairs and enter the projection booth. You look out the window, and you can see yourself still seated below.

Turn the projector on and the lights down, and see a movie of you and your boyfriend just before he said the things that hurt you. Look down at yourself sitting there and watch your reaction. The movie gets to the point just before he hurt you. . . . .now stop the movie, and fast forward to just after he hurt you and restart it. Again watch yourself sitting below, and notice your reaction. You will start to see, that there was nothing so bad and you are curious why you were hurt. You again look at yourself sitting there, and you do not seem to be hurt.

Go down and re-join yourself and get up and the lights come on and you leave the building and walk into the bright warm sunlight and you are happy and feel good all over, the hurt?. . .What hurt?

Congratulations, you are now healed.

Darryl S.

Answer 2

Experience has taught me that there are two times when people are certain to tell the truth about how they feel. These two times are when they are angry and when they are drunk. Now he may have said whatever it was when he was angry but do not be deceived and think that he didn't mean to say it. At some point we think about things and our thoughts either become words or actions. I would accept his apology and forgive him. Forgiving him has nothing to do with him but everything to do with you. Being angry and mad at other people doesn't hurt them but rather destroys you on the inside. I've often been told that the usually the ones we love the most are also the ones we hurt the most. You need to give some serious thought as to what could make him angry enough to say something so hurtful to you and also what's to say that he won't do it again. Love is not supposed to hurt... so if it hurts its not Love. Good Luck on your decision. To answer your question about getting rid of the hurt you need to first analyze why you are hurt. Did whatever he said have any truth to it? You know what they say, the truth hurts? When you figure out why you are so hurt then you will be better able to deal with the hurt. But first you have to get to the root of the hurt. Your relationship doesn't have to end but you do need to sit down with him and establish some rules for healthy communication between the two of you. If he abides by the rules and agrees to them then you're fine. If not you would be better off moving on and saving yourself from any future verbal abuse. Words do hurt and emotional and verbal abuse are the toughest to heal.

Answer 3

The best thing you can do is forgive him. It sounds like he is really sincere and you wouldn't want to lose such a special thing that you have with him. I know it must have hurt that he said something bad to you, especially since you care about him so much. Try remembering all the good things he says to you and how hard he tries to make you happy. You can even write these things down and look back at them later. I'm sure once you remember all these great things, that one mean comment will seem much less hurtful.

Answer 4

First, ensure you do not have any contact with him or his acquaintances or kinfolk. If absolutely everyone brings him up in a communication, tell them you do not elect to hearken to about him. i imagine the better you listen about him, the more serious your thoughts are going to be. 2d, shop your self busy bodily. Run, motorcycle, swim, dance, and so on. i have stumbled on that actual interest helps burn off anger and rigidity. third, attempt writing down your authentic thoughts. do not censor your self in any respect. once you're finished writing for that day, burn, shread or do regardless of to get rid of what you wrote. that's a fashion to get rid of the sentiments in a figurative experience. Fourth, you could attempt freeing your thoughts. I close my eyes and breathe slowly and deeply till i'm calm. Then in my head I say to myself, "i'm freeing all my and could no longer sense this way anymore. those at the instant aren't to any extent further my thoughts." that's what develop into the most efficient to me many years in the past even as i develop into extremely offended and bitter over a particular mission. regardless of, you do carry your thoughts in because that's going to finally devour you up interior.

Answer 5

Tell him that you are having trouble forgiving him and need more time to sort this out. Forgiveness is the key and ask him to help you do this. "I'm sorry" isn't always enough. Both of you need to think of one thing you can do to help the other partner or make the other partner's day brighter and practice this everyday. Actions speak louder than words; but words can scar.Learn how to fight fair and not trash each other. This takes real effort. Good luck.

Answer 6

you are hurting because someone you trusted and love has let you down .you thought he would never hurt you and this is life.people do these things when they are hurting themselves ,they usually take it out on the nearest and dearest.because they can't do it to the person who hurt them . write it all down on paper ,make it a letter to him telling him how much he has hurt you and how you feel about what he said and did. but DON'T give it to him or post it .throw it away where no one else can get at it and give it to him .read it often , until you are sick of reading it .by then you should be over the hurt

Answer 7

Just tell yourself what you said in this post. Let it go. People make mistakes and say hurtful things in anger.

Answer 8

Whether or not you can forgive him depends on what he said and how hurtful it was. If hes gonna say things that he knows is gonna hurt you every time he mad he doesnt love you. That hurt is your womanly instinct. You can follow it or ignore it.

Answer 9

Call Jack Daniels & Jim Beam. Kick em to the curb. If that doesn't work invite him over and kick him right in his ntts.

Answer 10

When women are depressed, they eat chocolate!! Try sum chocolate and forgive him. Tell him what he said really hurt you and that you understand that he's sorry and that you hope you will never fight like that again.