Serious hep please, I´m so sad!?

Question

I have this problem, you see I am a good person, a nice girl, pretty, a psychologist, acoording to many of my friends I´m a catch. But that said I just can´t have a serious relationship with a man, and I don´t give it up easy. What always happens is that I meet a guy it all goes starting well but the things freeze up and we don´t make it to the next level, NEVER, then they start dating other girls who are anything like me, not that I´m rude or hurt but it´s true they´re either mean or sluths. So I´m desperate and sad because I just can´t make it work, everyone keeps telling me to wait that the right guy is out there but I´m tired of waiting It´s been too long and It´s getting harder and every day I get more conviced that it must be me the one that´s doing something wrong. So what can I do?

Answer 1

Stop! Breathe, and now take a deep breath!

1. You are worth a good relationship...one that is admired by both of you.
2. You can make a list of what you want in a relationship, and on the other side of the paper...list what you don't want.
3. The past is just that...the past....and that's what goes on the back of the paper....what you don't want.
4. You will look inside and see a pattern.
5. If you want to change the pattern after you recognize it, you will.....slowly and it must be YOUR choice.
6. Remember to love yourself....everyone..is second.
7. You wil be happier....and remember to smile...yes a big smile everytime you pass a mirror.

You just lost faith for a little while...so what.....GOD never loses faith in you and loves you just the way you are!

So now, you have listed what you don't want and that takes courage. You have a right to choose what you don't want.
Now, make the new list of what you want in a good, solid relationship ...relax and have some fun with it!

Put down where you want to travel with him, and remember no excuses, no limits...got that....dream!

May GOD bless all of your dreams....and if you don't feel close to GOD, who moved?

Answer 2

You see, I'm 15 and I know plenty of other girls/women who are much older; yet they've never had a boyfriend. If you're so sick of getting a broken heart, then why fall for some guy who is not there to catch you? I believe that there really is someone for everyone. Old or young... You just have to find patients and trust that everything will turn out OK. If you have friends that keep telling you that you "need" to get a boyfriend, then forget that! Be an independent woman and wait for the right guy to come around. If a guy will dump you for that, it's because they either: a) found someone hotter. or b) they only liked you for your body, and when they never got any of you, they got bored. You don't want someone like that! If you're patient, the right guy who comes around will care when you cry and be right next to you to catch you when you fall.

Answer 3

If this is happening repeatedly, with different people, you are most certainly doing something wrong. What that might be, I can't say, because I don't have enough information.

You mention that you have trouble making it to the next level. I'm not even sure what that means. Maybe, you're having trouble turning a friendship into a sexual relationship, or maybe the sex is no problem, but you're having trouble with commitment.

I really haven't a clue as to what the problem is, but I wouldn't mind trying to figure it out, if you'd care to contact me.

Answer 4

I agree with what your friends are telling you. The right guy is out there just for you. I know that exactly what you don't want to hear but I really believe it's true. We're all destined to be with someone. Just keep your chin up and do you best. I'm sure with all of your wonderful features, you'll be sure to find the right guy. It'll happen when you least expect it. I hope this helped and most of all, Good luck!

Answer 5

What is your age? By the next level, do you mean having sex? If your goal is sex, just find a one night stand. Sex is for after marriage & only with your husband. Take care of yourself. When the time is right according to God & you are ready for marriage, he'll be there. Get a social life. Go to church. Join a bowling league. QUIT TRYING! I tried too much years ago, & people saw me as desperate. That's the energy that you put out, & it is noticed. Change your energy.

Answer 6

Dating different guys is really fun when you are young. You need an attitude adjustment and realize that the more guys you date not-seriously the more ready you are when you're older and you want to be exclusive. Dating is fun, so what if you haven't found the person you want to fart dust with 100 years from now? HAVE FUN!

Answer 7

You need to slow down and look at the positives in your life. You sound like you have you head on straight, but you do have to wait for the right person. It's annoying and a pain-staking process, but well worth it in the end. Enjoy your life and the people you have in it, things will fall into place.

Answer 8

Well Hon, all I can say is I am still in the same sitution you are since my Hubby passed away, it seems I can only attract my ex who is a drunk and a Pot head my Minister says the right man will come along when it is time my prayers and thoughts are with you and me Be strong it will happen

Answer 9

abortion having intercourse beforre marrige residing w/ your bf start administration being gay all of those issues are high-quality. yet no longer in case you're a christian. do you comprehend any gay human beings? Or people who stay with their bf, or that have had intercourse in the previous marriage? I wager you do. plenty. Do you think of they're all evil? Wait some years and then settle on for your self, somewhat of mouthing what your parents/minister says.

Answer 10

how old are u ?

if u are over 25 it is a problem but other than that just wait
go to school or places that u may find good guys u wanna meet