Has anyone been in a relationship with someone going through a divorce?
When my boyfriend and I started going out he was going through a divorce and she was still living with him. They werent psysical or anything but ever since I cant help but wonder about their relationship. He doesnt talk about it hardly at all because he doesnt like too. I occasionally find things of hers around the house as I live here now and it makes me feel a bit wierd. Obviously Im not going to try and talk to her but Im wondering how can I get closure in my mind about it? Anyone ever had this? They were tgether for about four years and we have been together about two. I guess I feel inferior for some reason. Stupid? Anyway, Id be interested for someone to tell me how they may have dealt with this or would deal with this. Obviously leaving isnt what Im going to do. Thanks!
2006-11-08 14:22:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A couple that I know lived like this for years and it worked out good for them and they remain friends to this day. I doubt that I could personally live that way but if people are capable of it then more power to them. If you can't discuss it with the ex, then try and discuss it with your boyfriend and be honest and open about how you feel. Hopefully he will be able to ease your inferiority and make you feel like a queen in his life at present. Good luck to you. We all have pasts and that is why it's called that because it is all gone.
2006-11-08 14:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hun, you are not inferior in any way, so do not for a moment think that. Heck, you are currently with the guy because you are great, and the ex is not there because of some other very good reason that only the guy knows about! Just be happy that they guy has finally come to his senses and seen you for how wonderful you really are. Plus, as for all her old stuff you find lying around, that is legally abandoned property, so you should be able to go through the house and throw it all away without any liability whatsoever. Just get rid of that junk and that should seal the deal, her being out of the picture forever. Good luck, and make sure you latch on to the guy!
2006-11-08 22:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have but not for very long. When me and my ex started dating, he was going through a divorce and I just seperated from my husband about 9mo before that. but he got his divorce after whe had been dating for less than a month. So I guess I don't know exactly how you feel. I was more on the opposite side, I was still married longer while me and him dated, But if you guys are still together after 2yrs, I wouldn't let it get to you. With you living in the house they once shared, your gonna find stuff that was left behind. But it sounds like you guys have a good relationship and I would just let it go. Good luck.
2006-11-08 22:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the living situation didn't bother you at the time, then it doesn't matter anymore. Perhaps you may be questioning if he could be unfaithful in a living together relationship? I'm kind of going through this right now. Except my new guy isn't concerned. He knows and it's obvious that I am very over my ex. I went out of my way to prove to myself if I still had feelings for him (prior to new guy), and I didn't. He also, wanted to make sure I was over him before we took our relationship to the next level.
2006-11-08 22:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend and the x are or were still a little close at that time and didn't or couldn't say no,MAYBE things are different now ...but maybe not ,maybe that's why he doesn't want too talk about it...GOOD LUCK TO YOU B.
2006-11-08 22:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thnk its normal to find things of hers in your place. She did live there too. But it also depend on what you do find. If its an old toothbrush in the back of the cabnet then thats fine. But if you find panties stuffed in the couch then watch your man girl.
2006-11-08 22:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wish that you would see it for what it is NOTHING!!! You are dealing with Karma. YOU WILL suffer the same treatment of the current wife. Respect yourself and tell him to call you when he is DIVORCED.
Good luck Boo. Been there done that.
2006-11-08 22:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past in the past
2006-11-08 22:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! i was in a situation like the one your in and it turned out he was still involved with her even after we married.
2006-11-08 22:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means that he really loves you and doesn't want to heart your feelings.
2006-11-08 22:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by jessika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋