the guy that i like never told his ex about me so i grew tired of her not knowing and told her myself !was i wrong to do that now he wont talk to me ! his ex still called him while we were together oh i went on a date with him on his birthday and his ex was calling instead of telling her that he was out with his girl he told her he was out with some friend was i wrong to let her know ?
2006-11-08 14:16:29 · 16 answers · asked by judixsa050202 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Were you wrong to tell his ex... Not at all. The key word is "ex". If his relationship with her is really over then it shouldn't matter to him if his ex knows that he is with another girl. Mind you, it does depend on how long ago they broke up. For instance, if they were together for a long time and they just broke up a week ago... it might be a bit soon for him to have a new girl in his life. This would for sure hurt his ex and he might be mad at you if this is the case, but nevertheless he is the one being inconsiderate not you. If the relationship has been over for awhile, then he should have told her about you himself... you should be the one mad at him for not mentioning you. You are not a rebound chick. Perhaps you need to ask him what his relationship is with his ex. Likewise, if the relationship is really over what is big deal with his ex knowing that he has moved on (providing he has moved on). It sounds like he might have a lot of baggage. Make sure that this is something you want to be involved with before you get too involved. There are plenty of great guys out there. Good Luck!
2006-11-08 14:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Leah D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he should have let his ex know that he was with someone else. And him refering to you as a friend, I think, is a little rude. I think that if you are going out and are officially boyfriend and girlfriend, then he should introduce you as his girlfriend. Otherwise people may get the wrong idea, and there could be some hearts broken in the process. Anyways, no you were not wrong to tell his ex, he was wrong to not tell her. And he'll get over it and will talk to you again if he cares about you.
2006-11-08 14:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sam-Wise 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you were wrong. That was a very selfish thing to do. When you are dating someone you do not own them. You do not get to make personal decisions for them. I'll bet he's got all kinds of things running through his mind about how he can't trust you. This mistrust will not go away. Even if you get back together with him, in the back of his mind he's probably thinking you are the "temporary rebound chick". I think you just bumped his ex girfriend up a notch and yourself down a notch in his mind.
2006-11-08 14:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In light of the fact that he told his Ex that he was out with
"some friend"....Then you were probably right to tell his ex..
HE should have told his Ex when she called him...
Shame on him..
2006-11-08 14:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were wrong to have anything to do with him. It is apparent she was not his ex but his current girlfriend. Why do you think she was still calling him? Why do you think he did not want her to know? Move on.
2006-11-08 14:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by stariei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you respect him if he doesn't respect you?If he was serious about you he would have told her about you and let her know your more then just a friend.Move on with your life cause clearly he still has feelings for his ex.
2006-11-08 14:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by serenity 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you guys were together, why would his ex care? Why would you even bother telling the ex? Sounds like she shouldn't have figured into the equation. I guess you weren't supposed to do that if he's mad and won't talk to you.
2006-11-08 14:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nope. Get used to being known as the rebound chick.
2006-11-08 14:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by JaMoke 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry Boo, but it does sound like a rebound.
2006-11-08 14:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no,you were right to tell her off... it is obvious that he still have feelings for his ex....
2006-11-08 14:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by liyana s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋