My ideal life is to be sober and meet someone who also had a drug problem that beat the odds and overcame it and is now a happy person...Can this really happen or is it a dream never to come true????
2006-11-08 14:10:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
considering how many people are on drugs today I'd say the odds are good.
There are recovering addicts everywhere. I'm sure you will find someone with the same goals and dreams.
2006-11-08 14:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by mom363546 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It can most definitely happen. Do you go to meetings. i know they can be very embarrassing and you may think they make things worse but you can most likely find your person that once had a drug problem and that person can probably help you to become sober. As for happiness that is totally up to an individual. If sobriety is what you truly want you can do it.
2006-11-08 23:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you both learn to cope with what triggers your drug use... there's a reason that AA/NA tell you not to embark on any serious relationships during the first year.... in my work, I train people with histories of chemical addiction to be human service workers - roles where their experience is a plus... there is also a certification as a Chemical and Substance Abuse Counselor (CASAC) that requires you to be clean and sober to work and offers a structure around which to build health... it's important for both you and your partner to be equally committed to staying clean so that a co-dependent situation doesn't arise... reality of course is that at any given moment someone can slip or stumble but picking up doesn't always mean (dum dum dum dum) relapse... you both need to be strong and committed to each other and staying clean for you to have a healthy shot at it but heck, YEAH!, it doesn't have to be a dream :)
good luck ... remember, a goal is a dream with a deadline... if you want it, you CAN make it happen!
2006-11-09 00:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by dornalune 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, though it can be a bit overwhelming if you both start leaning on each other as a crutch to keep from going back to the habit. Both of you can find comon ground that you enjoy that makes you not WANT to go back to the drugs. But I'd think it'd be hard to find someone that has already beaten it and is still available. Good Luck though.
2006-11-08 22:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Tsage 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Suspect you would meet someone like this at a support group. FYI, you need to get through rehab first; there are many underlying issues as to why you drink, which need to be dealt with first, especially from childhood and family rules. You don't want to burden someone you meet, especially in recovery themselves, with unresolved "baggage" that you might bring.
You will also want to make sure that they have gone through their own journey too.
One word of caution, you both are at risk to "jump off the wagon" so that would be really hard for the other person.
Good luck.
(Attending church regularly with this person, once met, is always a help. )
2006-11-08 22:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is possible. You got to start by staying sober yourself. There are many people who are going through the same issues as you and would love someone to support them. You will find someone like that and you will both help each other. I really do hope so... remember... all good things to those who wait...
2006-11-08 22:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Magy G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it can happen but it´s not easy, you nedd to comitt into being sober and it´s something you will have to struggle everyday at the same time with each day you will get stronger.
2006-11-08 22:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Katiegirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes anything is possible but you need to see it for your self. How about joining a narcotice annoymous group and speaking to people there. I am sure they have many, many success stories. I wish you well and happy hunting, someone is out there for you!
2006-11-08 22:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Casper 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
start going to NA meeting they are chock full of like minded people just be sure that you both have some time behind you or you could inadvertantly bump each other into backsliding
2006-11-08 22:14:45 · answer #9 · answered by ariespuff2 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It can happen
just dont date them until they got their problem under control for at least one year
2006-11-08 22:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋