Can you say no when he is inside you?

Question

Ok, I know it is scary and this is for debate.If you start sex and you kiss and forplay and he is inside you and you don't like it. Then you say no
you changed your mind because it hurts
Where is the point of no return?

This is nothing to do with me
I just come across this article
http://feministing.com/archives/005965.html

Thank you all for your understanding.
An issue that is so important, you made so personal

Answer 1

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A POINT OF NO RETURN!!!!!!!! NO MEANS NO!

Answer 2

You can say what you want but your answerer's who say no means no are factually incorrect because many many women lie. Some say no when they mean yes. Some say yes when they mean no. Some give both messages at the same time or alternately and as a consequence men sometimes don't know where the hell they stand. So no does not in point of fact mean no, it often means whatever the woman decides it means at the time or months later.

If it is hurting the word no should not come into the equation, it is a simple matter to be more gentle or slower or change position so that it does not hurt.

Reasonable women do not change their minds if it hurts they just change pace or position so it stops hurting. The sort of women who do change their minds half way through and say no are often just prick teasing bitches.

PS, turn it around, try being a man who says no to the woman half way through, then run for your life.

Answer 3

Legally...he has to stop...

Ethically and morally, I think you need to tell him it hurts and if he cant make it stop hurting tell him to get out...But see the problem here is that a girl could really mess with someone...I know a gal who did that to a guy, she told him to stop in the middle, his first time with a girl ever, and it wasnt because she was hurting, it wasnt because she was uncomfortable, it was because he wasnt doing it good enough for her. How traumatizing would that have been for that guy. She just messed with him, but at the same time if a guy can go for two hours without stopping...I dont know...tough call but no means no...

Answer 4

There is no "point of no return". No means no. If it hurts and you want to stop, he should still respect that. Just tell him it's painful and you don't wish to continue. If he refuses, that's disrespectful. Even if a sex act is consensual, partners should respect each other enough to stop if one of them feels uncomfortable.

Answer 5

There is no 'point of no return'. If it hurts or you don't like it, you stop. You tell him it hurts and you want to stop. If he cares for you at all he'll accept that and stop. It's not great for him, but he'll get over it. To carry on when you say stop is too close to rape, any guy who carries on is asking for trouble.

Answer 6

There is never a point of no return. If your partner changes his/her mind and begins to say stop then you have to stop. If you continue after your partner says "stop" then it is rape and you can be prosecuted. There isn't ever a point where a person is obligated to continue sex if he/she doesn't want to.

Answer 7

well if that happens, if you say no, even if you are in the middle of intercourse, it is considered a type of rape, under the law. so there is really no point of no return. He should respect you enough to stop when you ask him or tell him.

Answer 8

You can say no at any time during sex.

If at any time during sex a woman wants to stop and a man continues in spite of that, it is then rape.

Answer 9

I think you've went beyond. Ask the guy to be gentle as possible and maybe wait until the pain stops and try again....

Answer 10

Legally, you can say no at any point.

Morally, I think it's gone too far at the point he is inside you to say no. I see I am in the minority, but I tend to be a realist...

Answer 11

Tell him to stop then. If its painful, its not fun for you. Tell him to get out and stop because it hurt and maybe go in gentler or from a different angle.