What do I do when I hate my life?

Question

I'm depressed.I hate that I have no one to talk too.My past,present,and probably my future pretty much sucks.All I want is a christian person who'll listen to me and understand.Someone that can help me besides a mental health doctor that just wants to throw a pill at me.Is that so wrong?

Answer 1

No one to talk with?
Well, surely you can find other "mothers'" groups.
And how about your husband?
And you are young enough, perhaps you have parents?

What about being a man, alone, no wife, no siblings, no parents living, etc. Single women find their coffee clubs, etc. Married couples say single men should just "learn to get along by themselves". Ministers/pastors even ignore that we exist. New Year's Eve ... they hold a watch-night service at 7pm so "couples can evangelistically entertain other couples" for midnight but have 7pm early Communiion service so families can attend together. Hey!! Don't they even see us?? Don't they care about us??

Of course maybe you also have some depression caused to stree from two (probably) young children, etc. Do try to find some "support group" or two or three people that will support each other. Would be nice to find fellow Christians, but don't refuse nice persons who don't talk Christianity either.

Don't give up; don't feel that your future is going to be bad. Sometimes we can be pleasantly surprised. And who is it that takes from us the Joy of God's Salvation? (Psalma 15:12).

As the chorus "Brownsville Revival" suggests: "I went to the enemy's came, and I took back what he stole from me".

No, nothing wrong with wanting a fellow Chrstian person who will listen, understand, and share. But don't totally rule out some "pills" if your family doctor suggests it; sometimes a chemical imbalance can be the problem and God has provided doctors with knowledge. I don't know much about it but I have heard that a young mother with two young children can sometimes have chemical imbalances; God can correct it OR God can give the doctors the knowledge needed.

Don't give up!!
If your home church isn't helpful, then try another of similar denomination ... or try others.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. There were times in the past, I felt like that. No-one seems to care. Especially the so-called pastors or leaders who are too busy.

But look up. Look around you. I'm certain there are many people who love you and care for you and would be more than willing to listen to you.

Life's hard. It's a struggle. Being a Christian also is no walk in the park. Sometimes parents or even friends don't understand you and may even think there is something wrong with you.

Let me be the first to tell you that there isn't anything wrong with you. Jesus loves you for who you are, faults and all. We may struggle with issues.

Pray about. Ask God to send to you or bring you someone who will listen. In the mean-time, Talk to God. He's a good listener.

Answer 3

Only as I write to you, May I feel as a whole,
My mind is wraught with worry, my reach beyond control.
As a Christian I may struggle, as a friend a seasoned vet,
As for a good way to put things in perspective, I haven't failed you yet.
But if I do, then I'm to blame, Leave my book on the shelf,
Before anyone else may help you, you must help yourself!
I can relate to the pill throwing thing, being pelted with anything sucks,
But if you ever throw the pill back, That's good for a couple a yucks.
Depression is alot of pain, disguised as an impassive route,
To talk will help you GREATLY, feels good just to let it al out.
So don't let things get ya down, I've fought the fight for years,
My fight was against lonliness, my ammo bitter tears.
My arsenal has since run dry, or at least my guns lay on the deck,
I'm to a point where I enjoy helping others, It works, so what the heck!
Am I in surrender, to any of my emotions? Nope, I fight em all day,
My battallion out on the ocean.......
The waves may toss me to and fro, and bruise me once in a while,
With any luck my poem has inspired you..because that would make me smile.
Best wishes...Many prayers.....Someone besides.

Answer 4

Not at all. Are you a Christian? If you are, then you might be under a spiritual attack (Satan and his demons love to throw junk at believers), or else God is actually leading you through this trial to make your faith stronger. Either way, God has not abandoned you. Talk to Him about it (you're even allowed to yell at Him), and let Him take care of it. I can't guarantee that everything will suddenly be perfect, but if you really give everything to Him, He'll guide you through, and you'll be a stronger Christian for it.

If you aren't a Christian, then all I can say is that Jesus is your only hope. Put your trust in Him, He's the ONLY way. I also won't guarantee that everything will be perfect right now, but your life will have meaning, and you'll have the hope of being with God someday.

Maybe this helped, maybe it sounds trite or preachy. But it works, and I hope that it'll get better for you. I'd also suggest finding a good church, or a Christian counselor or strong Christian friend to talk to. That also helps a lot.

Answer 5

Do you know that there are people in this world that are sick and won't make it thru the night? They would give anything to be in your shoes. Go to the cancer ward at a hospital and i bet you'll walk out of there thinking your life really isn't all that bad. Life is a gift from GOD. Enjoy it. Your doing the right thing by talking about it. Best wishes to you and a happy future you will have. Keep a positive attitude. Join a church.

Answer 6

You have to finally make up your own mind set if you don't like the way things are change them!. Change yourself, get positive tapes, be around positive people .No its not so wrong to not want to take pills for depression. Write 25 things that are great about you really think. God does not make junk You have to want to change not wallow in self pity Get up take a walk take a stroll

Go to Church any Church! where people will accept you for who you are .When you start getting negative with yourself beating your self up Stop!.try a little hand gesture tap your heart lightly and think of your good quality's tell your self why your good.
get off the Internet for a few days it has a habit of depressing some people. Change! you can do it .

I did, you can too.
Hugs dear

Answer 7

Depression is something that has a beginning and an end. Have faith that when your "depression" finally ends, you will be a changed person. One that is stronger and better able to deal with this world. Try to see your current situation as an opportunity to learn and grow. I was lucky to suffer a major depression at the ripe old age of 19. Once it was over, I virtually had a whole lifetime to enjoy the benefits of what I had learned.

It has begun...therefore it will end. Just be patient and have faith.

L

Answer 8

I have been there but I am set free. You hate your life because the devil has a hold of it. But that can be good because if you did not hate your life you would not cry out for the truth. You must feel a void inside you and drugs will not fill it, alcohol will not fill it. Only God can fill it. God is getting ready to draw you to Him. We must get low so we can go high. Your self is your own enemy. Cry out to God and get born again for real and your spirit will come alive and rule over you and then things will be better. You are a spirit but you are keeping your spirit locked up. Your mind is your enemy. That is where the devil attacks. God will bring your spirit alive and your spirit with wisdom from God will renew your mind with the word of God, {Your instruction book which is the breath of God.} You must let God tell you what the scriptures say to you. When you mature they will say something different. Give God control. Throw your arms up and surrender your life, Spirit,soul and body to Him. Do this daily. God has to draw us or we can not go to Him. He has chosen you and that is what is happening. I have been there. I am so blessed today. I was so hungry for God. He has given me much favor. You must obey Him, His word.

Answer 9

Yes actually it could be wrong. You may have a situation where the best way to help is through medication. Then again maybe not. One way to find out: There are plenty of Christian therapists and counselors. Doctors too. Here are some links. Find one you are comfortable talking to and start to feel better!

http://christiantherapist.com/
http://www.aacc.net/
http://www.4therapists.com/christian/

Best of Health to you.

Answer 10

Change it.

Realise that others can only aid you in helping yourself.

There are also doctors that still embrace religions, talking to one of them might be the answer. There are also counsellors that are affiliated with certain religions, speaking to the pastor, priest or reverend should be enough for a referral.

Most importantly though, beware of those that may take advantage of you.