why is my sister in laws brother flirting with me?

Question

im attracted to him and excitied when he is around. but he flirts with me when his girlfriend is with him also. and it makes me feel bad. his girlfriend is not social at all she never talks all she does it pout and try to control him with her mind powers they have been together for 17 years. when she isnt with him he talks to me and swims with me and stuff

Answer 1

Hmmmm... You didn't give specific examples of what you thought might be flirting. It's very possible he could be if his girlfriend is less than awesome. But be very careful! You don't want to get in the middle of anyone's relationship. Just be polite, but don't act on anything unless he's broken up with his girlfriend. Good luck!

Answer 2

If he acts the same way around his girlfriend of 17 years then he may just be a really friendly guy and perhaps your reading more into this than is being sent out. Sounds like you are jealous of his girlfriend so a good place to start would be to realize that he has been with her for this period of time for a reason and that she must make him happy or he would have kicked her to the curb. Let it be and try and find another male to talk and swim with that is more readily available then your sister in laws brother.

Answer 3

Maybe the reason she pouts is because of him flirting so much, if he flirts in front of her he's not showing her any respect. But it sounds to me that u like him and u may even want to get with him.

I say this because of the negative things u said about her
U said

1. she's not social

2. she never talks

3. all she pouts & try to control him

Maybe the reason she not socialable or talk much is because she feels invisable since him flirts in front of her

And the pout is because she wants him to stop flirting and realize she is with him and he should respect the fact that she here

The control thing maybe her showing that she has to keep in him line since he enjoys flirting.

So since u don't know the real story about him and her ( behind close doors) ur only judging it may what u see

Try putting ur self in her shoes.

Answer 4

good that's how men are in the event that they dont get ample from there gf or wifes they prefer to flirt with different individuals. dont allow him do this simply stroll away and say that is soo infantile u have a gf and that i suppose u will have to be unswerving two her

Answer 5

clearly his gf is a bummer. but they've been together for 17 yrs rught? he is flirting with you because he sees some excitement when he's with you. but it doesn't mean that he wants to leave his gf. to him you might just be a fling or a person that just makes his blood energized. so forget about him, and stop flirting with him. it won't do you any good.

Answer 6

His girlfriend....???? 17 years????? Oh Yes he sounds like something you should start a family feud over and hurt a bunch of people and wreck family events for....What are you thinking?

Answer 7

17 years... he's bored and just needs to feel that excitment from someone else. Don't bother with him... he doesn't want a relationship from you... just the flirting.

Answer 8

well if he only flirts with you when his gf is around then he just wants to make her jelous You should bring it up in a comedy type way or just ask him do you like me?

Answer 9

pleace stop flirting and stop what ur doing ... make sure he know u dont want to ur gunna hurt the ppl .. and then u never know probably he dosent even know hes flirting with u if he does make him stop go and find someone of ur own please

Answer 10

17 years well that's to dang long he likes you go get him but just think he has been with this girl so long he my need her or would you want that think about it