OK MY OLDER SISTER SHE IS ONLY MY HALF SISTER AND SHE IS DATEING THIS GUY FOR ABOUT 11 YEARS NOW AND THEY HAVE 2 KIDS TOGATHER AND SHE WALKED IN ON HIM AND HER OTHER SISTER (NO RELASHION TO ME) THEY WHERE DOING THE NASTY IN HER BED WITH THE KIDS THEIR AND NOW SHE IS BACK WITH HIM BUT HE IS ON A SHORT LISHES AND HAS TO GET A JOB, OK I GUESS MY Question IS SHOULD SHE HAVE GOTEN BACK WITH HIM WANT WHAT SHOULD SHE DO ABOUT HER SISTER HE IS 34 AND HER SISTER IS 18 SHE JUST TURNED 18 PLEASE HELP
2006-11-08 13:47:43 · 20 answers · asked by ASHLEY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh yea her mom is in jail and her sister had a miscarage yea i can't spell don't make fun and her sisters deadbeat father is no were to be found
2006-11-08 14:09:42 · update #1
Cut the man off, keep the sister.
Guys come and go, and as messed up as it is on the other sister's part, when it all comes down to it, all you really have in this world is family. When the sister you know is going through problems with guy after guy, the sister will be there through it all.
Your friend needs to take it as a lesson that her sister cannot be trusted around her boyfriends, do what is necessary to make ammends, and kick the dude to the curb.
It's hard with kids, but would your firend want her kids doing the same thing to their wives? Kids learn by example, and even if they didn't see or realize what happened this time, if he is doing it now he will do it forever. At some point the kids will be old enough to realize what is going on, but naive enough to think it is OK, and then what??
As hard as it is, she has to move on; plenty of people have done it--she can too, especially with your support.
Hope this helps :)
2006-11-08 13:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not....but that her decision to make and sometimes we have to learn the hard way. Well her sister will always be just that.....now she understand that she can not be trusted and not just with her men but period...that is something she will have to earn back and it WILL take a whole lot of time. Secondly she should have not take the thirty four year old man seriously.....He has a problem and its more than cheating...Further more the fact that your sister is willing to date a man almost twice her age, that's not right either she needs to think about dating guys around her age range.
2006-11-08 13:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dutchess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister needs to get along with her life without the baggage of a deadbeat boyfriend who can't keep his pants up. As for her younger sister, she needs to approach her about her feelings, not in a mad destructive way, rather in a caring way and try to persuade her to not allow herself to fall into the trap of allowing men to have their way with her. You might not think it to be so, but both women are victims here. One, avictim of a bad relationship that is not going to get better, and the other a young girl caught up in the atmosphere of believing she will replace her sister as this man's love mate.
2006-11-08 13:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by rexallen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should first deal with the guy - and dump him. She is stuck with the sister. She should tell whatever biological parent they have together what is going on and the parents need to get involved with the 18 YO kid and get her inline.
2006-11-08 13:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the kids were in the same room?!!! I hope not! He needs to be kicked to the curb and left permanently the so called sister too! But of course she'll do as she pleases too
2006-11-08 13:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Franchesca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 12:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should drop him, and collect child support from him. I dont know what to say for the sister... But this is my thoughts but she has her own life to lean from her mistakes as well.
2006-11-08 13:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um.. well I 'get' that you're just trying to help, but there's really nothing you can do. It's her life. She's a big girl. If she's foolish enough to get back with him, then that's her mistake to make. It's a shame that it's that way, but it is.
2006-11-08 13:49:57 · answer #8 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw that family is forever he is old enough to know better drop that dead beat and home boy don't even have a j.o.b does he have a high school diploma
2006-11-08 13:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by i have all the money 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer to this. Can you support her in separating from him? She will need it. Cheating is wrong, cheating with family, even steps is wrong. There is no gray area.
Be strong, do what needs to be done.
2006-11-08 13:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by Betty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋