i wanna stop talking back but i let my mother get to me everytime i need help.?

Question

i am such a good student like straight A's and whenever im around adults im respectful but my mom just bugs me and persists and then i get mad and then she gets mad that i get mad and i get in trouble which i feel is so overrated i am 15 and no im not an adult and im not trying to be but i think she should see that if its only with her that i act like this something is wrong with her. she always tries to ask later if it is someone else and when i tell her no i think she thinks im lying. talking this out WILL NOT work with this beast i just want some good ways to tune her out.

o and for talking back she said she wants to kick me out and take me to my g-ma's house and she doesnt care about me at all [my gma] i just dont understand. i do let a few curse words slip out but still

Answer 1

well its good that your mature.

its just the teen years hun.


once your in college you will FINALLY be away form everyone who is annoying,
and find more people you would just like to slap...

anyway...umm...

dont let it get to you.

Answer 2

Well being a teenager is so tough on its own without the pressures of arguing with a parent. I understand where you are coming from. I moved out of my house when I was 17 because my mom and I couldn't get along. I was the oldest of 4 girls and she grounded me for everything and gave me hard time and my younger sisters got away with murder! Seriously all three of them quit school in the 8th grade and I was like you a honor student. Now I am 30 with two little ones of my own and as I got older my mom became my best friend. She died when I was 26 and pregnent with my first child. there are no words to tell you the pain you feel when a parent dies. I have no regrets because she and I mended everything a long time ago and I miss her very much. Even as a married adult she would drive me nuts still sometimes but you only have ONE mother and I know right now you are very frustrated and I don't mean to preach but please take time to see her side even if you think she is wrong. Now that I have my own two children i know what a mother's love is and as a mother there is nothing in the world that means more to you than your children. If you need to, tune her out or try to not argue back and know that no one is perfect we all make mistakes-you don't have to be perfect everyone slips up from time to time. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Have you and your ma ever considered going for family counselling? This may be a big benefit for you both. Your mom could learn not how to not press your buttons so easily and you could learn self control techniques. Being a teenager today, in my generation, in my parents or grandparents generation has never been easy. That's why it's called the generation gap, and all generations live through it. One reason that you might be so short with your mother is because you realize that she loves you unconditionally and as such forgives you and you her for all each others frailties. Regardless, she is your mom and as such does deserve respect. Nobody is saying that you have to be perfect or anything but try a little harder to keep your temper under control and soon enough you will see that she wants only the best for her son and she loves him very much. Good luck to both you and your mom in building a loving relationship.

Answer 4

Believe me, you are preaching to the choir!! I grew up with just my mom and it was really really tough! When I turned 15, things started getting to the point where I felt more like a "husband" than a son. Don't get me wrong, she's a good woman deep down and I appreciate her raising me, but she definitely has major issues that she won't address.

My point is, there is nothing you can do to change that, and here is the best way to tune it out: When she starts pulling crap on you, you say to her "I love you and I respect you, and I know I am a 'child' but I also don't deserve to be treated that way. I really don't appreciate you treating me like that." then just WALK AWAY. Most of all, if she says anything after that, IGNORE IT and let her have the last word!

Answer 5

Son you cannot tune her out forever! I really don't think you can, she is still your mother regardless how you feel about her...But I have to agee with you to a point though you are obviously an iintelligent young man to sit down and think about this on a serious note...Your mother believe it or not is trying to show you off to the world because she cannot say it herself that she is proud of you! So she does somethings and say things that maybe might get on your nerves but that is what happens to parents who want so much for there children they tend to drown them and then they become antisocial toward them and to others as well.

As for you mother you have to learn to deal with her on a better scale since she wants to be that way, And when she thinks that it is someone else will you might have to tell her a lie and say that it is and tell her that you don't want to talk about it.

Don't argue with her anymore if she asks you what is wrong you simply tell her nothing...But you cannot tune her out unless you are willing to live out on your own that is the only way you are going to be able to deal with your problem...Cannot run forever! I tried long ago it didn't work. Deal with it!

Answer 6

i understand how u feel cause my mom gets lyke that alot. I'm 15 and i just feel the whole situation is just not even called for. I'm a good stydent and all but i have learned that my mom only try to get close to me and thats the only way she sees her gettin closer to me. But i've learned to get out of the house and do more to get away and when i'm at home i stay in my room and talk on the phone, i read, watch T.v. anything that will help and it does help.

Answer 7

Honey I don't care how mad she makes you. You needs to respect her cause if something happens to her you would be in a world of trouble. Cause you don't get but one mother and when she's gone there's no one gonna take the stuff off you or treat you like she would. Honor thy mother and father and your days on earth would be longer. By you talking back you aren't doing thing but shortening your days.

Answer 8

The next time she bugs you and you feel like you are going to blow up just tell her that you are angry and you need to leave the room and end the conversation. It is not easy to get along with your parents when you are in high school and it lessens but continues on into adulthood. If she sees you making an effort not to talk back to her and reflects on what she does to make you angry she may learn when to back off when talking with you.

Answer 9

Did you just call the woman who gave birth to you a beast?

Has it occured to you that while you two may not get along, that she has feelings too?

You have totally proved that you are 15 by your lack of compassion for your mother and your lack of impulse control (your mouth.)

I read your problem and wanted to help until I read your last line - "this beast." You are not respectful of adults and should be ashamed to have even written the above.

Answer 10

It's hard but try not to let her get to you. If you're a straight-A student and you don't get into any kind of trouble, your mother really shouldn't have any reason to bug you. Rather than argue, just walk away.

Answer 11

This is good anger management practice....be respectful and just don't let her get to you...you have NO contol over what she says or does, but you have 100% control over how you react...remember that...

it's up to you to decide how to react and whether or not to be disrespectful...

I had a 'smart mouth' as a kid...mom used to wash our mouths out with soap when we sassed back (or cursed)...I can tell ya when that happens to you a few times, you tend to watch your tongue...LOL!