with a cerfew? By slapping her with a 10 o clock cerfew I was wondering if the cerfew was too early for a 16 year old?
2006-11-08 13:34:54 · 34 answers · asked by NONAME 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
On a weekday that is good. Weekend I would say 11:30 or 12:00. You are fine. Good luck!
2006-11-08 13:37:57 · answer #1 · answered by andi_sue_storm 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Do you remember when you go to the store and then you look around to see where they are and they are gone and what is the first thing you think someone got them and you run around yelling there name and asking people have you seen my daughter in my case son. and you can not see them and there they are playing in the clothing racks what is the first thing we do hit there a-- and tell them if they do this again you will really get it but what would happen if we didn't find them we would love to see them come out of those clothing racks how you react to her coming home was much the same but she isn't a baby anymore and yes you might have react a Little hard on her but what was the real problem she should have called you or did something to let you know . It isn't easy to be a parent and it suck to be in this world they didn't give us a guild line book when we had them you do it as you go. Do not lose the trust with her stay her best friend.
Good luck.
2006-11-08 14:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A curfew should fit the child's responsibility and maturity level, not soley the age.
Yes, I think you over reacted by slapping her. You're job as her parent is to prepare her to be a good citizen. By slapping her, all you're telling her is that she messed up. A better way would have been to explain to her why she has a curfew. Why it's important to be home on time (to gain trust). Too many parents are too quick to slap, and slow to take the time to explain.
2006-11-08 17:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sera B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, 10 is to no longer early for a curfew for a woman who's sixteen. i think of that as quickly as i grew to become into sixteen my mum and dad made me via abode via 9 or 10 too. If she grew to become into out till 2 interior the morning i could of grounded her. Letting her understand that staying out that late isn't ok. sit down and talk over along with her permit her understand why her curfew is at 10. a fabulous style of undesirable issues can take place at night. consistently understand the place she is and what shes doing.
2016-10-03 10:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops, I think you need to explain that you slapped her with a curfew, not a physical slap and a 10:00 p.m. curfew for a 16-year-old girl is quite reasonable.
2006-11-08 13:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she definitely did not deserve to be slapped. You may want to let her know that you over-reacted and that you're sorry for hurting her feelings (it hurt more emotionally than it did physically). To be honest with you, 10 p.m. is a little early for a 16 year old. You could make it 10 pm on the weekdays and at least midnight on the weekends.
2006-11-08 13:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
slapping her? maybe a little harsh for a 16 yr old, and it depends on how hard you slapped. I agree she should be punished for breaking the rules of your house. You are the 'lawmaker' and she is under your care. I would recommend sitting down with her and talking about the issue. But wait until you are calm. If you feel yourself start to get angry during the discussion "excuse yourself for a drink" and regain your composure. She needs to know you love her, but she also needs to know that you are the parent, and she is the child. You don't want resentment, that really makes things a lot harder. Good luck, I hope all goes well.
2006-11-08 14:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Neil R 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you got my attention by ending it with slapping her!
I'd say 10:00 is more than reasonable for a school night. I'd even say nine....if her homework is done.
Maybe Midnight on Friday and Saturday....depending on who she is with...many states have that anyway......Sunday should be considered a school night.
I'd start at 10:00 and gradually increase it by a half hour is she earns the trust.....go later (or earlier) as she deserves us.
I don't know your kid...who is she with???Where is she??? Is she drinking or doing drugs? This all depends.
2006-11-08 14:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughters are in the yard by 9 and in the house by 9:30, no questions asked
On weekends it is 10 and 1030
They know this and live by it because they seem to realize it is for their own good.
2006-11-08 13:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jeep Driver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with us again. I really thought you had slapped her w/your hand. Might of crossed your mind huh?
No Mom, the whole idea is to follow the rules and if you don't then pay the price. 10 o clock is not too early and believe me when she gets her privilege back then she will appreciate it if not then I would say 9 o clock is in store. Don't you just love them?
2006-11-08 13:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*We all live our lives around boundaries. It's kinda the way we discipline ourselves. No rule-No boundary. Setting a curfew is a boundary-If you say that curfew is 10:00pm then it should be. She has plenty of time when she gets older to decide whether she is going to stay out late or not.But she's under your control right now and she needs to respect your decision.*
2006-11-08 13:56:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋