i just found out the guy i like likes my BEST FRIEND she doesnt like him and now i feel like crap should i cant just forget about him and i dont know what to do :((((
2006-11-08 13:33:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IS THIS WORTH IT ???
IF NOT THEN MOVE ON !!!
THERE ARE ALOT OF FISH IN THE SEA !!!
YOU'LL GET OVER HIM !!!
P.S.~ KEEP THE "BEST FRIEND " !!!
2006-11-08 13:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I hate to say it, you are going to have to forget about him. Thing is, even if he were to get with you, he would be "settling" in his mind; he truly wanted her, but ended up with you. This can result in all kinds of bad stuff, but most importantly, having less respect for you then he would someone he crushed on and actually got. Is it really worth feeling like second best the whole time? Trust me--it is not a good idea to pursue him.
Hope this helps :(
2006-11-08 13:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl, i know it's hard. And it's going to hurt, but he can't help who he likes. Who knows, maybe he hasn't noticed the real you. Just stay friends with him, you never know what could develop. And the fact that your friend doesn't like him back works to your advantage. At least you don't have to see them two together, even if you did you would want the best for your best friend.
Just let things take their course, if it's meant to be it will happen for you. Just hang out with your buddy to keep your mind occupied, and remember not to talk her ears off about him. She is there for you, but remember she has to listen every time you mention him.
2006-11-08 13:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by hotchicka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he feels about you. If he says he doesn't like you, like that then the best thing to do is try to move on at least once you know one way or the other it should make you feel a little better. If your best friend doesn't like him then you don't have to worry about them being together.
2006-11-08 13:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel anyway. if anything else maybe you can be friends, who knows what could happen. but stay grounded even if it hurts. fantasies of what you want to happen can turn obsessive, all though it feels real and really hurts. doesn't suk, it's always everyone else that gets the ones you want. are you sure your best friend really does not like him, or is seeing him behind your back, maybe not to be mean, but not to hurt your feelings. Have you noticed any changes with your best friend? good luch to you hun
2006-11-08 13:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by m6bonster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenna,
If you really like him, tell him! All he can do is tell you he isn't interested and then you just move on and know you gave it a shot instead of always wondering "What if?" I hope you get the response from him you want! Also remember that sometimes unanswered prayers are a blessing in disguise!
2006-11-08 13:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mismom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had that happen to me before where the guy would like me and not my best friend, friends are more important though not some guy that comes and goes. You can find somebody else.
2006-11-08 13:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by sweetness 24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try as hard as you can not to show that emotion around him...surround your self with other guys and hang out with them make new guy friends and you just might happen to move on...plus you dont want to be this guys back up girl ....especially since he wanted your friend...plus make him notice you then turn him down once you found someone else it will make you feel better
2006-11-08 13:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him, nicely, calmly, because one day he may want YOU and maybe you will want him..
but if you say you hate him..you can not take back those words..
so tell him what you know or just tell him we need space and need to separate....and stay friends...people can not help what happens in their hearts or really inside their minds when it comes to LOVE..so do not punish either of them including yourself...things happen...
of course if you can stay with him and let it all go by like it never happened..and have your friend tell him she does not like him and never will..that is a hard thing to do...
there are many other nice guys out there..
good luck
smile
2006-11-08 13:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks!!!!! There is not much you can do you really can not pursue him now because you were not his first chioce. do you really want that in the back of your mind? I would just move on it is not like you love him or anything you just like him. Hell people like people all the time so just keep looking it is not as bad as you think, it could have been your sister or something. or your mom so buck up and keep looking
2006-11-08 13:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened to me recently, 'cept my best friend did like her. So yeah, I just read the Bible, try to find happy things. But of course you can't just expect the feelings you have for them to just, dissapear. They either have to stay or slowly drain out. Yeah its hard, you just have to go on living.
2006-11-08 13:37:33 · answer #11 · answered by Sam-Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋