ever since ive been dating my bf, they have been so spiteful. They just simply don't like him, Through my eyes and others, there is nothing wrong with him. I am sick of breaking up with guys to just please my parents. I love him and thats that.
anyway, they are purposely ignoring me or are just plain nasty. My mom for example, when my mom just sees me, she gives me a nasty look or huffs and puffs in a nasty way. Today, when i tried to talk to her and said i love you and hugged her, she physically pushed me off her and said "yeah" in an annoyed voice. We used to watch a specific tv show-the one thing we used to do together -and now she saying she dosn't want to watch it with me. Its so uncomfortable and i can't just tell them how i feel because they refuse to listen to me and my mom stated several times she dosn't care about my feelings.This is all because they are not getting their way in that i am dating the man i love. Is it me or are they being childish themselves? too strict
2006-11-08 12:54:09 · 9 answers · asked by hersheybar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im 25 years old. I always obeyed them and respected them. I was never a problem kid
2006-11-08 13:13:37 · update #1
It sound pretty lame to me, particularly if you are an adult. If you are not, then they should just forbid it and call it a day.
I would just go on with your life. Continue to be nice and invite them to do things with you, and if they don't it's really their own problem. Don't be nasty back, because that could cause other problems later on, but don't feel like you have to kiss their butts either.
The only other possibility is that they have some sort of legitimate concern--think about this very hard--what do you think they are worried about? If it's something stupid, like a difference in race or class, it's their problem.
Good luck--maybe they'll come around--just be civil until then. Don't give them any excuse not to come around.
2006-11-08 12:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People act strangely when they don't understand a situation, sometimes. Your parents want what is best for you, and they don't seem to think the man you are dating is the right choice. They do have a right to their own opinion and so you need to respect them for that.
As far as pushing you off when you are trying to display affection, that seems a little strange to me. As a parent, I love my children (and show it), even if I don't agree with their choices. I think that your parents are trying to get over the fact that you are making choices that don't need their approval. This can be hard for parents, sometimes, especially if you are the oldest child (or only child) in your family.
You might try writing your parents a love letter and leave it somewhere, where they can find it when you are not home. This will give them time alone to think about what you are saying. The love letter should be kind and not express any sort of attitude. You can let your parents know that you really want to feel accepted by them, even when you are making your own choices. Remind them that they were allowed to learn their own lessons, and that if dating this man turns out to be the wrong decision, you will learn your lesson the same way they did. Remind your parents that there are no mistakes, only lessons! Let them know that your boyfriend is not a replacement for parental love, just an addition to your roster of fans.
Keep the letter light, but truthful. Let your parents know how much they mean to you and how you miss spending special time with them. They may be experiencing a difficulty in their own lives which you are unaware of.
Good luck and keep your chin up.
2006-11-08 13:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an adult you can date whomever you choose. But, listen just for a moment. While you may think your bf is great, try and understand what it is that they see in him that they do not like.
I wanted to say they were being just parents but when you stated you are 25, they are being a little over the top. But do try and see what they think is wrong with your BF first - then talk to them.
Maybe try staying away for a week to let them cool off - you don't still live at home at 25 do you?
2006-11-08 13:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound like they are being childish the way you describe it, but you don't say how old you are or give any other details. Even if parents are not the best parents in the world they usually care about you and have your best interests at heart. But it does sound pretty uncomfortable and they could probably handle the situation better. However you are not saying how you are acting and I am sure you are not wearing a halo.LOL!!! Good Luck!
2006-11-08 13:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you love him and tell them that you are not going to dump the man you love because they dont like him. It is your life not theirs. Your happiness not theirs. If they want you to be unhappy they arent very good parents. Tell them that you are happy and you love him and thats not going to change for them! And yes they are being extremely childish. Maybe also ask them what it is they dont like about him. And How old are you? Are you their only daughter? Most parents have a hard time when they realise that their "baby girl" isd in love and they could "loose" them soon to this man. Weird i know but thats what they do
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-08 13:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by honey_sweetest_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 13:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Try getting some family counselling! Your "early" Christmas Gift!
2006-11-08 12:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by HAPPY <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being a complete brat. She will have to accept that as you get older you will make your own choices. Explain to her that it is your choice and if it falls to bits you will live with that.
You need to be able to make your own life and your own mistakes. Don't pander to their hissy fits - they are acting like kids, stand your ground.
2006-11-08 13:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hun if you truly love him,just let them know the way they're treating you is not going to change how you feel,let them know you love them,but stand strong for yourself
2006-11-08 12:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋