wut r ur thoughts on abortion? my bf has decided im gettin an abortion...i dont kno if i want to any thoughts?

Question

yesterday i asked a question bout me bein pregnant... im 15...and whether or not i should tell my bro, i live wit him not my parents...my bf told me were not gonna tell anyone and i will jus get an abortion...i have always felt kinda against abortion but i dont wanna fight wit him and i dont wanna lose him....advice? support? something? i dont kno wut to do anymore

Answer 1

My mother was 15 when she had me. I am 40 today! I think that you owe that child all the love it can get in life, and all the things that can be, please, give it up before birth, and keep in your heart, that if it is God's will, you will be reunited. I was reunited with my aunt and uncle on my mother's side, and hugged by grandmother six days later! Please do not abort -adoption is what I hope for. Please keep me informed! If your boyfriend loves you, he will love the life that you give, if not - dump him, and follow my advice.

Answer 2

Abortion is murder period. Are you willing to kill ur own son? tht is something u should ask urself. Talk to ur bf if he is still against it then it will be in ur ball park. I am againt abortions all the way so my view would be to have the baby and stick with it its a human being and its not dead while inside u. I wont give u a lecture but ur bf shouldnt be telling u what to do in the first place... its both of yours son or daughter and the decision should be mutual. If he doesnt want u to have the baby but u do want to have the baby then tell him u are gonna have the baby whether he likes it or not. If he leaves then dont fret there are men out there tht would still love a women even if she had a son/daughter she was raising.

Answer 3

I can tell you this ,in 1979 my GF had an abortion and to this day I think about that baby that could have been everyday. I didn't want her to get it but she did and ,well that's the last child I could of had . My current wife had a miscarriage in 1992 and wasn't able to get pregnant again even with the fertility drugs and I think about that baby lost too everyday. Now I am a Grandpa with 2 lovely grandsons and a granddaughter and I always wonder "What if"? I hope this helps you with your decision and may GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!! If you give birth and decide you can't / don't want it I am sure a loving childless couple will give it a good home. Have you talked to your parent's about your situation? If not, DO SO RIGHT NOW!!!!!!

Answer 4

Its your body, with something as important as that please take your time to think about it. It will be something you regret and never forget if you have an abortion. Its a baby and that is part of you and its a gift from God. So many people can't have babies. Even if you have it and can't raise it, someone else would love him or her. If you have an abortion it will leave scars and depression and hurt your spirit. Please tell your family or someone who you know that will support you through this. There are plenty of places to call for help if you don't want an abortion. Programs to help you continue in school and still have the baby. If you need a place to call, contact me and tell me what state you are in and I will get a number for you. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

sweetheart i am going to be blunt i think that abortion is the worst thing to do. you should ask yourself what is more important this guy whom i might not be with in like 2 yrs or my beliefs in what god thinks.you do know what birth control is right you can get it for free at the health clinic since your only 15 and as long as you are still in school i dont know how the law is where you live but im pretty sure that they wont tell your parents about it. but n e ways you can not get an abortion and help someone else out in the long run like adoption. some women cannot have babies and they would die to have the opportunity to have one and you will even get some money out of it to pay for doctor bills and what not. but seriously think about this abortion is the most cruel thing just think what did this baby ever do to me to deserve this. im sorry but the way i see it you make your bed you sleep in it. so just think whats more important god and my beliefs and the shame that i will carry for the rest of my life or some boy that will probably not be in my life in the next few yrs or even months. THINK ABOUT ABORTION IS WRONG!!!!

Answer 6

If you kill your baby to keep your boyfriend, you will regret it the rest of your life. Statistics show that most relationships break up after an abortion. How are you going to feel when he is gone and your arms are empty? You need to stand up and protect yourself and your baby. If your boyfriend really cares about you, he will stick around and he will support you. It may be that he is feeling scared right now and will come around if given the chance. If not, do you really want to be with someone who cares so little about you that he wants you to put yourself in danger and kill your child?

Please, make sure you have all the facts. Take a look at:

Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Support for Pregnant Teens (highly recommended!):
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Advice on Telling Parents (or your brother) About a Pregnancy:
http://lifehouse.glorifyjesus.com/questions/pregnancy/tellingparents.html

Do the right thing and let your baby live. You will never, ever regret it.

Answer 7

Well it all depends on what you BOTH can decide on. An abortion is more than just "okay lets just get one." It is much more complex then that. This is from my own personal experience with abortion. I wasn't the one to make the decision of whether or not to get one. I was the actual baby who could have been aborted. My birth mother was 15 as well when she got pregnant with me. She could not decide if she was going to abort ME or not. Her boyfriend (my birth dad) tried to convince her to get one, but then she refused. She came to the decision to keep me, have me and give me up for adoption. That was the hardest decision of her life, but she did it for ME. She gave me up for adoption to two wonderful loving parents. Imagine if she chose to have an abortion, I would not be here today. She gave me life and I thank her everyday for it. Because of her, I am here. I was that "thing" that she could have just aborted, but she said absolutely NOT. I am so, soooooo lucky! So when I say there is more to "should I get an abortion or not" you must think about everything that goes along with it. It shouldn't be about losing your boyfriend because what is most important right now is that baby. Do whats right for YOU and your baby. If your boyfriend can't handle it, then he is not man enough to be having sex in the first place. Good luck to you. I hope me sharing my experience has helped you in some sort of way. Please think about the beautiful life you could give your baby, even if it ends up that you must give him/her up for adoption. I am so thankful that my birth mother did that for me. Don't be scared. Think about EVERYTHING before you make a decision. Because that decision can change your life forever!!!

Answer 8

This is under completely different circumstances but I would like to share my personal experience........
When I was 19 I was into Cocaine and did alot of it on a daily basis, one day I went tanning and felt like my insides were literally *frying*, I decided to take a pregnancy test and found out that I was indeed pregnant. I was beside myself b/c of the drug abuse, I cried for about 2 days not knowing what I was to do. On the 3rd day I called a local abortion clinic and scheduled an appt. I went to my appt. and went through the sonogram to find out how far I was, and to my knowledge I was a little over 2mos. They attempted the appt. with major counseling making sure this was exactly what I wanted. No, it wasn't what I wanted, per say, but I did not want to bring a child into this world when I had a horrible addiction. I went through with the surgery, it was the worst thing I have EVER been through, I cried lying on that table, I cried in the post-op room, I cried all the way to my home...I was unable to look at a mother and child for many years to come. It broke my heart to know that b/c I was a drug user for my own selfish reasons, I murdered my own child. I now have a 2yr old son that is my whole life, I quit drugs the day I found out I was pregnant with my first child and I still cry today about him/her that I terminated that would now be 7yrs old. Apparently, God forgave me b/c he blessed me with another chance of raising a child.
My point to this emotional story: Do not abort your child b/c of the situation you are in, you will live with the horror of your actions for the rest of your life. If your b/f does not respect you, your opinion and your unborn child, then you are better off without him. I wish you all the luck in the world!! Remember, never let anyone bring you down........spread your wings and fly!!

Answer 9

How about you 1.) Go to a planned parenthood clinic and ask for someone to talk to. Just because your boyfriend says you have to get an abortion doesn't mean you have to! Talk to someone, get different points of view on this subject, before you make a decision that could haunt you for the rest of your life. Girl, I know it's hard for you to understand now, but please worry less about losing this boyfriend and more about your own body. You're so young, boys will come and go.

I believe abortion is the mother's decision, but it is never the solution or quick fix for someone who was irresponsible enough to have unprotected sex in the first place.

Answer 10

GOD DOES NOT AGREE WITH ABORTION AND NEITHER DO I!!!!!!!!! What will you do if you have it and lose the bf any way?I have known people that have done this and they have nightmares,cry all day ,all night,and regret making this choice!!!!!! This very small person inside of you is alive or how would it grow? Would you be able to love life if your mom killed you?This is you daughter or son if anything nourish the child for 9 months and find a parent to adopt.Please don't have the abortion!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Abortion is murder. It's against what is written in the Bible, what I and many others believe, and obviously what you believe. No boyfriend is worth it. If you really don't want to keep the baby, adoption is always a very good option. There are plenty of people who want to adopt. Some people say that they would never give their baby away. So why would they want to kill him or her?
May God show you what decision to make.