Do any of you have disfellowshipped relatives?

Question

Do the friends in the hall treat you different since your relative was disfellowshipped?

Answer 1

dear favordby, I am deeply sorry for your bad experience. I know we both know that for a person to be disfellowshiped they basically were not repentant. Unlike Christendom, pure worship needs to be clean. However don't lose hope for your relative, many times they realize their course of action was not a wise one. Disfellowshiping is a form of discipline, and Jehovah disciplines those he loves, all of us fall short from time to time. If you feel like the friends at the hall are treating you different I would suggest confronting them about it; I think they need to know how you feel and what you have been going through and how it has effected you. I am sure once you open up to them you will find that they really are and will be there for you. If you want to talk further, you may also email me.

Answer 2

"disfellowshipped", I am assuming means kicked out, shamed, made a mockery of, etc... I bet that sucks !That's a shame that people have to act like that. They are being very judgemental, and that's not right. Don't sweat the small stuff. Evidentally there's not enough going on in their lives, so they have to get in the middle of someone elses. Now, there are reasons for an entire community to not want someone around. (like a sexual predator. ) What was your relative "disfellowshipped" for ?

Answer 3

Faithful Christian family members of expelled individuals need to remember that disfellowshipping is both loving and protective. Every possible effort is made to help the wrongdoer. But if he or she proves to be disobedient to God and is stubbornly unrepentant, the congregation needs to be protected and has no alternative but to act as God’s Word directs: “Remove the wicked man from among yourselves.” (1 Corinthians 5:13) As one Witness said, “disfellowshipping is about loyalty to Jehovah.”

When a family member is disfellowshipped, Christian relatives experience pain. Appointed elders should therefore do their best to help them spiritually. Elders can pray for them and with them. Often it is possible to visit these faithful Ones to discuss upbuilding Scriptural thoughts. Elders should use every opportunity to strengthen these ones spiritually before and after Christian meetings. Additional encouragement can be given by accompanying them in the field ministry. Elders need to show these faithful servants of Jehovah the love and attention they deserve.

The sinful course of a person is no reason to ignore any in his or her family who remain faithful to Jehovah. Israel’s wicked King Saul was rejected by God, but David did not allow this to interfere with his own affection for Saul’s son Jonathan. In fact, the bond between David and Jonathan became very strong. So all in the congregation should be supportive and loving toward Christians whose relatives sin against Jehovah.

Answer 4

sister, they should not treat you different. you have nothing to do with what your relatives do. if the brothers and sisters are doing that they are wrong. maybe you should talk to the elders how you are feeling. remember the elders are here for us. you can still talk to your family but not to spend to much time with them. I hope they come back to Jehovah soon. there had to be a good reason why Jehovah had them disfellowshipped. in churches they let gays and woman who sleep with woman in and they don't care. they don't read the bible and know what Jehovah God wants.

Answer 5

Dear Favored,

I have several jw relatives.
One cousin who WAS a jw for 40 years left 3 years ago.
She was not disfellowshipped, however my jw relatives
refuse to speak to her or have anything to do with her.
When I do speak about her - she is my cousin afterall - I get very venemous glares.

When I send pictures to relatives - jw and non-jw - I don't get replies whenever i include the former jw in the list.

Please take this to heart along with the other questions you've been asking about the manmade religion that you practice.

I am a born-again Christian and I can assure you that the Almighty uncreated Creator wants you to be learning about His grace not about such things as disfellowshipping.

Have you ever read The Father's Love Letter? I'll paste it here and ask you to print it and read it over and over.

The Father's Love Letter - http://www.fathersloveletter.com/.........

The Cry of a Father’s Heart from Genesis to Revelation
Father’s Love Letter

My Child …
You may not know me, but I know everything about you
Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways ……. Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered
Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in my image ……. Genesis 1:21
In me you live and move and have your being ……. Acts 17:28
For you are my offspring ……. Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived …. Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation ……. Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake ……. Psalm 139:15-16
For all your days are written in my book ……. Psalm 139:15-16
I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live ... Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made ……. Psalm 139:14
I knit you together in your mother’s womb ……. Psalm 139:13
And brought you forth on the day you were born ……. Psalm 71:6
I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know me
John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love …1 John 4:18
And it is my desire to lavish my love on you ……. 1 John 3:1
Simply because you are my child and I am your Father
1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever could Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect Father ……. Matthew 5:48
Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand
James 1:17
For I am your provider and I meet all your needs Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with hope
Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love ……. Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore ... Psalm 139:17-18
And I rejoice over you with singing ……. Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you ……. Jeremiah 32:40
For you are my treasured possession ……. Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul
Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things
Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me
Deuteronomy 4:29
Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart
Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires ……. Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine
Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart … Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes
Revelation 21:3-4
And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth
Revelation 21:4
I am your Father and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus
John 17:23
For in Jesus my love for you is revealed ……. John 17:26
He is the exact representation of my being ……. Hebrews 1:3
And He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you ... Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you
1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love
Romans 8:32
If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me
1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from my love again
Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen … Luke 15:7
I have always been Father and will always be Father
Ephesians 3:14-15
My question is … Will you be my child? ……. John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you ……. Luke 15:11-31

… Love Your Dad
Almighty God


Father Heart Communications Written by Barry Adams Copyright 1999

Answer 6

Friends?

Answer 7

What does disfellowshipped mean?

Answer 8

I don't think most people will know what this question is about, which is okay. But for clarification, its about Jehovah's Witnesses, and "disfellowshipping" is the completely insane practice of completely kicking somebody out of not just the church, but their family as well, for disobeying the organization. If it sounds crazy, thats because it IS.

You won't be treated differently unless you make the mistake of disobeying the congregation and having a relationship with your loved one. Be careful, the organization will ruin your life.

I strongly suggest that you get out while you still can. Nobody has the right to tell you not to speak to your family members. Do you genuinely believe thats what God wants? Or is it just a mechanism to control you? If you're scared enough, you'll certainly do what you're told....and part of that, of course, is refusing to even read what I just wrote, because you're told that I'm just an apostate. Really, really scary.

Answer 9

According to the dictionary, this is a British term. I've never heard it before. Are you asking if anyone has been kicked out of the church?

Answer 10

Friend: I will never leave thee nor forsake thee... Grace
Enmity: I will forsake you, the city, your fathers... Law
Christ is our peace who abolished the enmity(law): Eph 2.

God in heaven, higher than the heavens... Grace
God on high, in the plural divided heavens... Law
It's notably a "fall" to fall for and unto God on high.
(Hebrews 10:31; Galatians 5:4 tells from where)

BTW, don't ppl recovering from getting "high"
(to the point of harming themselves & others)
afterward speak of a grace us "higher" power.
http://www.godshew.org/HowbeitAfterward.htm

The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ WITH YOU ALL. AMEN.