Best way to handle ex girlfriend and be nice?

Question

Ex broke up with me via email a month ago. She is in therapy because her dad died 4 months ago and has low selfesteem. She said "don't hate me" and "I am sorry because I think we had really good potential, but the timing of us sucked because of her" She said she hoped we could be friends. I told her that I understood, but to be a friend with no hidden intentions, I needed time to get over her because I really cared for her and did not want to do anything weird. So a week ago I emailed her to apologize for any discomfort I may have caused in her life. I told her that I was just trying to be nice and be there for her. We never argued. I still care about her, but its hard getting to that "just friends" level. I sent her a txt 2day saying I hope she had a good day. She did not reply to my email or txt, so I am wondering if I should keep in touch, or let her make, if any, the next contact. Her Bday and holidays are coming up soon, I dont want 2 b rude I do care but situtation is difficult..

Answer 1

There's only so much you can do when somebody's working through problems. Don't take it like I'm being flippant, or rude or whatever, but she knows how to get in touch with you and if she wanted to, she would. But sometimes, when you have personal sh!t to deal with, it's just too much trouble to maintain relationships. It's no criticism of you--it's just that she needs time to deal with her own stuff and that might not leave any time for you.

It sucks, but I'd say, just leave her alone. Get her a card or whatever, "thinking of you," nothing that'll make her feel obligated. If you're the right person at the wrong time...you'll just have to wait until the right time. And then she still might not be ready for you. But sometimes, relationships just don't work for a while (and sometimes they never quite work) and time is all that can smooth things over.

Meanwhile, if you truly want to be friends with her...try to move on. If you want to be romantic with her...try to move on. If you want to forget her...you know what I'm going to say. Just move on. You don't need to feel bad about this not working out, and you have no obligation to take care of somebody who has too much baggage to deal with. Why deal with complications when you could be happy with somebody new? I mean, there's only so much you can care about people before you just say, OK, I gotta go now. And remember--she just might feel guilty if she thinks you're not moving on because you feel sorry for her or you're hurt.

So buck up, buckaroo! Show her she's not the last person you'll ever care about. Sounds cheezy, but it's true: "if you love somebody, let her go. If she comes back to you, she's yours forever. If she doesn't come back, she was never yours."

They put it on posters because it's true!

Answer 2

O.K. initially, I can see that you just had been fairly into her :) Just considering you allow her recognize your emotions does not imply you are vulnerable. If you fairly wish matters to see, in any dating, there demands to be Honest emotions. Talk to her! Can you inform if she's mendacity? You do not wish to get harm once more. Maybe gambling difficult to get would aid... I'm sorry if this did not aid. Best Wishes to you :) desire the whole lot works out for you, even though it possibly time to transport on.