I'm miserable right now. What should I do to get my weak and wishy-washy bf,who wouldn't talk to me back?

Question

My bf and I are long-distance.We've been having problems lately. 3 months ago he broke up with me. He's afraid of confrontation, he wouldn't even talk to me. So i flew up there, we went back together. About 10 days after I came back, we broke up again b/c he ingores my calls sometimes and i got annoyed(although sometimes i called too much). 2 weeks after that i went up there again, he didnt even show up at the airport to pick me up. Our mutual friend Mike picked me up and i stayed at his apt. I didnt do anything to try to get him back b/c i was too heartbroken by what he did. But the 2nd night he came over to mike's place and asked to start over with me. Now it's 3 weeks after that and we broke up again.Same reason.He sometimes ignores my calls(i called a lot less though) and i got annoyed. And now i'm miserable b/c i really wanna work it out with him.So what should I do? fly up there again?b/c it worked everytime and b/c he wouldn't even talk to me. That's the only way to get him talk

Answer 1

The true definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting differant results. If you have to chase your man down everytime and the same thing happens again, you are either insane or weak. I would recommend you forget about him and work on yourself. You need to get to the point where you don't need some loser hangning on and using you to make yourself feel like a woman. When you are confidant and have self respect you will be a much more attractive person to a man that will truly love you and not play these stupid boy games.

Answer 2

It like a yo yo and you keep running after a ghost that not even around to be found sound like to me he has moved on but every time you come up there he feels guilty so he says lets try again but no good stop wasting your money over a make believe relationship that not going anywhere move on so your wounds can heal good luck

Answer 3

why not let him come to you? have you ever thought about the fact that he only goes back out with you when you are there is to shut you up? leave the poor guy alone. if he wants to be with you then let him come to you. if you don't hear from him then you have your answer, stop hopping on a plane and talking him into going back out with you. please tell me that you are not really this desperate? you put him on the spot when you go there so he says yes he wants to go back out with you so that you will leave him alone and go home. take the hint!!

Answer 4

IMVHO you broke up too many times in the last 3 months
dont fly up there anymore,,,,heck is he paying your fare to go there or what?
save ur money and get him to fly down to you..if he dont do that, then you know where you stand.

if you dont fly up, he wont talk....heck girl, pick up the phone and its far cheaper! :)

Answer 5

he doesn't want to be with you. take the hint. he avoids your phone calls. he keeps breaking up with you. he didn't even come to pick you up at the airport. these are a non-confrontational person's way of telling you that he doesn't want to be with you.

Answer 6

dump him, kick him to the curb