Ok I know that younger children usually do that but his mom is getting married next June to a wonderful guy she met at her work. I met him too and I APPROVE! Shes only 29 and she's really gorgous, do the math he's only 13. He's my boyfriend and he's really HOT (like his mom). I was thinking I could wear a lavender dress and he could wear a matching lavender tux with short pants cause his legs are soooo sexy and he should show the world what a cute boy he is. Anyway is that really too lame for 13 year olds?
2006-11-08
12:18:12
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Ok Im sorrrrry if i said things people didnt like. Yes its her wedding and she gets to choose the colors and the theme. Yes! its probably not a good idea to put a boy in lavender. I like lavender but not just lavender other colors too. Yes, it not a good idea to put a boy in shorts, specially one who has been called gay in the past (hes NOT I promise you). I got the idea from books I read. I like romantic novels, [poetry, classic books; I'm reading LIttle Men by Louisa May Alcott now, its super). There are some pics of the boys in the novel that's where I got the idea for him to be in shorts, NOT like shorts to just hang around in. Note Im stuck to him cant see any other male in my future now or EVER. OK no lavender for him, no shorts for him, and YES I'm going to ask his mom NICELY! if he and I can be a jr bridesmaid or groomsman or like I think would be really cute a flower girl and ring bearer in matching outfits but something that would not embarrese him. OK everyone?
2006-11-09
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Becky, may I give you an advice? Though I might be wrong, as I don't live in US and I don't really know all your customs... I read the additional details you posted. You wrote there you would ask his mother nicely. I don't think you should ask her at all, I think it is up to her to ask anything if she wants to. Of course, if she starts such a conversation, you can tell her your suggestions, but I don't think you should start or ask anything, because if she had some other plans, you could create an uncomfortable situation for her and maybe for you, too. Anyway, I think your support to that lady is very nice and I believe THAT is the thing you should talk to her about. I am sure she would be glad to hear it. So, give her support and tell her (if you haven't done such a thing already) how happy and exciting you are because of her wedding. Besides, she might mention something about your role at her wedding at that occasion :)
P.S. Don't be surprised or disappointed if she doesn't mention anything at all, there is still plenty of time until June and she obviously doesn't rush, which is actually a wise thing to do. Be patient, you will come to this sooner or later :)
2006-11-09 14:38:25
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answered by Venus 3
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General concenses has the boy not wearing lavendar or shorts, having you and the young stud called junior bridesmaid and junior groomsman, and some serious advise not to try to inject your intentions in his mom's wedding.
Best advise is to suggest to his mom that you and her son would be willing to be part of the wedding. After the wedding, you and your boyfriend can dance up a storm at the reception and have all the old people tell you how cute you two looked in the ceremony. Then, later, if you and your boyfriend can find a private place away from all the people at the reception, you could compare notes on how many dances you had to do with the old people and how many kisses you had to give because they complimented on how cute you two were together. And then, if you are really serious about seeing your 13 year old boyfriend in lavendar, surprise him with a gift he won't be able to refuse, a pair of lavendar silk boxers and the offer to help him put them on. And don't forget the 3-pack of Trojans.
2006-11-09 15:43:01
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answered by christrivan 2
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First of all, NO 13 year old boy is going to want to wear lavender. EVER.
Second, you're TOO OLD! If you want to be in the wedding, you need to be jr. bridesmaid/jr. groomsman.
Third, it's highly inappropriate for ANYONE to wear SHORTS to a wedding. I don't care how cute YOU think his legs are.
Besides, isn't this his MOM'S wedding? What right do YOU have to plan ANY of this? This is HER special day. All of the plans are up to HER. Do you even know if SHE LIKES LAVENDER? Because let me tell you something, honey, a lot of people DON'T, even if it is YOUR favorite color. Save the lavender for YOUR wedding if you love it that much.
You can ask to be in the wedding, but you also need to consider the fact that you're ONLY 13 years old, and tomorrow you may meet some boy that you think is hotter. By the time his mom gets married in June, you may have moved on to a new guy. And then it's gonna be pretty weird for you to be in his mom's wedding, now isn't it?
You can report me if you want, because I KNOW you're going to think that I'm being mean and unfair. But everything I've said is the truth. And the truth hurts sometimes. And life is NEVER fair.
2006-11-08 12:54:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Why make a 13 year old TEEN wear something that was worn by you (a female) years back? I'm sorry but the idea of the outfit sounds ridiculous. It sounds like a really bad joke. If you want a flower boy and he's willing to do it, then go ahead but keep him in a nice suit that will not embarrass him in the years to come.
2016-05-21 23:07:19
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answered by Anonymous
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I would say if your choice for ring bearer and flower girl are over 5...then do not have ring bearer and flower girl. Have a jr bride and a jr groom. They are pretty much the same thing...except they dress like the Bride/groom and walk down together instead of seperately.
No offense, but the short pants thing will scar him for life. Just do a regular pants.
2006-11-08 12:26:15
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answered by Anonymous
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Okay. I am 27 and getting married in April. I am having my 12 year old cousin be the flower girl and asked her 12 year old twin brother to be ring bearer but he doesn't want to because its only an adult only wedding. i don't' see a problem at all but do not make him wear shorts. i would just have him rent a black tux like the groom and you'll be fine. And enjoy yourself though its her day you and he can act like its yours!
2006-11-08 23:07:22
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answered by catdogpenny 3
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I think it is a WONDERFUL idea. This way, they are both old enough to walk by themselves and will look so cute together. I had 2 and 3 year olds for mine, they were cute at first, but when the flower girl threw her basket down in the middle of the isle, and started screaming, I didn't think that was cute at all. I think you made a wise decision and will never regret it! Good Luck!
2006-11-08 12:22:31
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answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3
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My flower girl was 13. All it really meant was the she wore a different style dress than the bridesmaids and carried a basket of flowers instead of a bouquet.
2006-11-09 12:54:31
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answered by Ali D 4
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13 is techincally a little old - by that age, you would generally have them as junior bridesmaid/ring bearers. Of course - there is no set rule saying you can't have 13 year old flower girl/ring bearers. My flower girl was my 11 year old baby sister, and while it looked a little different, it was important to me to have her there.
2006-11-08 13:49:22
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answered by Chrys 4
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Yeah Kinda,
But he could give his mom away, thats super Hot and Kewl
You could just be a Brides maid and walk solo
Behind them.
You would stand out and its still respectfull
Suggest this to his mom and see what she says.
After all its NOT your Day its Her Day
Its all up to her.
So please try not to make Chaos, hust do things her way and let her have all the Ideas, and agree with all of her choices.
That will make her love you and make her happy
and seeing her happy and loving you will make your boyfriend
Happy.
And that will deffinately make you happy
2006-11-08 12:25:41
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answered by Anonymous
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