I have a boyfriend, Ive been with him about a year, but we didnt make it official until 3mths ago, recently he got put in jail for about six weeks...All his family and so called friends started taking his money and belongings so I volenteered to help him stay current with all his bills,and told him I was going to wait for him. I wrote him 6 letters and only recieved 2 from him... He just got out last night, and came to stay with me, when I got home from work, he had left all his letters, paperwork from jail on my table, I looked through them and found many letters written to him by other females, telling him they love him miss him, my heart fell, What should I do? What should I say? Im in love with him and damn I never did this guy wrong, I never stoled from him cheated or lied to him and when I see these other letters It makes me sad. How should confront him, what should I say?
2006-11-08 12:01:22 · 3 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im sorry but I havent used my money to keep him current he gives the money to me from jail, He cutts hair in there and hes pretty wealthy I just dont want to get played on, with other females and he didnt purpously leave them there, I looked through his **** and found them, Hes a good man, but I just am tired of getting cheated on!
2006-11-08 12:14:28 · update #1
I AM SOOOOO........... SORRY BUT THIS GUY WAS DISHONEST WITH YOU !!!
I WOULD HAVE A CLEAR STRAIGHT FORWARD TALK WITH HIM ABOUT WHAT YOU DISCOVERED.
HAVE THE EVIDENCE TO BACK YOU UP !!!
(MAKE SURE TO MAKE PHOTO COPIES OF THE DOCUMENTS IN CASE HE TRIES TO TAKE THEM AWAY FROM YOU OR DESTROY THEM).
IF I WERE YOU I WOULD DUMP HIM !!!
I WOULD HAVE LOST ALL TRUST IN HIM !!!
WHICH IS THE FOUNDATION OF A RELATIONSHIP !!!
OH !!! ALSO HAVE HIM PAY YOU BACK FOR THE BILLS YOU PAID ON HIS BEHALF !!!
IF HE REFUSES TO REIMBURSE YOU; SUE HIM IN SMALL CLAIMS COURT !!!
LOTS OF LUCK TO YOU !!!
2006-11-08 12:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not confront him just leave him for heaven sakes the man's been in Jail not to mention used you .They want to make you feel like a doormat like you can't live with out them They want to CONTROL YOU! If You let him you are telling him its ok to abuse you.These letters were left out on purpose to mess with you so he can show you you are nothing he is everything.I can cheat and get away with everything.
Honey be smart make a plan and leave don't say a word.
2006-11-08 20:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by dianehaggart 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
been there done that and I'm in debt about 22 grand. Leave before he really screws u.
2006-11-08 20:10:35 · answer #3 · answered by jessi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋