I meet my boyfriend 3 years ago at work. He is a sweet heart, at first we where great friends, when on trips together and always had a great respect for each other. Reason why he had a girflfriend and I had boyfriend. 4 months i ended my realtionship with my ex for 4 years, he was just a jerk always cheated on me. In his case his girlfriends got engaged to another guy, wow! I know. So we where both lonely and decided to give it a try. to our surprice we got along great and we have been together for 2 months. I am got a new job near his house and i am moving in. They are difference things between us; age he is 7 years older than me, I am hispanic he is asian. I know he's great but is it to soon? this is my first time moving in with a guy at age 24. My new job pay's more and is 10 min. away from his house. what should I do?
2006-11-08 11:44:58 · 5 answers · asked by Tati 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In most relationships in which the couple lived togeather before they got married, they eather dont get married or they get a divorce. Get married before you move in togeather.
2006-11-08 11:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have known each other for a long time, living together is a HUGE step in a relationship.
You may want to just try staying over at his place once and a while and seeing how that works. The relationship may be working fine right now because you two have space away from each other (absence makes the heart grow fonder). If you jump into moving in together too soon, it could sabotage the relationship.
2006-11-08 11:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by M.A.X. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you guys should wait. true you guys have known each other for a good amount of time, but y ou guys really need to see what its like to be a couple. once you move in youre basically taking on the role of being married, its no longer what you want or how u want things done but more like how you both want things. i just think that you need time to be a couple and be able to take in and enjoy that time, no need to jump into assuming the position of the married couple. and its true all the friends that ive had that have been in long relationships and have moved in with their boyfriends have yet to get married. for some reason the men wont really commit, they dont really see the reason to get engaged or get married when they already have it all. youre already theirs and ur already there, ur not going anywhere. newho thats just my opinion sorry for the essay! hope i helped!
2006-11-08 11:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should give it more time. This is a big deal. You will find out more of the truth (of how the relationship really is on the inside) if you don't move in now, but wait until you can honestly say that your heart is sure that it is OK to do. Good things do take time.
2006-11-08 11:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't live together until you're married, otherwise he's not going to make any commitment to you at all. Get your own apartment.
2006-11-08 11:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋