I need help with encouraging my mother in law on her diet....?

Question

My mother-in-law went on the Nutrisystem diet about 2 1/2 months ago. She has dropped close to 2 sizes (around 20-25 pounds). She is an obese woman. Her problem, no one encourages her to continue the diet except me. I need more encouraging words for her since I haven't actually seen her. I live 1200 miles away and call her everyday to see how she is doing on it and am there for her. I bought her Richard Simmons videos (she LOVES the videos) and she just started to do those a week ago. She is at a plateau right now and is getting discouraged. Talked to my father in law tonight and BEGGED him to say something encouraging to her (he's not the mushy type and claims she is too large to notice a difference of 20 something pounds). Anyway, he promised he would say something encouragin to her, but I need to know the best way I can help her. I have tried explaining the plateau to her and adding excercise, but I want so bad for her to succeed. Help me help her!

Answer 1

FOR SHAME on your father in law! Doesn't he know that by not encouraging her, that he is actually DISCOURAGING her and sabotaging her ability to reach her goals? He doesn't need to be "mushy" just to say, "I'm glad to know you're happy about the progress you've been making". SHEESH!

So, I'm gonna recommend that you go to the store and pick up a whole bunch of greeting cards. They don't need to be expensive, and they don't need to necessarily have wording that's related to the weight loss. Just cards that let her know you're thinking about her. Send one off to her every two or three days...If you need to, address all of them in advance so that you can just drop them in the mailbox. But if you have time, include a note inside each one, letting her know that you're proud of the fact that she's working out...or that she lost one more pound. Don't forget to remind her that the weight she has already lost is a great accomplishment, and that she doesn't want all of her efforts to be in vain.

Also, maybe your father-in-law can recommend a neighbor or someone from their church who might be interested in taking a walk with your mother-in-law once a week, or something. Alternately, does she use the computer? She might enjoy spending some time in the chat room on Richard Simmons' site...she might even find someone in her area who has had success, or needs a work-out cohort.

I'm proud of you for being so concerned. You can also let your MIL know that I'm proud of her for doing so well!!!

Answer 2

Look encourgement means alot when you are dieting. Check out a program name T.O.P.S. That stands for Taking Pounds Off Sensibly. They are a support group for dieters and they are a great group for encourgement. They have lots of incentaves for losing weight and it is $ 24.00 a year. You can find them on the internet to find a local chapter. Your are weighed each meeting, if you gained it is 10 cents a pound. The largest loser wins the money. Plus they give charms and a bracelet for lots of things like first 10 pounds and bringing a guest that signs up and etc. I have been a member and it is a fine organization. Great way to maintain weight loss and good for esteem plus lots of friends.

Answer 3

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