He doesn't call me and do anything with me except on one of our days off. I am talking about once a week. We go out movies, sometimes dinner and stay over his place for a night. It's been like this for 6 months on and off. What am i to him? Should I leave him? Why he doesn't want to spend more time with me? Is it all about sex? But he told me he loves me.... I am very confussed. Help!
2006-11-08 11:43:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This doesn't really seem like a relationship to me.
The guys like using you!
I'm sorry, but leave him.
Unless you love him more than you love life.
I have a feeling hes going to end up breaking your heart.
Goodluck!
2006-11-08 11:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by MOVED! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if he told you he loves you it might be so he can get into your pants. You are curious in what you see each others as. It is possible that you are nothing more to him than an easy catch . He cant love you if he hardly sees you and he wines and dines you to soften you up. I know that sounds harsh but its the truth. Especially if you only see him once a week in which case he might have a life (and even another woman) of his own. You asked what are you to him when the real question is what is he to you? Do you see him as some guy you sleep with and see movies with? Or do you see him as a friend with benefits? Or as a lover? How is your communication with one another? Are your conversations meaningful, or is it small talk with a routine that usually leads to sex? When you can answer those questions then you can make a decision on what he is to you and decide what is the best route to go.
2006-11-08 19:59:46 · answer #2 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really are at a dilemma... If he takes u out at least that shows u he cares enough to spend a little time with u. It might be about sex u never know. All i will say into this personal matter is that ask him if he would take 2 days off of work and just have quality time together... if u want to, avoid the sex during those 2 days if u consider it a problem.
2006-11-08 19:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Epidemic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yap,,, he gets what he wants,,,, once a week dinner and a sleep over,,,,,, that's all it is and going to be,,,, cut out the sex and he won't ever call you,,,,,, HUmmmmm maybe a good idea,,, We are all to eager to bring sex into the relationship all it does is clouds the emotions,,, mainly in the female population , Females figure if a guy sleeps with them he loves them,,,, NOPE,,,, he is in lust,,,, next relationship tell the guy you don't plan on sleeping with him for at least 6 months better yet till married,,,, if he stays around then he is interested in you if not he wanted only one thing and your better off not waisting your time,,,,, Not all guys are jerks just stop looking for what you want and seek what you need,,,, you will be much happier,,,,
2006-11-08 19:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't tell you what is going on. Perhaps try sitting down with your boyfriend and talk about the expectations of the relationship. Maybe what you want from it is completely different than what he wants from it, and in that case it needs discussed. Also, have you told him that you want to spend more time together? communication is key! if you can't communicate and work things out you may wanna consider breaking up!
hope it helped!
2006-11-08 19:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by loodoogal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, not us. We can only guess as to where this is heading. Nothing heavy, just a chat to see whats up with him in his world and life. If What he wants is ok by the 2 of you, then continue. But you have to make the move and see where its going and go from there.
2006-11-08 19:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question with the phrase "stay over at his place for the night". Stop having sex with him to see if he really likes you for you, or for just sex.
2006-11-08 19:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy doesn't call you or want to spend as much as one week day with you...I think you should let it go...or if you really (love him) or care about him...I think you should sit down with him and talk to him about it (whichever way you are comfortable talking to him) just talk to him about it and see what the deal is...that's what I think..but good luck to you ... just listen to heart to find out what is best
2006-11-08 19:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by <3 Brandons baby 4 lyfe <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, honey! Hello?? Your not in this relationship by yourself, are you? Tell him that you know your busy but he seriously needs to make more time for you! When a guy is madly in love with a female, he will do anything and everything in his power to see her, talk to her, touch her, etc. even if it's an inconvenience to him...
2006-11-08 19:48:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He COULD be busy with work n all. But if thats not the case and he dosent like spending time with you then thats not love.
2006-11-08 19:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by emi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋