2006-11-08 11:32:18 · 24 answers · asked by noddy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
you need a shrink boy -- and in quick order!
2006-11-08 11:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who is suffering as a result of this is you.
Letting it go is best for you psychologically as well as affirming you as an intelligent, rational human being who can be proud of his/herself.
However, you haven't said how they 'peed you off' and sometimes forgiveness can be hard if the offence was great.
I accidentally (thought I was doing the right thing - long story) upset my neighbours 3 years ago and they still don't speak to me. It's such a shame - I wish they would look at themselves and realise that life's too short to hold a grudge.
Good luck and take care.
2006-11-10 19:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Hilary Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice get a punchbag and picture whoever it is and Beat the punch bag as hard as you can. It IS him/her and you can behave however you like. Release the anger! You might find doing it once enough! Then you just let it go! Forgive Forget or just put it aside.
That was a recommendation given to someone with a serious problem It is helping them!
Me I just go into an empty room and RANT in private. It saves a lot of arguements! In anger we all say and do things we regret afterwards!
Release the Anger and exercise you get from doing it will actually release endorthins into your blood-stream Making you feel better! Its why people get addicted to exersise routines!
Good Luck!
2006-11-08 21:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by willowGSD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel very bad for you. The fact that you've let four years elapse without doing anything more than hold your bitterness is very saddening. The wrong thing to do might be to confront that person or take your revenge, but maybe not depending on what it is you do. The right thing to do is to let it go, and move on. However, the worst thing for you to do, is to do nothing but continue to endure the bitterness in your heart for another 4 years or more. I wish you luck and peace. Peace of mind that is.
2006-11-08 19:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by cubnpack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in this world there are many who would turn the other cheek. obviously they have never been wronged. it rips your heart out, and stamps on it..you dont ever forget pain like that.
and as the klingons say. revenge is a dish best served cold and eat with relish... what goes around and all that. and ive carried that aroudn for 20 years... and i'm a patient person.
this doesnt consume me, or order my life, its just a part of it, something that happened, something that after 20 years it festers fresh in my mind... but its not like i make voodoo dolls... or boil their bunny... but i doubt as if i'll ever let it go, or forgive them... and i sleep soundly at night knowing theyve got it coming, not today, nor tommorow, it may not even be me who does it..but its going to happen...and youll know the hurt you caused me..
2006-11-08 19:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a few deep breaths, pick yourself up, dust yourself down and walk away from that time in your life, the best thing you can do is forget about it, the person who did that to you will have done, the only difference between you both now is he is getting on with his life and your not, your sat fretting and worrying about how you can get your own back, honestly what is the point, it will only make you as shallow and selfish as the person who hurt you, a bit of advice, write it all down on paper, take it somewhere safe, set it on fire and watch is fade, its done, its gone, move on.
2006-11-09 05:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a hell of a long time, but i suppose it all depends what they did, it must be something big so waiting 4 years will give you that all important element of surprise and they shouldn't really suspect it is you as it has been 4 years and why would you bother after 4 years
2006-11-09 08:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by jojitsui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very general question.
I would sit down, think of particular events/ideas which you may be able to back up, then contact a lawyer - by far the best way to uck someone over.........Failing go more direct, which i'm sure you dont need my advice to do!
2006-11-08 19:43:36 · answer #8 · answered by huvgj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a super long time to be bitter. Forgive them. You will feel much better. You are letting them hold power over you - once you let that feeling go - you will see that they no longer hold any power over you. Perhaps they don't even realize they hurt you. You've got to move on and leave it behind.
2006-11-08 19:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let it eat at you like this. You are better than that. Let it go. You are more important than they are and so you can move on and let them suffer their own feelings of how nasty they were to you. They will destroy themselves, you don't have to do it for them; okay!
Happy life xxx
2006-11-10 15:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the idiot who is stalking me.
Get a life and move on.
Or maybe THEY will visit YOU.
Could you cope with that?
Well could you?
jeeeezzzzeeeee
2006-11-08 19:45:19 · answer #11 · answered by greyfoxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋