is there a non-idiotic way of dealing with rage? i am filled with rage?

Question

dont say any of the following or anything basic or simple or stupid that most of you will anyhow. dont say:

see a shrink
count to 10
excersize

those arent necesarily bad answers but they are obvious so why would i need you to tell me that? for instance, if you dont know what youre talking about...which you dont. then dont answer. if you do then you should be able to give a more insightful answer.

one other obvious one that 5 of you have probably answered with by now, dont say take meds.

i dont know exactly what is filling me with rage.

part of it is genetic... we all have tempers. we all like to fight.

part of it i think comes from my ex. i was in love with her and then she killed the only thing that i ever loved..her. that has made me very angry because its like the biggest part of myself has died.

part of it is my new job. im working as a truck driver and i want to kick my dispatchers ***. he is giving me shitt-o time frames to deliver my loads and im getting very stressed because of that.

thanks for all your answers btw. except the first one. i do know a lot of the answers woman, and thats why i get so frustrated with people.

second answer was good also... get laid. believe me id like to.

dave and hotdog... you two are exactly the type of idiots that frustrate me so much.

dave...you are doing a fantastic job of representing "jezuz" by uttering an insult with your very first breath.

this isnt a contest of intelligence or maturity. i was just hoping that i could sort through crap answers like yours to find one or two decent thoughtful answers.

rkilburn: lol who would have thought i would have had so much in common with a 63 year ld lady. im a 5'11" 24 year old male but you know it actually makes me feel a lot better just knowing that you understand what i am talking about. lol i think me and you could be friends.

rkilburn: i will keep the pills thing in mind. i think having a friend like you in my physical life would make things much better than talking to a doctor. but i will keep the pills thing in mind.

Answer 1

Rage, yes...I deal with it constantly. My family has an 'anger' history as well. Although, I think for me it's more a learned behavior than genetic.

I don't know what to do either! I've resorted to a lot of 'idiotic' methods, like cutting myself, punching walls, screaming and yelling at people. I think the best thing I've ever found for it is to write. I write down all my frustrations in a journal. I tell everyone from my best friend to that stupid kid that cut me off in the hall to **** OFF! hehe...sorry but we are talking about rage here.

I also watched a movie once where these really angry people were taking paint cans to a wall and throwing the paint on the wall and screaming. It seemed wonderfully fun, but I have no walls to throw paint at, and I doubt you do either. Hehe...but I guess we could get creative and use something other than a wall. If you've ever been artistically inclined (or even if not, why not try it?) you might throw paint outside at a canvas or posterboard. Wow. I should try that, even if you don't like it.

Sometimes singing at the top of my lungs does something, but then other times I've gotten angrier by expressing myself verbally. Did you say you were a trucker ( I write off memory alone)? Sing in the truck. If you are uncomfortable with singing, like so many people seem to be, you may even start laughing at yourself. I laugh at myself a lot. Usually maliciously.

I vent to my friend a lot. I think having someone to talk to is very important, whether it's a 'shrink' or just someone you can trust. After all, isn't talking to a shrink almost like paying to have a best friend, but the best friend rarely plays their part. I hate shrinks by the way...I refuse to go to one, especially if someone else is telling me I should because I'm 'sick'. So, I can relate to your frustration with the answers on here.

I think I'm releasing pent up anger just by writing this drabble. Sorry, I used you. Maybe you can relate, though. To some degree.

Oh, speaking of suicide: I had a very suicidal girlfriend. I don't know whether she's went through with it or not. I broke up with her, and haven't heard from since. It wasn't a long relationship, but one of those really intense stupid ones. She didn't help with my own suicidal thoughts much.

I'm sorry you had to read all this junk. I tend to give very lengthy answers if I'm at all interested in what the person's asked. I don't even know if I helped. I wish I could come up with better answers than the ones I gave. Whatever you do, though, it's not really a good idea to keep things inside for too long. Let your anger out somewhere, but channel it. Focus it on something productive. I don't know exactly what your interests are. I'm more of an artsy type myself, but I'm sure you could find some way to focus this intense energy no matter what it is you enjoy doing.

Answer 2

I wish I could help you as I do understand what rage you are talking about to the point I was putting my own life in danger I am 63 4'10" and a woman and yet I would think nothing of flying across a parking lot and try to punch out a driver that drove to close to me. I too do not know why, it also runs in my family, and yes I do have to take meds as I had my gran daughter with me and flew into a rage and scared the poor child half to death.but for 30 or more years I walked around in KILL mode. And yes I did the doctor route and it didn't work but 2 little pills a day and I am a totally new person, yes I still get angry, but no more rages, and I can live with that

Answer 3

If you have all the answers, than why ask?

The truth is, it's hard for anyone to know what to tell you about dealing with your rage when we don't know you. We have no idea what sets you off or how it's affecting your life. That's the reason a counselor is good--they can get to know your situation.

So on a related note, try anger management classes (before the court orders you to). It's not a sign of weakness, it's to make you feel better.

Answer 4

For moments of extreme anger, anxiety, and other uncontrollable things, I have a trick that, although silly, works. And it's also something no one else is likely to see.

Have on hand some markers and a big 'ol drawing pad.
Scribble on the pad for as long as you want, changing colors when you're ready.

Eventually you'll calm down. When that happens, take all the scribbled on sheets and shred them or burn them. It will take your anger with it.

What you're doing is focusing your rage on something other than whatever caused the rage to begin with. And who knows? You could be an artist.

Answer 5

Why would you put on a question - then tell everyone what NOT to say? What is your point? I can't tell you what to do or not to do because you wouldn't like my answer. And I probably know a lot more than you do - but I won't share that knowledge.
Now I'm going to order a yummy pizza and you can sit there and tell everyone else what not to say. Have fun.

Answer 6

What is filling you with rage in the first place? certainly if you can avoid generating the rage, you won't have to worry about dealing with it later.

Sometimes you are caught in a situation where you cannot avoid the rage, in which you need a way to dispell it as fast as possible.

You have to learn not to get so angry about things, especially those over which you have no control

Answer 7

Try growing up, if you don't like folks' answers. Jeezus. Sometimes the obvious works. You won't know unless you're adult enough to try 'em.

Answer 8

take a deep breath and try to calm down

Answer 9

http://www.cyquest.com/pathway/rage.html

Answer 10

If you are of legal age......get laid............works for me.