I broke up with him a few months ago and am shattered that he has a new girlfriend maybe? he did many mean things and i never made him aware of them, I am angry, yes, but would this make things better or much worse?
2006-11-08 11:10:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh Tessa....write the letter and send it to yourself....bend your friends' ears even if they bleed, but don't I repeat DO NOT send your ex a letter. You broke up with him.....are you sure that your desire to write him isn't coming from a bruised ego that he just hopped on to another relationship? I get that - that is human - it makes you feel like you weren't even important to him...but a lot of guys and girls in break up situations do what your ex did. A lot of people are uncomfortable with themselves because they are so insecure and otherwise "messed up" - so they use other people and relationships to boost their own ego ---but these same people are not good people to be involved with for obvious reasons. I'm sure you had your reasons for breaking up with him. Let it be. Take this time to reflect and then move on. I've been there - I know....now I subscribe to what I call the Chris Rock School of Relationships. It goes like this....so you go to the refrigerator for a glass of milk. You remove the milk carton, sniff it, and it smells a little sour. You put the milk back in the refrigerator. A few weeks later you return to the same carton of milk and pull it out and sniff it and it STINKS.....what in hells name made you think it would be better the second time around???? Don't go back, go forward. Don't reward him with a letter aka attention- you are just showing how vulnerable, insecure, and possibly jealous you are....I am not judging you...I am not....it hurts when someone you care about moves on quickly....but do not let them know it and by all means do not go back. The fact that he moved on so quickly should only confirm in your own mind that breaking up with him was the smartest thing you could ever do. Whatever lead you to break up with him in the first place - is still there and "do over" relationships just get worse and worse - like Chris Rock's milk. Write yourself a letter about it. Send me an email if you want. Sending you all my positive energy and lotsa luck. :)
2006-11-08 11:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by paperorplastic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get Something Off Your Chest
2016-11-16 14:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you write a letter, write everything down, every last bit, then stick it in a drawer for a day, and the following day have a little ceremony and burn it. As you are watching it burn, decide to release all your feelings and left over issues with that guy.
He isn't going to care or pay attention to what you have to say now, he's moved on. You need to release it and move on. Write it out and then let it go.
2006-11-08 11:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to your heart's content. Write out all your feelings and thoughts. Write ten letters if you want.
Then put it in an envelope and seal it. Then put it in a drawer.
You'll feel better for getting it all out - but don't send it to him. It won't accomplish anything.
: )
2006-11-08 11:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is to write it, but don't send it. That way you get the crap off your chest.
Don't make a scene because you are hurt, bitter or jealous. That is so beneath you!
2006-11-08 11:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a bad idea. I think you still want to be with him and this is your excuse to get in contact with him. Just get over him and find someone else.
2006-11-08 11:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by happyha31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe not, you need to let it slide.its in the past now and we all feel we shouldve done or said certain things to our ex's but really, does it matter? if your unsure about if he has a gf or not then no,don't. have a thought for her. if he did so many mean things to you, you should be glad to rid of him. why cause more grief for yourself :)
2006-11-08 11:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't ever write anything that I want to keep confidential. When it is in writing it can be passed from person to person very easily.
2006-11-08 11:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write the letter-read it and realize that you are better off without him-tear it into little pieces and bury it in the ground-burn it-or throw it away.
2006-11-08 11:17:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write the letter and maybe not mail it...maybe just writting it down will make you feel better...but if he already has a gf, he probably doesnt care how you feel...sorry, dont mean to be rude, but...that just might be one of the reasons not to send it...
2006-11-08 11:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by ewolcenski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋