i have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and I found out from this girl's boyfriend that he(my boyfriend) has been secretly speaking to her and sayin he loves her and stuff of that nature. Well I confronted my guy abotu it not believign what I have been told and I found out that everythign this girls boyfriend had told me about him grlfriend and my boyfriend was true. I have lost my trust in him. I'm giving him a chance to earn it back but I just don't know if I will ever completely trust him the way I used to.
2006-11-08 10:38:20 · 12 answers · asked by Nik S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You won't ever trust him again 100%, unless you decide to deceive yourself, which is the worst mistake you can think of.
Besides, it's not like he fooled around drunk or is torn between an old love and you (both are bad excuses, but at least you could say he is a fool). He is wooing another girl (who also has a boyfriend) and not concealing it to you, for crying out loud, which means he doesn't even care about your feelings. I don't understand why do even you want to give him a chance.
Finally, if you two were in a relationship that has lasted many years, I could understand your persistance: But with only 4 months, you are just setting yourself up to get really hurt in the future.
2006-11-08 10:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Historygeek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because he told another girl that he had feelings for her. You wouldn't trust him because not only did he cheat on you, he cheated emotionally. He has feelings for this girl so that means that you will not be the only girl in his life(romantically).
You deserve a guy that only wants you and only wants to tell you directly his feelings. That he doesn't even think about being with other girls. This guy doesn't deserve your trust so move on. Also you have a right not to trust him. There is at least one strike against him. Good Luck!!
2006-11-08 10:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by someone ha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how anyone could ever earn back the trust. You would always have doubts about what he is doing when he talks to other girls.
In my experience, I cannot ever trust again once someone cheated on me. I dump them and find someone else who knows how to stay with one girl at a time.
2006-11-08 10:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult if not impossible to trust him the way that you used to.
You can develop a trust for him again, but it will take a while and there will always be that lingering doubt when it matter most.
2006-11-08 10:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Cid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha it will take a miracle, once a cheater always a cheater, plus they think if i got away the 1st time they sure love me enough to do it again and they will 4 give me again.... so i would call it pack ur bags baby u aint comming bach here
2006-11-08 10:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by 1plum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn near impossible. I dont personally think it ever gets back to 100%. Over a long time it can improve though.
2006-11-08 10:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you giving him another chance?
He told another girl that he loved HER. Why would YOU still want to be with him? He doesn't love you if he loves her.
2006-11-08 10:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through something similar to that and i decided to give him another chance but he did it all over again so my advice would be to just dump him at once
2006-11-08 10:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by hunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First time, shame on him! Second time, shame on you! When you find out he's a snake, don't expect him to change! Dump him!
2006-11-08 10:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him because u deserve better and he is playing u.....
2006-11-08 10:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋