How can I tell if my boyfriend is really cheating on me?

Question

Me and him have been datin for 9 mnts and see we go to different schools so we only get to see each other on the weekends and talk on there phone during the weeks At first everythin was great. We talked for like 3 hrs like 5 times a day on the phone and the conversations kept gettin shorter 9mnts later he hardly ever wants to talk when he calls me its like 5 mins then he hasta go and wont call me back but the main thing thats makin me suspect somethin is that tonights conversation he told me he can only see me Friday cause hes been talking to his "aunt" for 3 hrs on the phone and she wants him to go barhoppin with her Saturday For some reason i just dont believe that story Im thinkin its another girl When i asked him he got really mad and demanded to get off the phone Im hoping im wrong but for reason i just feel like Im not Ive read other reveiws on here and most advice is talk to him or check his cell phone but i want different adivce for 1 he dont have a cell phone. sum advice plz

See I really love him and I know we can have a long future together. I dont want something to get in the way. I mean I trust him and believe him * dont have ne reason not to* he hasnt lied to me. well that i know of but hes just an asshole during the week on the phone here lately and then the thing about his aunt. and like i said for reason i dont believe it. Like in the past I've asked him if he's really serious about me and he usually gets mad telling him i asked stupid questions cause if he wasnt serious hed be with different girls. I just really need some advice on how to know if he's cheating. I can't talk to him cause he'll prolly get mad and he doesnt have a cell phone or ne thing like that. So I can't do that....

Answer 1

Trust your instincts, then search secretly for clues. Don't accuse him or you will make him be on guard, then if he is cheating, he'll cover his steps better and you won't find out anything. Don't change your reactions to him, just go with the flow and check the situation out. Mostly, women are right when their instincts tell them something like this (unless the woman is abnormally jealous, then everyone is a suspect). But if you are not an overly jealous person, play the game. I would suspect that something is fishy from what you say. He doesn't seem to feel inclined to impress you anymore to keep you around. Above all, don't act desperate. Keep your womanly pride. If a man doesn't show interest in you, cut the strings, and find someone who will. It's not worth it, believe me. If you find nothing out, then bide your time, and the relationship will play out for better or worse eventually. If he is guilty, he will eventually sink himself. If you are being intimate with him, and suspect he is fooling around on you, be very careful, and don't forget to use protection. Take care of yourself always the very best that you can. You are a valuable person, and you should only be around those who treat you as such.

Answer 2

First of all , in his defense, talking on the phone for hours loses its luster after a while. I like to talk on the phone too, but those really long ones keep me from getting anything done, so you may have pushed him away a bit with the neediness. BUT for sure, he's just not that into you anymore, and you mentioned that you were in school, so how is he old enough to go Bar hopping? (unless your almost done college) BUT I don't know any guy ever that spends 3 hours on the phone with his "aunt". Sounds fishy to me. Maybe you could casually ask what bar he's going to and just happen to show up there (he'll hate you of course if he sees you) But it shows all the signs of him letting you go gradually. Next week he probably wont even call. Find someone who is as into you as you are for them.

Answer 3

first of all relationships are built on trust. So, don't suspect him yet. Second of all, your relationship sounds like it's in a runt, meaning that since you both are far apart, it's harder to keep dating. So, u'll have to break up. You shouldn't have asked him anything, otherwise breaking up might be easier. Tell him that you love him and you are sorry for suspecting. After a few days, tell him then that your relationship isn't busy and just in case he thinks you're suspicious again, tell him that u both are too busy for each other. At the same time he might feel quilty if he really is cheating on you and will tell you. For now, don't even think about cheating

Answer 4

Well since it is withdrawal maybe he's having a hard time with the long distance relationship because you go to different schools. Ask him if you can go along with him and his aunt and see if his answer seems suspicious. WHo knows maybe he's telling the truth? Also look out for hickeys or other evidence to make you believe he's cheating. Dont get too mad yet you might just chase him away try to get answers the nice way. If all else fails, you'll burn him with your kindness and make him feel bad IF he is cheating.

Answer 5

it sounds like he is cheating....the fact that he got mad and defensive is one of the biggest signs. Just ask him what bar he is going to then have a girls night out then show up to see if he's there. Since he doesnt have a cell phone and he wont talk about it, I dont see what else you could do.

Answer 6

Be unavailble to him for awhile. Don't return phone calls right away, and when you you do talk to him on the phone, YOU hang up first because you've got something else to do. Men love to chase, and you're already acting caught. Focus on your other friends and interests. You will seem much more interesting to him if he realizes you are not sitting by the phone waiting.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

You are the one in love in this relationship. You have smothered him beyond his tolerance. Yea, he may be lieing to you. He's not courageous enough to tell you how he really feels, so he chooses to let you down slowly. GET a CLUE! This relationship won't work. It's doomed. Let him go. Then take your golden heart to a man who will treasure it, and offer real happiness. Find someone who will cling to you as hard as you cling to him. Good luck.

Answer 9

if you know the name of the girl who you think he is cheating on you with, mention her name and see how he reacts. or set a trap of some kind.
make sure your bf is at home or some place like that. then tell the girl to come ove to your house or wherever the bf is. leave for about 45 minutes or before she gets there. then.... come home and catch them in the act!

Answer 10

if u think he's cheating on u 9 times outta 10 he is. u wouldn't develop suspicions if there wasn't any thing to suspect. most people who who think there man is cheating is right. u should just try to catch him in a lie or 2 that always works for me.