Okay...my stepson is 5 and they put him in pre K because of his birthday,?

Question

but he has been in school since he was a year old. He has been getting in trouble for talking out of term and for playing around while the teacher is speaking and teaching. Now....he never does this at home or at his mothers and he usually listens the first time right away. I know this sounds strange but it is true he does. I think that the problem is that he is bored becuase he already knows his abc's 123's and he already knows how to add, subtract and Multiply. The teacher says it is because we pay too much attention to him and that he is too used to being the center of attention and that we should puprosely go and get an ice cream without getting him one so that he feels bad when he doesn't listen the first time. I think that this is cruel. Any advice. I would never rub something in my childs face....and she made my stepsons mother, my husband and myself feel that we were terrible parents. He has always been very well behaved at school and this is a first. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I would put him in another class or pre-school. I would also report what the teacher said to you. She should not be telling you things like that. It does sound like he is just bored. I think he would do better just being at home until he can start kindergarten.

Answer 2

Tell your stepson's parents that he is probably acting out because he is bored. They should call the school system as request that he be tested so that he can be placed in Kindergarten. I will have the same problem when my son enters school within the next 2 years, so I sympathize. If he tests at or above where he should be at this point during the school year for a first time kindergartener, the school should place him with his peers.

Good luck to you all. I hope he gets what he needs. If that does not work, consider a place such as SYlvan learning center to make sure that he continues to make progress inspite of what the teachers are doing in their classroom.

Answer 3

WOW! I have 3 sons ages 16, 12 and 9 and let me tell you this: At his age that negative punishment will not work. He should be on a reward program like a daily note from the teacher and he gets a star for good behavior, etc. and then once he earns enough stars reward him with an ice cream outing or something small but fun. Don't try "if you get 5 days in a row you get a reward" that's too much pressure and then he feels like if he got 3 good days and then a bad one the good ones were wasted. Try that for every five stars he gets a reward. Also, watch that teacher. She seems like a punisher. Remember that you are the only true advocate for your child (step or otherwise) and that only you have his best interest and safety in mind. Good luck.

Answer 4

i would have a long serious talk with the principal, I do not agree with the teacher's theory, our son who is now twelve was held back a year due to his birthday and now in the sixth grade and has been an "A" student since kindergarten, If anything the teacher should learn to reward your son for his brightness by maybe making him a class helper instead of ridiculing him, sounds like she is in the wrong profession or is teaching the wrong grade if this is all the patience she can show towards a five year old.also some school systems offer a gifted program for students above there other classmate's learning capabilities, so while most students are learning their ABC's the gifted children can possible start to learn to write their name or something in line with that school year, this will keep them stimulated and keep to wanting to learn, attitudes like that teachers is why students get bored with school and become problems later on in life.

Answer 5

my child is only a year old, so i am not sure if this will help. you need to have a conference with the teacher and the principle of the school. the teacher is incorrect on saying what she did, and needs to be repremanded for even suggesting something like that. if the child already knows the "required" material that is being taught, then he should be in an excelerated class even if his birthday falls after the cut off date. it does the child and the teacher no good for him to be bored or even acting out in class. this could lead to problems as he progresses in school; they may label him ADHD and try to put him on meds when this is not necessary (happend to my cousins). my other suggestion is to ask your child why he is misbehaving, he may say that there is something wrong..has something changed at home, in his normal routine? things such as this will cause a child to act out. you are not terrible parents..you love your son and provide the best for him, it realy is the teacher who is wrong. get a parent teach conference set up with your son's mother, father, yourself, the teacher and the principle this may help. Good Luck

Answer 6

the teacher said what now?? thats insane!! have him moved to a different class or the year will just get worse, he is being bad because he is bored, no other reason and getting him where he will learn will help out alot.

Answer 7

He his so bored at school he doesn't know what to do and trying to keep a young kid down is absolutely impossible especially like you said he already knows his stuff,Pull him out and see how he does in Kindergarten.

Answer 8

Get over it. I do not mean to be rude or anything but I feel the teacher feels you are being overprotective. A mother bird teaches her babies to fly by throwing her chicks out of the nest. Give yours a chance to fly on his own.

Answer 9

he is bored have the teacher and principal and yourself have a conference and see if you can maybe put him up a grade and maybe have the guidance counsler talk with him that might help...