2006-11-08 09:56:18 · 32 answers · asked by B i n g o 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually there is more sense to the question as you continue to think about it. Love and commitment are more important than 'law'. So without love you are can still be legally married but maybe not in a 'marriage'. If you are sufficiently unhappy then you probably shouldn't maintain the sham of a marriage. Divorce isn't something to be taken lightly and all efforts should be made to preserve the marriage assuming you would like to preserve it.
2006-11-08 10:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The law makes the marriage legally recognised and viable, love just makes a marriage beautiful and keeps people happy and united. However, if either partner doesn't respect, trust or appreciate the other and affection or intimacy decreases then 'love' begins to decline, resentment starts to build and the 'neglected' partner may consider an affair to regain what is missing, or will leave. It is the love that fades, disappears or gets misused or becomes unappreciated. It is the law that remains when nothing else does. Don't be unhappy, life is just too short, try talking about it, try counselling if you still care and still feel that there maybe issues that can be resolved. If not perhaps consider that you both may be happier individually than as you are now, that 'love' will be there again in future and work together in ending the marriage legally. Best of luck.
2006-11-08 20:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is still married unless he gets a divorce. Why would he still not be married just because he is unhappy? Marriage is a contract between two people, just because you are unhappy doesn't mean that you are no longer married. There is common law marriage which is when a couple has lived together for a certain amount of time. People don't always get married based on love. Some people marry for money. Most people for love.
2006-11-08 10:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by boonslilsis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got a good point here. Of course you are still legally married, but if your heart and soul aren't into it, then you can't force it. I honestly think love makes a marriage. I call my long time boyfriend my husband even though we never actually had a ceremony or have a marriage license. We do have a baby though and we love each other very much. Some people will disagree strongly with me, but I believe too many people keep up a charade of marriage when there are no feelings left, because it is right in the eyes of God or whatever. I think faking a marriage should be more of a sin. Good luck to you.
2006-11-08 10:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy_Bunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a man in an unhappy marriage is still very much married and responsible for his family.
Marriage is made up of love, commitment and understanding during the bad times as well as the good.
The law BINDS that marriage LEGALLY to protect the family unit.
2006-11-08 10:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by x_southernbelle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, the same law applies to a woman happy or otherwise . I have been married for over thirty years. But you know what, you go through good and bad in any marriage, and if you had real love in the first place the love between you will always come back to you and your relationship will just get stronger.
There are many types of love, then there is lust,lust doesn't last forever, love does, and then of course lust can return to your relationship out of the blue, just when you least expect it to. Laughing believe me for I do know what I am saying, been there done that got the T-shirt.
2006-11-08 10:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by linda_corby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully both law and love make a marriage. But with divorce rates currently over 50%, you might not think so.
But marriage is defined by many things other than law or love, some of which are communication, trust, honesty, sharing, honor and respect, quality time together, similar values, etc.
At one time or another, either partner may find themselves unhappy with their marriage. However, if they had a solid basis for their marriage in the first place, they can choose to confront whatever is making them unhappy, overcome it, and be happy again.
In confronting challenges in a marriage, the marriage can grow much stronger.
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2006-11-08 10:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by funnyrob01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, under the eyes of the law you are still married. If you were married in the church, under the eyes of God you are still married. You each exchanged vows of support and love when you were married (for better or worse), no where in the vows does it say "till it is no longer convenient" or "until I am not happy anymore". It takes work to make a marriage happy and productive. I encourage you to talk to your spouse and perhaps get into some counseling to learn how to "work" on your marriage. Good luck!!
2006-11-08 10:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by m27jean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on whether you believe marriage to be a spiritual union or just a man-made institution. I think its man-made, so yes, the person in an unhappy marriage is still married since marriage is determined legally
2006-11-08 10:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by linguist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if that unhappy man cheated, then he is still considered married and will be treated as just...I think that it's both law and love....if the man isn't happy, then he should get the balls to fix his marriage or leave it - be fair to his wife.
2006-11-08 10:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by kristina807 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋