How do I convince my husband to let our 2 year old?

Question

go into daycare for 2 days a week???
I am a stay home mom, but I dont know anyone with kids, and I want my son to get more social with other children.
HE thinks its a waste of money and that he doesnt need to go to daycare at all.
The things is we were at a playplace and our son pinched a lil girl, pulled a boy out of a play thing, and shoved another child...he is not normally around other kids at all.

Answer 1

Your husband is right. You don't have to send your child to daycare. Find activities in your city that you can take your child to.
Like story time at the library, or to the park. That way he can interact with other kids and you can teach him how to behave around them.

Answer 2

Wow, alot of Daycare bashing.. You've got alot of answers to sort through but here is my 2 cents thats probably only worth a penny LOL..
Anyways.....
I have a 3 kids.. 11,9,and 3
My older girls were in Daycare full time because I worked full time to support us pretty much as a single parent (their father was worthless at the time but thats a different story) They always enjoyed it and there was never any problems.
My 3 yr old son goes to a state licensed out of her home type of babysitter (usually much cheaper than a "daycare") part time.. a few hours 3 days a week..
Our reasoning behind this?
Socialization with kids his own age
And a big PLUS is learning to take direction from someone other than mommy or daddy..
I think this is a major advantage that the kids get BEFORE getting to Kindergarten.
This is something that still isnt usually gained by going to McDonalds, church groups(which we do as well), or anything else of that nature..
I think that that is something that should be mentioned to your husband as well..
I work part time in our elementary school and thats one big problem that I hear all the elementary teachers complaining about. They can definitely tell the difference between a child that was in "daycare" or "babysitting" situation and children that spent ALL of their time with mommy.

Hope that helps and Best of Luck no matter what you decide

Answer 3

Day care is so that your son can learn how to play. He will learn social skills and learn how to be around other kids. It has also been proven that kids who go to daycare do better in school because they have learned the social aspects of being in a learning environment.

Ask your husband if he wants his son to have the best chances possible in school, and that he needs to learn now so that when it's time to really learn he won't be trying to figure out how to be around other kids and away from his mom. It is much harder to start a kid in daycare the older they get. My son is 2 and started recently, and not only is is great to have him so tiered at the end of the day but he is developing mentally on a daily basis.

He come home knowing new words and songs and is speaking much clearer now.

Answer 4

Hello :-)

I agree with you that he should go to daycare. Although I had two children at the time, there is 5 years between them so my eldest was at school so they weren't able to entertain each other through the day.

Both my sons went to daycare once they turned 2 for exactly the same reason as you are suggesting - he needs to learn how to interact with other children. I felt they needed to be around other children AND just as importantly I felt they needed to be around other adults (caregivers) so that they realised that there are rules everywhere and there are boundaries that are not just enforced my mum and dad!

My boys went to a long daycare which meant they were served a cooked lunch. I also liked this because they learnt to eat by themselves, take their empty plate from the table etc. and once they were a bit older they would teach them to pour their own drinks of water at the table (lol, which was very exciting for them!)

I have always found that when a child can interact with others they are more inclined to want to do what the rest of the group is doing and they are happier to learn things that we may be attempting to teach them at home.

I was very happy with my boys' daycare - the caregivers there helped to reinforce all the things I was also teaching my boys at home ie. saying please and thank you, sharing, taking turns, putting away toys etc.

Ultimately even though I was a stay at home mum for my second child and will also be when my six month old turns 2, I highly recommend daycare and really think it is an essential part of our childrens' learning experience while they are between the ages of 2 and 5.

Oh, and my two only went two days per week too. It is also something you really have to do to make it easier on your child when it comes time for them to start school.

I was a classroom helper 2 days per week when my youngest son started school and the children who had not been to any form of daycare or pre-school had a very rough time of settling into school life which made it very upsetting for all those involved from the child and the parent to the teacher and the rest of the children in the class.

Lol, as you can tell I can't recommend daycare highly enough!!

Goodluck. I hope you do manage to have your son attend day-care. He will love it by the way!! All those toys he doesn't have at home, new games he will learn, new songs etc etc.

Answer 5

Look for a local playgroup run by a church or non-profit in your area. Or go onto the net and look for organizations of other stay-at-home moms to connect with some locally. You can set up play dates with those moms and their kids. Social contact doesn't just have to be daycare. If the reason you are staying home is because the two of you agreed that you'd stay home to take care of the kids while he works, then money is probably pretty tight and he might see paying for daycare as incompatible with your original agreement. But kids do need to be in social situations with other kids, or you get the behavior that you saw at the play place. Look for a no cost solution first, if you really can't find one, you may have to enlist your pediatrician or someone who your husband would view as an "expert" on children to support you on the social aspect.

Answer 6

It's not necessarily a bad thing for your son to stay home with you. In fact, most moms wish for that. Anyway, there are many down sides to daycare. My son is 3 1/2 yrs old and has never gone to daycare. I do take him to parks and sometimes McDonald's play land so he can interact with other children. My son gets along with other children wonderfully now. I can tell you when he was 2 he did act the same way you're son did. That's just his age and the more you put him in situations with other children, he will learn that's not acceptable. Good luck :P

Answer 7

I was in a similar situation - none of my friends nearby had kids and our neighborhood doesn't either. We put our son in daycare when I went back to work and it was like night and day. He was more social, more verbal, better behaved...it was amazing.

Why don't you suggest trying it out for a month? It will take some time for your son to adjust, especially since he's two and probably REALLY attached to you (which is yet another good reason). After a month or six weeks, you'll see a bubbly, more social little guy and your husband is bound to see the benefit.

Answer 8

I wouldnt place my child in day care. Maybe you need to take him to "playplaces" more often or see if there are play groups. Im sure there are lots of other stay at home moms with kids in your area. Also at 2 yrs old that behavior is often expected. I personally think that if you stay at home it is a waste of money to send your child to daycare for 2 days a week. If anything you could see about group babysitters in your areas they are alot cheaper. Maybe even call one in the local paper tell them about your problem and see if it would be okay for your son to come over and play with the other kids while you are there that way you dont have to pay.

Answer 9

You dont have to use daycare to socialize. You can check into play groups or mommies with toddlers clubs or other local resources. Also a friend of mine had gone a few times and met moms with more kids and they ended up bonding and trusting one another enough to swap child care - that way your child gets to meet other kids and you get an afternoon off, but also vice versa.

Good luck.

Answer 10

I don't think the issue here should be money, it should be what's best for your child. Your child is better off at home with you (this coming from someone who was forced to take my children to daycare for a year, but now am able to stay at home with them again). My son acted out MORE at daycare, and my baby was constantly coming home with bite marks on his arms - My doctor even told me that I needed to sit down with the owner, and tell her that if it didn't stop, my kids would be pulled out! I've heard of all sorts of things in daycare - and the only place you can be sure is in your own home, under your own care.

Here's the flip side - interaction is good for the children. My oldest son looks forward to church each week because he gets to play with other kids. We take him to parks as much as we can, and he absolutely gets a thrill out of riding down the aisle in a cart - and saying to every child as he passes "hey kid, what are you doing?" (even if they are older than him). I try to let my kids be around other kids as much as possible, but I don't need to put themin somebody else's care to do it. You need to focus on interaction with other children - not daycare.

I totally understand what you're saying, and agree to a point, but coming from someone who had to put her children in daycare (no choice), please try to avoid it at all costs!

Give the little guy lots of love and attention :) He'll thank you when he's an adult :)

Answer 11

A better idea is to take in some children of similar ages during the day. That way you make money and can monitor his growth.

Day cares arent a fair exhange for your parenting abilities, and while he could benefit from some social interaction, he'd be better if policed and taught along the way by you.

Your husband is sure to like this idea better anyway, since you could be making money instead of spending it. Just one kid a few times a week could be really helpful, especially if its someone from your school district, that way your son might have someone he remembers come school time in a few years.

We lived out in the boonies when i was growing up, and my mom didnt have extra money, but this is what she did, and it worked great. She was able to teach me hands on how to play with others and be a good person.