In 3-5 weeks I have to give my foster kitten and her mother back to the rescue agency. Can you give me some advice on how to be strong? Is it okay to cry? I will miss them terriebly. I would keep them but I already have 3 cats and 1 dog and 3 birds and can not keep any more animals.
Thanks
2006-11-08 09:44:23 · 10 answers · asked by bling***bling 3 in Pets ➔ Cats
They dont allow you to privatley adopt them out. They need to spay the mom and the baby girl, and give them shots.
2006-11-08 09:50:20 · update #1
Of course it's okay to cry! I would think that's the normal thing to do! Anyone who cares enough to take in a foster pet is going to be sad when they leave!
Just remember that you were there for the cats when they needed you...And that you will have another chance to be there for other cats & kittens when they need you again.
<3
2006-11-08 09:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sitting here with tears rolling down my face. I've rescued many litters and did the T/N/R of ferals and kept 3 offspring, 1 mother, 1 blind stray and then I met JACK a little red kitten abandoned in my yard. I fostered him for 2 weeks pretty constant because I was now retired and responded so quickly with me. He purred and played and curled up on my lap and slept and licked my chin and lips. I FELL IN LOVE. My other cats never acted like JACK. They never behaved in such an intense way like JACK. I knew I had to think long term and that's when I knew in 18-20 years (a cat's life time) I would be in my 80's (or not). It's the or not that made my decision. I found a lovely home, but it didn't stop the sadness of losing this special kitty. It's the second day of bawling my eyes out. I really miss this lil guy. Maybe because the older cats (3x11yrs, 1x12yrs, 1x3yrs) only really care about their food and aren't lap cats like JACK was. I know I will survive, but it still tears my heart out.
2015-09-26 15:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by GiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it was Kahil Gabran who said "if you love something you let it go" You have put a lot of love and time into these two creatures and have given them the chance of a good life.
I spent a couple of summers fostering kittens and had a great time doing it. It was always hard to release them back to the shelter for adoption. I had quite a few cats myself so I couldn't keep them.
So you need to rearrange your thinking - they are not lost to you (I still have pictures of all I have fostered) they are your "gift" to others who want a cat and who will take care of them well.
2006-11-08 10:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had this kind of thing happen to me too. It's perfectly okay to cry! Just keep telling yourself, "I have my 3 cats, 1 dog, and 3 birds that I love dearly! I know these kittens and there mom will have a good well loving home that someone will care for. I have to care for them and love them. Too many pets it will be hard for me to care for all of them :( I love them (kittens) enough to give them away to someone that needs the love and companionship that I have with my pets!"
2006-11-08 09:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Find you strength from the fact that without you they would very well be toast.
Will the agency allow you to adopt them out privately where you could visit and monitor the new home?
Yes, it would be hard to keep them and would shut the door on you helping more animals.
2006-11-08 09:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by dayakaur 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cry as much as you want, it's natural to experience some loss with fostering. But, know that they will find a loving forever home. And, know that you saved their lives. And, know that your gift of life to these animals gave someone the chance to have them in their family. : )
2006-11-08 09:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel! i have fostered 3 litters of kittens! i cried like a baby when the went to pet-co for adoption! it's hard to deal with, but if you give them up you can help another animal who may have no were to go!! you are doing a great thing saving these animals!! i feel for you with all my heart!!
2006-11-08 09:51:38 · answer #7 · answered by rblankenship_rblankenship 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh....let me tell you, it's not only ok to cry, but if you're this attached, you will. It's hard taking them back...I cried after I took mine back. And still am after a few days. But you'll tell yourself you've done all you can. Save room for those who won't make it. I've got 7 cats and a g.pig. We foster. It's so sad...but try not to visit them, or you'll make yourself feel worse...
2006-11-08 09:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by twilight.imperil 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to cry. Maybe you could keep in touch with the new owners by email or letters? I am sure they could tell you how the cats are doing every once in a while and maybe you could even visit the cats sometimes.
2006-11-08 09:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course it is OK to cry, Loving them is what makes you a good person! You know your limits, and by giving them back, you give other people the chance to own and love them the way that you have. Good LUCK I know form experience that this is a hard thing to do.
2006-11-08 09:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by meow699423 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋