2006-11-08 09:12:34 · 10 answers · asked by Kuroi K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Has your boyfriend been unfaithful to you? Handle a cheating boyfriend by following these steps.
Instructions
STEP 1: Acknowledge and accept your feelings of anger, sadness and disappointment over the betrayal.
STEP 2: Don't blame yourself for his actions. Remember that you can't be responsible for anyone's behavior other than your own.
STEP 3: Try to set aside your emotions and look at the situation from an outsider's point of view. What advice would you give to your friend?
STEP 4: Evaluate whether his behavior has permanently destroyed your trust in him and in your relationship. Do you believe he won't repeat his actions in the future?
STEP 5: Confront your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel about his actions. Let him know that cheating is not acceptable behavior in your relationship.
STEP 6: If you feel you need to know why he cheated on you to obtain closure for yourself, listen to his explanations about his behavior. Remember that listening does not mean you condone, agree with or accept his behavior.
STEP 7: Don't allow him to manipulate your feelings with sweet words of apology or promises never to cheat on you again. Be realistic. Do you honestly believe this was a one-time event, or do your instincts tell you that he'll probably cheat on you again in the future?
STEP 8: Ask yourself if you would be better off with him or without him. Can you continue to enjoy the relationship, knowing about the betrayal?
STEP 9: Find a constructive outlet for your emotions of disappointment and anger.
STEP 10: Give yourself time to grieve over the betrayal. Whether you stay with him or not, forgive him for his actions so you can heal and move on with your life.
2006-11-08 09:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If someone cheats in a relationship then the relationship is usually toast to begin with. If your thoughts are on revenge, try to set them aside for now. Those thoughts comes from the pain when trust is betrayed. Getting back at him just ends up eating at you even more 'cause it doesn't really take away the hurt your feeling. Just covers it up for a bit, and then it's there again later. And now you maybe did something to hurt your own dignity. Only you can really do that, not the cheater.
It's a hard thing when you're hurting, but try to move past the relationship by living your life the best you can. Be with real friends and people who build you up. The thing that makes someone regret cheating more than anything else, is seeing that they had a shot for something really great with someone special and blew it. The way to put that out there is to focus on your life. No matter what he does or doesn't feel or do, you've made and are living this great life that doesn't rely on anything from him.
That saying 'What you feed, grows.' is something to pay attention to as your making choices about where to put all your emotional energy. The pain cheating creates is really powerful, so use it to heal yourself - instead of propping up the ego of an ex-bf who doesn't know what he's missing.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-11-08 11:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ma K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the girl he cheated with he has aids! Tell every girlfriend he has he is a dog.
2006-11-08 09:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by BabyPrincess REAL JAMAICAN QUEEN 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
always remember.... 2 wrongs don't make it right....and remember this too....once a cheat,always a cheat...their is too many good guys out there..but..if ya absolutely have to,ask lorainna bobbett...lol...she got more than even with her old man....
2006-11-08 09:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should leave him the would hurt him in the worst way possible just live him alone and see that he would come back and that how you know you have him in control
2006-11-08 09:15:33 · answer #5 · answered by foxy_sexy_lesbian 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all ask yourself if you should.
If he is cheating because of something you did or didn't do (Ie: not giving him enough sex, or you are fat or ugly) then it is YOUR fault not his and you should just deal with it and accept that if you are fat, ugly or not having sex with him enough it is not cheating if he has sex with another woman.
2006-11-08 09:16:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hmm..ignore him i spose or you could cheat on him but then that will just turn to war...
but yeah i would just ignore him and make him feel guilty...
2006-11-08 09:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by MistyBlu 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him. there's the door, don't let it hit you in the butt on your way out!
2006-11-08 09:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
go find some strange
2006-11-08 09:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by ICEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him you have AIDS!
2006-11-08 09:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋