Can you and your fiance have a Mutual "Best Man" at the ceremony, even without a Maid of Honor? I have bridesmaids, but none that I'd consider as good a friend as my guy friend, who introduced my fiance and I. My fiance and I both consider him our closest friend. Anyone have ideas of how I could incorporate this into the ceremony/reception?
2006-11-08 09:09:40 · 16 answers · asked by jmandel510 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
WOW! I think that would be wonderful. After all, it is your ceremony-- you do what ever you want to do.
2006-11-08 09:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds great... just remember that you have to have 2 people sign your marriage license. Also during the ceremony if you have a long train on your dress your maid(matron) of honor normally keeps that looking pretty... so you might want to consider honoring him in a speical way but still having a seperate maid(matron) of honor. At the ceremony you could ask only him to do a speech. You and your husband could do a speech for him... jsut some ideas. Good luck!
2006-11-08 10:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great idea! I'm all for personalization. My daughter wanted me to walk her down the aisle, but my ex made such a fuss she caved. So, instead of having your friend stand either on the bride's side or the groom's, have him stand directly behind both of you once you are before the minister. Let him do what the maid of honor would do AND the best man, if he's up to it. Hold the flowers, adjust the train, pass the groom the ring, whatever you decide. Hopefully you & the groom will be standing a little bit higher (like on a step) so he wouldn't block everyone's view. Hey, you can make it work.
2006-11-08 09:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by girlfriend 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how cool. You can do whatever you want to do. But depending on how fancy a wedding you're having, you can't very well hand the best man your bouquet or ask him to fix your dress, etc., stuff that a maid of honor would do during the ceremony. Unless all those things will be unnecessary.
2006-11-08 09:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still need a Maid of Honour, because both she and the Best Man sign the documents. You had better stop this "best friend" stuff pretty quickly before you get married! Your husband should be it.
2006-11-08 12:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the UK its quiet normal for the best man to be a friend of the couple and you can pick the bridesmaid. You don't have to have a
maid of Honor, I didn't all my bridesmaids were equal. We still had a day, just enjoy your day.
2006-11-08 09:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it's a nice gesture on your part to pick someone who is a great friend for this honor and not just go along with protocol. He'll just do everything the Maid of Honor would do - just don't make him wear a dress!
2006-11-08 09:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want. I don't think it'd be a problem to work out at all. We had no attendants at our wedding. He had a BM and my mom was my MOH.
Instead of my dad giving my away with my husband waiting at the altar, he walked down the aisle first with his parents, and I was close behind with mine. It was a way for everyone to be involved and took away the "bride as property" ritual. Our best man walked in the procession and took part in the blessing and exchanging of rings.
If this person is important to you, by all mean,s "share" him. It doesn't make any sense for you to have someone who means little to do to be your MOH.
2006-11-08 09:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sativa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i stood up for my female friend at her wedding, and her husband had a man, too. but we were the only 2 attendants, so i'm not sure how you'd incorporate a best man/maid of honor scenario. but it's YOUR wedding, so you can do whatever you want. good luck and have fun!
2006-11-08 09:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by drunkinpoet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding - do whatever you want!
My fiancee and I are sharing a Maid of Honor and a Best Man. The best man is my brother and he's standing on my side. The maid of honor is one of our best friend, and she's standing on my fiancee's side.
2006-11-08 10:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by lillielil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
times are changing, and most weddings aren't as traditional as they used to be. i went to one wedding where the bride had a couple guys in her line of bridesmaids, and the groom had a couple girls in his line of groomsmen. true, it's not "proper wedding ettiquite", but who really follows that anyway? good luck!
2006-11-08 09:22:38 · answer #11 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋