I use to enjoy sex with my boyfried until he became disrespectful to me . We spoke about his disrespect and he has shown improvement. I want to start enjoying sex again with him but every time I try I do not get excited at all , he normally has to force his way into me which can be painful at times . I just perfer to cuddle , but him on the other hand dosen't want that and he's becoming very fustrated .
2006-11-08 08:59:01 · 15 answers · asked by cutecarribbeanbutterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The harsh reailty is this.. no man should force himself upon you..you have ever right to say "no" and stand up for yourself.. just because you are goig out doesn mean you dont have the power to say "no" .. If you are uncomforatble .. and dont feel like you can say "no" then you really need to rethink this whole relationship.. Although you are a woman, you have the right to say "no, I dont feel like it.." If you felt more confortable you could try and please him in another way.. Although you do realsie that it is a control issue and that hes just controlling you into something you dont really want to do..
Its an awkard situation .. you need him that youre not having sex unless you have 15mins of foreplay.. And if he asks to have sex with you .. just say.. yeah not a problem "15minutes of foreplay and im yours.." He will probably just walk away..thinking he cant be bothered and if he does that a few times.. maybe you really have to think about is he wanting to please you .. or himself..
And Im guessing youre having a hard time .. wondering if hes just thinking of himself.. and the answer is yes.. he is..
So stand up for yourself.. get some women courage.. and tell him to pull his socks up or hes going to loose you ..
Goodluck its not easy.
2006-11-08 09:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step it back a bit, make him take you out for a nice meal. don't wear an knickers that night and then just as main is being served let slip to him discretley that you are wearing no knickers!!! watch him melt under the table. Play a little power game and feel back in control, it should turn you on too, take that respect back girl! he will be keen to please you in turn and it may bring the spark back in the bedroom. But only use this if the date is going well. If you have no desire to be with him physically when he takes you out for a romantic night, then maybe you should prehaps think about why you are with him and if the relationship is right?
2006-11-08 09:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction for a woman is a very complicated thing and there are many attraction killers.
He killed some of the attraction with his actions. There is no formula to recreating the attraction, but it is actually up to him to do so. It is out of your control.
He cannot force himself into you. That too is disrespectful, let alone painful.
He needs to start acting like a man who respects his woman. Not, an animal that wants to get off.
2006-11-08 09:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he should not treat you like that and he needs to step up. My boyfriend was with my 5 1/2 yrs and then we went our own way because he did not respect me. My boyfriend had proposed to me and i told him no and why i did is becasue i wanted to be respected by my guy, but he could not step up to that. this guy only wants to see how far he can go and how mucha advantage he can get out of you. You can go through with this marriage but he is just goin to be more disrespetful to you. Laters Need more help email at hottiekate2005@yahoo.com
2006-11-08 09:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Hotstuffkate316 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk. don't take his crap,honey. the reason u aren't enjoying it is because for us women intimacy it is all in the mind. if your mind is focused on being being called names and feeling like trash, most likely u are not going to get into it.
u must not be tottally comfortable with him. y r u with him? do u see yourself with him and his treatment of u in 2 years from now? if not u need to get rid of him and start dating men worthy of your time and attention.
2006-11-08 09:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual incompatibility.
Also, he seems to like it rough, so that's actually a warning sign that his preferences have a bit to do with control and sadism.
Do you guys do any foreplay at all? Maybe starting with some foreplay will help. Or maybe some lube to ease it in.
2006-11-08 09:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by MisterO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more baggage you have with him the more the sex will hurt... It is your bodies way of physically telling you that you need to fix the relationship problems. It used to be so bad for me with my ex that I would throw up after we finished and my kitty would be in allot of pain... Untill them problems are fixed your kitty will continue to hurt...
2006-11-08 09:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try some sexual postions that would appeal to you both.
Try the:
Donkey punch or tony Danza
Texas rodeo
angry pirate.
2006-11-08 09:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try toys that always works or try role playing.
2006-11-08 09:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by lil_mo_mo06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen if you're going to be intimate with this guy you've got to find a way to forgive him . if that's not possible you're just wasting your time.
2006-11-08 09:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by fstrkm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋