I caught my boyfriend watching porn last night and I got so angry! Im really jealous of him watching big boobed naked girls it hurts me so much. He said he doesnt want to have sex with the girls in the movies but I find that hard to believe. He wants me to watch it with him, but i dont no if I can I would maybe feel worse with him seeing the naked girls. Does anyone know how I can change my thinking and be ok with his? Im so paranoid cause I no hes being sneaky and doing it behind my back, I could go as far as to end it with him, but I live with him and I dont want to be so drastic
2006-11-08 08:53:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen, I have been with the same boy for 7 years. I have wasted so much energy and time trying to get him to stop. But he will not stop. You will have to accept that he does it. If you forbid it, he will find every way he can around it. BELIEVE me. From experience, I can tell you that it doesn't realy upset me on a day to day basis, it is only when I catch him, or "stumble" across some evidence on the computer. It just makes you feel bad when you catch him or you find something he has been watching. It makes you feel like you aren't enough for him. And it should upset you. But you will not stop him from doing it. If it is affecting your sex life together, then there is a problem. But would you rather he let out his sexual fantasies with a fake woman on the screen or a real woman across the street? Also, he did it before he met you, and he will do it now. For instance, if he said that it was over because you wear too much make-up or because you take too many showers would you stop doing those things?? Good luck to you.
If you truly love him, you won't try to change things that will not be changed. If you give him an ulitmatum, he will find every way he can to hide it from you and that will only create more problems.
2006-11-08 09:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by buebla 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not have got to make excuses to observe porn. ninety% of persons watch it and the opposite 10% desires they might watch it or had entry to it. If you select up a few well recommendations to your boyfriend at the same time looking it then woohoo. Your simplest human
2016-09-01 09:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem very insecure about yourself. You need to not be so paranoid about something he honestly will NEVER have. I suggest you try and watch it with him. It actually turns me on when my man and I watch porn together. Now if he would rather watch porn then be with you then there is a problem.
2006-11-08 09:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take it so personally.Just because he watches porn once in a while doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.If you are really uncomfortable with it,tell him.Don't argue,talk to him.Try watching one with him,you might enjoy it as well.Visual stimulation works well for both genders.You might even come up with a few ideas to spice up your own lives.Don't be so insecure,if he didn't want you,he wouldn't be there.
2006-11-08 09:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Learn to watch it with him. Take the lead and tell him you want to try some of the things you both see in the porno, soon he will realize the real thing is better than anything on the screen.
2006-11-08 08:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a girl and I watch porn.. doesn't necessarily mean I want to have sex with all the guys in the movies... grow up honey.. it's just a turn on.. nothing more nothing less... watch it with him and ask him to reenact what he just saw on you.. :P
2006-11-08 08:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't be ok with it, and no, not all guys watch porn. It's not right. Check this site out porndestoyswomen.org.Tell him how you feel. Take care :)
2006-11-08 09:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Devon M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
here's how u can change your thinking. . . . .READY? CHANGE YOUR THINKING. i know that was deep. listen toots, u and women like u hafta stop believing that there's somethin wrong with guys being different from girls. guys are able to admire and even desire other women without it interfering with their love for the woman in there life. they are totally seperate and have nothin to do with one another. be happy for the times he wasn't hiding it from u and stop makin him feel like he has to hide it. because once the door to be deceitful is opened. . .. . . . .
2006-11-08 09:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as long as he dont forget where he lives dont worry about it all guy's watch porn i dont know why ethier we just do? so hes probably a very loayal n faithfull guy so give it a rest honey.
2006-11-08 08:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldn\'t worry about it .. all guys watch porn .. and they will allways do it .. you should just accept as something that is not shamefull
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2006-11-08 08:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by c g 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋