My girfriend has a girlfriend. They are best friends and it's also sexual. They spend time shopping, going to chick flicks and other stuff I don't care to do plus the girlfriend gives her a lot of the emotional connections that as a guy I would normally have to work very hard at.
Guys - aside from the "joining in" comments, do you think this would bother you? I'm perfectly OK with it but I'm curious how others would handle it.
Ladies - would you ever consider this if your guy was fine with it? Any drawbacks and/or advantages?
2006-11-08 08:22:15 · 28 answers · asked by ksmpmjoll 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should point out that their relationship was like this before me so I'm not at all worried about her leaving me for the girlfriend.
2006-11-08 08:31:11 · update #1
.......and I don't plan on joining in
2006-11-08 08:39:15 · update #2
nice... the best of both worlds..
2006-11-08 08:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation too, and I really have no problem with it myself. Granted, I dont advertise it to my friends or my family, but my girl and her female friends are VERY intimate with each other, emotionally and sexually. My girl is very respectful to me though. She doesnt sleep with other guys, which is half the battle, and she only sleeps with her best girlfriends, who I also know and I get along with them fine. I have brought up joining in, just as a joke, and a few of her friends like the idea, but I am not going to force the issue unless my girl wants it to happen. Other than that, my girl and I have a great relationship and I hope it lasts.
2006-11-08 16:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best only to have two in a relationship and can cause lots of problems if you add a third person.... If your enough for each other then she wont have a problem with giving the sex and intimate relationship up with her Friend.. In reality she's having a relationship with you and someone else, sharing herself which should only be shared with you... It's fine to have friends but once you bring sex in the bed with all three and there is love involved, insecurities will start to fly and jealousy from one of yous or all of yous will start to happen... I speak from first hand experience on this... Threesomes are only good between un attached people....
2006-11-08 16:32:59 · answer #3 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, my husbands fantasy. LOL
Sounds like you think you may have the best of both worlds, but do you have her heart???? I don't know that I would be able to give myself emotionally to two people. You say she gets that from the girlfriend and you dont have to work so hard at that. I would say you are merely the stick when she feels like going for a drive. If push came to shove I think she would pick the girlfriend. This may be fun for awhile, but I think you are shortchanging yourself in the long run. She will never love you completely and entirely.
2006-11-08 16:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by his temptress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it because the girl is there for me with things guys just cant be. The biggest drawback is that they don't really want to hang out together a lot so its hard to find time for both of them, but I think it is work it all the way!
2006-11-08 16:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all...my ex was bisexual and I had no problem with it.
She was happy with that and she was proud, and that made me proud to be with her...
If it were the other way around ( I was a girl and I had a bf who has a bf) I still wouldn't change a thing.
I mean..with the whole emotional support thing, I can understand why women turn lesbian or bisexual...it may be because woemn understand eachother more that we do as men. They know what their needs are and they know how to deal with them.
They're happy the way they are and that's what matters. All that matters in life is happiness...so...
Short and sweet...no
2006-11-08 16:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by Clown Luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you insane to accept this behavior from your girlfriend? You are being played guy. You deserve better than that. You shouldn't even make her choose, just leave her there with her girlfriend. Trust me she is not worth it. It's obviously bothering you, or you wouldn't be asking. Don't let her make a fool out of you, she is probably laughing at you with her friend. Have a backbone man, there are other girls out there, you do not need that loser in your life.
2006-11-08 17:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by suenos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I don't want to emotionally/sexually share my significant other with anyone else of either sex. That's a breach of commitment, to me. But the shopping and other activities are not an issue. It's good to have friends. If this doesn't bother you, and you have an open relationship, then don't let what others think sway you.
2006-11-08 16:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Rvn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good thing, relationships between women are many times on a different level than male/female relationships. Be careful that the girlfriend doesn't start turning your girlfriend against you.
2006-11-08 16:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Darth Vader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Jooining in would be a plus. But Other That That. I Would Say NOPE. Its The Same Thing As Cheating.
2006-11-08 16:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by biggiefrum91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I probably would not consider it. Basically I get my emotional support from my girlfriends, but its on an emotional/mental level, not a physical level. I would not have sex with my girlfriends. Thats what my man is for :)
2006-11-08 16:24:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋