WE MEET A FEW YRS AGO, BOTH HAD FEELINGS BUT DIDNT STATE THEM. WENT OUR SEP WAYS JUS TO FIND 1 ANOTHER AGAIN... THIS TIME NEITHER OF US WANTS 2 LET GO. PROBLEM: HE HAS A GIRL AND A NEW BABY - HE CLAIMS HE CANT LEAVE. SO HE ASK TO ME WITH ME AND HER... GRANTED I C HIM A LOT CUZ ITS LIKE HES ALWAYS WITH ME. BUT I 2 WANT A FAMILY(OF MY OWN) SOMDAY. SO WHATS A GIRL TO DO?
2006-11-08 08:19:13 · 34 answers · asked by brit_m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THX. I READ A LOT OF REALLY GOOD ANSWERS HERE THAT JUST CONFIRMS WHAT I WAS THINKING TO DO ANYWAY... BUT LIKE I SAID THERE ARE A LOT SO I COULDNT CHOOSE A BEST. AND THO HE DOES TALK A GOOD GAME AND I HEAR IT EVERYDAY, I SAID WHAT U ALL R SAYING TO HIM MYSELF. SO DONT FRET IM FLEEING AND YES IF ITS MEANT 2 B AND HE GAIN MORE RESPECT FOR ME OR JUST WOMEN PERIOD(IF HES CAPABLE) AND LEAVE HER THAM MAB I'LL XCEPT HIM, IF IM NOT ALREADY WITH FAM MYSELF. PS: NO IM NOT INTO THIS TYPE OF THING AND I DIDNT SAY HE WAS MARRIED NOR IS HE AT HOME WITH HER EVERY NITE.
2006-11-08 09:04:08 · update #1
have some pride girl.he told you he cant leave?why not. ill tell you why not because he does not want too.why should he. hes got you both. why would you even want a man that would tell you he wants you and another women. i know he has a child. children do not keep men at home that don't want to be there. you know the old saying why buy the cow when the milk is free. the cow is at his home your just the free milk. you got to know if he will cheat with you he will cheat on you. that also goes for you too.why should he trust you.your cheating with him so why would you not cheat on him as well. you need to let this man go. there is alot of single men out there go get one of them.
2006-11-08 08:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, don't be foolish girl! He is a jerk. He has a lady that he goes home to.. and a child. He is just keeping you on the side for his own pleasures. Don't give that man an ounce of you. Because at the end of the day.. he is going home to her.. not you. If he is willing to break up with her, Most likely not, then you will have to deal with the drama of the baby's momma situation. Believe me, it sucks!! I know. Cuz no matter what.. the baby's mom is always going to be first. I know exactly how it feels. Sucks bad!! Best thing is to walk away. I know it feels great when you are with him,cuz guys are really good with words! Basically full of shi*. girl, be smarter and open your eyes. someday you will see. And an family with him.. most likely not. Sorry to be blunt. I just know how you feel... sucks..
2006-11-08 08:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is every guy's dream to have both his wife and a side piece. If you allow him to have both, you really don't have him at all.
Girl, don't let him do that to you. It will only get more complicated at the end. The reason why I say this is (1) because it is not fair for his girl/wife being cheated on and u allowing that to happen, (2) all you really are for him is a booty call / side piece. As a woman, do not allow that to take place because u deserve to have a man of your own and for yourself only. How can you even live on knowing that you are sharing a man that you stated u care so much for?
Don't do that for the sake of all three of you.
Good luck.
2006-11-08 08:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by miquelina2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he already has a girlfriend and a baby and he cant fully commit to you..then ditch him girl. If you found each other twice and you were meant to be together then maybe youl meet again under better circumstances. It sounds like he might be using you on the side. Dont let him break your heart, theres plenty more fish in the sea and like I said, if you 2 were meant to be, it will happen, but now is not the right time
2006-11-08 08:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already made his choice, maybe it was the wrong one and this is his problem not yours. He will never be able to love and relate with you as he should while she is in his life. Move on unless he does what a responsible person should do when they realize that they have screwed up.
This means that he moves away from her and takes responsibility for his child and only has contact with her to arrange vistitation and childcare arrangments, period.
Otherwise concentrate on your self and the wonderful things that you are doing in your life and perhaps someday someone will come along who wants to share those things with you and you alone. Or maybe he will grow up and become that person.
2006-11-08 08:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by mysacryfice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, do you really want to break up some one else's family? Do you really want to have to sneak around and always feel guilty that you are messing up someone else's life? Do you want to be responsible for a divorce? For a child who never gets a chance to have a normal family with her real mom and dad? Do you really want to be involved with a man who you know for a fact cheats and flirts with other women? Do you really want a husband who has to spend hundreds of dollars a month on child support instead of on your family?
Leave this man alone. Go find an honest, decent man who you can have a family with. Don't break up other families. Create your own. There is someone wonderful out there for you- you just have to find him. This guy isn't it.
2006-11-08 08:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you don't really want to do.
He's setting you up as his whore. He can have the family life, and have you on the side for a little action now and then. You can't grow that type of relationship. When you say anything about how things operate he'll bluntly remind you that you knew what you were getting to begin with
If he really cared about you, he wouldn't ask you to live like that.
DON'T DO IT!!
Find somebody who's as free to be with you as you are with them.
2006-11-08 08:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend of mine has this same problem but it is a little different she has a baby and the other girl has a baby (both by him) and she gets so upset when he has to change his plans that they made so he could spend time with the baby it was to the point where she just doesnt talk to him anymore if he wasnt to see her and the baby he has to set it up and if he isnt there then she doesnt feel bad so if you want to be with him but he is asking to be with someone else too then you need to do what you feel is right for you no one else just you
2006-11-08 08:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should do it. You need to find someone your crazy about that is just as crazy for you and is single. Find someone that can be your one and only and that you can start that family with in the future. He already started his, without you. If you do this, it will be more of an emotional mess than your realize, for everyone involved.
2006-11-08 08:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called having your cake and eating it too. Hon, he has a family that he made with this girl...it's not just her and him...but a baby is in the picture now. For your own sanity and sake, let him go...he's setting you up in case he gets tired of the responsibilities he has created.
2006-11-08 08:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋