my son is a heavy sleeper and doensn't wake up to go to the bathroom what should I do with him?

Question

No matter even if I wake up at night and take him he still manages to bed wet. He is only 5 years old. He also has accidents during the day. His Dr. says its normal for his age. I give him a deadline for drinking at night and I make him use the bathroom before he goes to bed but it never fails. What is the best way to handle him and the situation?

Answer 1

take him to another doctor or get some pull up pants

Answer 2

Doctors don't normally see bedwetting a problem until after the age of 7. You are doing all the right things like restricting drinking and using the toilet before bed. You will just have to wait for the time to come. If it is still a problem after the age of 7, then it may well be a medical problem.

My son is 4 and has to wear pull ups at night. He too is such a heavy sleeper he wets and does not realise until the morning when I wake him. We have tried numerous occasions to let him wear just undies, but he will have few nights dry then wet again. It's hard because he has been dry during the day for nearly a year and never has an accident. I give little rewards for my son having a dry night, like being able to play with a special toy, sometimes they need an insentive!

I agree that boys are later developers than girls. I never had any problems with my daughter!

Answer 3

First, ask yourself these questions:

Is there a family history of bed-wetting?

When does your child wet the bed? Is she very active, upset or under unusual stress when it happens?

Does your child tend to wet the bed after drinking carbonated beverages, caffeine, citrus juices or a lot of water?

Is there anything unusual about how your child urinates or the way his urine looks? It could be an infection.

Actually, one of the worst things you can do is wake him up to urinate in the middle of the night. His bladder is not yet developed enough to hold urine for a full night, and forcing him to urinate in the middle of the night could hinder development. When the doctor says he'll grow out it, that is usually the reason. In the mean time, line the bed with some sort of liquid resistant lining, or have him wear pull-ups to help out. Don't force or humiliate him. It doesn't help at all, he is already humilated himself.

Even though lots of parents don't discuss bed wetting, it is more common than you think.

Answer 4

My son is 7 and still occasionally wets the bed, he also doesn't always wake up to go, although it is getting better. What I used to do is to take him to the loo just before I go to bed, say about 11pm, he would wake up just enough to wee but would fall asleep again as soon as I put him back to bed. It seemed to work.

Sticker charts are also good motivators especially if he sometimes has accidents during the day, I normally do a small chart, he loves seeing the stickers go on, and then when the chart is full he gets a little treat.

Answer 5

You are doing all the things I was gonna suggest. Maybe getting him some pull ups for older children so that he isn't so embarrassed when he wets the bed. Just keep doing what your doing and he will eventually gain the bladder control over night and wake himself up if needed. My daughter did the same thing. I know its frustrating changing sheets every am, but the phase will pass soon enough. Good Luck and Take Care.

Answer 6

I was a bedwetter when I was your sons age and its an awful feeling to wake up knowing you have had another accident!
I remember my mum being at her wits end. Seemingly I used to tell her that it wasnt me that had done it but the birds flew in the window and wet my bed!
My parents did exactly the same as you have done to help me but the one thing that stays in my mind is having to repeat over in my head as I was tucked in for the night,the words, I must not wet the bed. I would say it a few times before I fell asleep and it worked! Slowly but surely, I stopped!
Good luck.

Answer 7

this is a really hard one to tackle my son is 10 in December and still does it now and again, up until he was about 8 he used to do it nearly every night but then he started getting up to the toilet so it got less and less, which was good, i found that not making a fuss about it helped i would just say right help me take the dirty bedding off and put it in the wash don't make out that it is dirty or wrong and he will soon get the hang of it, in the mean time you could try those new pull ups called pyjama pants for bigger kids. good luck with all that you try and you will succeed.

Answer 8

Get some pullups. That way you dont have to do laundry every day. If he wets, he can throw it away in the morning. Boys have a harder time with the muscle to control urinating until they reach a certain age. Each boy is different. Just give it time and make sure he knows it is normal.

Answer 9

My Sister wet the bed until she was about 10. My daughters friend wets her bed and shes 9. Sometimes it just one of those things. He will grow out of it. Not that hearing that helps. He probably can tell your uptight which is making him uptight and he doesnt want to dissappoint you,.

I hope this helps.

Answer 10

My daughters doctor gave her medication to slow her kidney function at night. It has worked for the most part. They gave her the medication starting between 5-6 years old. She is 7 now.

Answer 11

I wont worry about him, but if this persists after age of 9 or 10 , start worrying but more importantly doctors can prescribe nasal spray to help him then, until then persevere with what you are doing, he will bear the fruit of your patience, speak to health visitor she might teach you to use alarm bell technique,