A friend of mine was telling me about how her son refuses to go to school. He used to be bullied at school and i think hes gotten in with the wrong crowd of people that have made him this way.
He's fully aware of the consequences of not going to school but i dont think hes taking it seriously, like social services stepping in or being sent to a home, he says that he doesn't care and keeps making excuses to stay from school. She wants him to go back to school and get a good education but that cant happen if he keeps skipping school, and eventually she will get fined or even be put into prison.
Still waiting on a call from social services, but i was hoping anybody could give some advice on the situation because i'm pretty sure this happens alot.
2006-11-08 08:15:33 · 35 answers · asked by swordmaster888 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Home School instead.
2006-11-08 08:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She should try talking to her son in the first instance and then set up a meeting with the school and ideally with her son. There is obviously a problem and the school should be just as concerned as she is. If they are not or see the problem as being totally with him, then she should consider speaking to the local Education Authority and switching schools - this wont necessarily resolve the issue, just switching schools isnt going to be a magic answer to making him go. But talking to him, possibly some counselling and talking to his current school is the first step, if that fails, force the LEA to help resolve the situation.
2006-11-08 21:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Pington 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People only do things because they get something out of it. The child is not going to school as a way to avoid being bullied, regardless as to other consequences. The parent is avoiding her responsibilities by allowing the child to stay out of school. Bullying is a serious issue and shouldn't be minimized, but the parents needs to help the child face his fears and ultimately overcome them. This can be done by involving the school administration if necessary. But if the bullying has reached the point where the child refuses to return to the school, perhaps he would be better off going to another school, maybe one with a smaller student population. You don't say what age the child is, but it sounds like he must be in his teens.
2006-11-08 08:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can relate to this situation. The best thing like my parents did was to make me more involved into school activites so that i will make more friends and be more confident and then the child wont hate school as much like i did.
My parents were also in this same position, all they did was to tell the school the truth and tell how it they never knew, my parents were out of trouble but i was in trouble, i did saturday school for a whole year and i now have more restrictions and also my parents call the school weekly to check up on my attendance.
2006-11-14 13:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by jvjxp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go back in time and put her foot in that kids ***. Then, not only would he be doing what he's told, but he also wouldnt be so timid and getting pushed around and bullied because he's dealt with confrontation before. He's never had anyone in his face, and now that his peers are doing it he's trying to tuck his tail and run away from it.
Home school? Absolutely not. That penalizes the parent AND gives him even less much-needed social interaction.
Change schools? Maybe.
Ultimately, if he doesnt care about the consequinces, then the parent needs to go to whatever authorities necessary and tell them that she cannot control the child so that she doesnt end up in trouble as 'condoning' it.
2006-11-08 08:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was sentenced to 60 days in jail because of my daughter not going to school in the 6th grade, she was sentenced to 90 days. I also had to attend school with her in the 5th grade everyday all day for 90 days, which needless to say I lost my job.This went on for over 6 months, going to court continually. The last thing you want is social services getting involved. In the end they finally closed my case after the jail sentence was served. She did end up graduating, but the experience was not anyting I would want a parent to go through...
2006-11-14 02:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by geri a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was one those parents with these problems. It was war with your child, the school and eventually social services or the police.
I don't think this society understand how much pressure you and your child is going through. I think social services will make your life totally unbearable at all times. And, of course they tend to blame it all on you. Seems unfair.... try a private school if you can afford one or take a test for home schooling. Maybe transfer your child to another school. Otherwise what happened to my child he ended up in a detention home for two years. Take care.
2006-11-08 08:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by Mona 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She needs to do a thorough review of the school system and see what is available to help son. There are police programs here that pick the kids up and bring them to school. Here are shorter day programs for teens who have a hard time with the regular system. She needs to take her son to the school and have a meeting with these people. This way they are all in on the situation and working to fix it.
2006-11-08 08:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kids are so overwhemled by their emotions that they are often unable to see the big picture such as your friends' son. My suggestion is for her to make an appointment with the school counselor. Have the counselor explain in great detail his grades, absents and the schools credit system. If he misses to much school, his grades will suffer and the possiblity of not graduating becomes higher. Maybe then, he can begin to understand the long term consequences of his decisions. It might also be beneficial for him to talk with someone like the school counsleor who is nuetral. Best of luck to your friend.
2006-11-08 08:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to contact school and tell them how hard she is finding getting him to school , at least then she is seen as being proactive in this problem rather than waiting for the consequences. School can advise her and also get help for the problems that are underlying
2006-11-11 00:29:49 · answer #10 · answered by twinkletoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her call the school and arrange that he starts seeing the guidance counselor. It is a very bad situation if he is afraid to be in school. If it is serious bullying, then the principal should be notified also. She can also have the school send the truancy officer over to her house to talk to him. This may make the situation more serious to him before he actually gets a truancy record.
2006-11-08 11:16:37 · answer #11 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋