My husband and i recently tried anal. I hated it while he loves it. He was really easy and slow, but it still hurt like hell and i felt i had to use the bathroom the whole time. It never got better. We've tried it several times now. And i still dont enjoy it. any tips?
2006-11-08 08:03:33 · 23 answers · asked by uh_huh_ok_wassup_shutup 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, I know the feeling. I tried it once with my current bf and it was the worst sexual experience that I ever had.
There is a book and instructional videos out there that you can get to help you out. One in particular that come to mind is called "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristian Taormino. She lays out all kinds of stuff that you can do to try to make it better. According to her it should never hurt at all. If your husband loves you and cares about your pleasure too, he can read the book and watch both videos (there is volume 1 & 2). Then he can get to licking, kissing and burying his face into your rectum at least neck deep before he even comes near it with his c**k.
Sidenote: I read and watched the videos after that horrible experience. I know that my bf probably won't want to do all that to relax me, and I will not let him inflict himself on me again like that without taking the steps outlined in the aforementioned.
2006-11-08 17:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to turn you on first and then do it fast to stretch you alittle so it doesn't hurt... You have to relax your whole body and use lots of ''slip'' -(lubricant) but thats the best kind to get for anal... you have to be really relaxed and really turned on in order to like it... If you think at all that your not gonna like it then it will automatically hurt, him doing it slow doesnt help either- it's makeing you clinch to much..
2006-11-08 08:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that anal makes you really uncomfortable and you would prefer not to do it anymore. You shouldn't have to put up with this just because your husband likes it.
2006-11-08 09:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only one more thing we ladies do to make our husbands/boyfriend get there rocks off regardless how we feel about it. If you don't know already, this can hurt you in the future if you continue, MAKING LOVE means both of you are enjoying it, not just one sided. god made only one place for the penis to go! and its not anal or oral
2006-11-08 08:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry...... to me there's no "or" to decide on. Some of the soft varieties are the satisfactory dangerous boys there are. Gentle does not same uninteresting or tame at all times. They know the way to be and while to be the best way they must be. Did that make any feel to you?
2016-09-01 09:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might just be too big for that, or you need to have him stimulate you at the same time, then as they say, pain will mix with pleasure. But I think since you have had such a bad experience you may not want to attempt it again. You have to be completely relaxed for it to be good at all and i doubt you can achieve that anymore
2006-11-08 08:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by Beeper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't tense up, it only make it hurt. i know it not easy, but you gotta try to relax. the feeling like you gotta go to the bathroom doesn't go away though. But if you learn to relax you will get pleasure from anal too.
2006-11-08 08:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you use a good lubrication. I don't know what position you have tried but if you haven't already try laying on your side with him behind (obviously).
Try to relax, have him bring you to orgasm before trying to penetrate you.
If all else fails, just don't do it. It is great to want to please him in a way he really enjoys but I am sure he doesn't want you to be in pain every time.
2006-11-08 08:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by Shalvia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girl sits on mine until her anus loosens up. You should try KY Jelly. The kind that warms to the touch. Also when you are having anal sex it's easier for you to loosen your sphincters and don't squeeze them because you're only hurting yourself more. Helpful?
2006-11-08 08:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go buy a strap-on dildo.The next time he wants anal,pull it out and tell him it's his turn.
Of course,if he says ok,I'd think about getting a straight man.
2006-11-08 08:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by oneidmnstr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋