I have been dating a girl for about 5 months. Everything was going great until about a month or so ago, she started having problems. She has been having panic attacks, which she has been prescribed both zanax and Prozac. Since then our relationship has had its problems. She gets worked up on very small things. We have been fighting a lot which we never fought before. It almost seems like she is two different people. Also her sex drive is next to nothing. We had a great sex life previously. She told me when she was younger that she had these same problems. I don’t know if I should try to stick with her or break it off. I really like the girl I was dating before (really really liked) but this new person I don’t really care for. Any information or personal experiences would be help full thanks.
2006-11-08 08:00:11 · 6 answers · asked by wagnerforwarding 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would say to be patient and a little understanding. When she's not having an attack, tell her you notice she's still exhibiting symptoms and perhaps her meds aren't really helping her. They are also what could be affecting her sex drive. When you talk to her DON'T SOUND ACCUSATORY OR COMPLAINING because that will only make her defensive and perhaps trigger another episode. Structure your conversation around being concerned for her and for your relationship. She's still the same person, she's just caught up in the fog of her disease.
Strongly suggest she return to her doctor to get prescribed some new meds to try to see if they alleviate her symptoms with fewer side effects.
Also, realize that no med will be 100% effective, there will still be days where she's feeling down or whatever she's feeling. The meds just make those days much fewer and easier to cope with.
She undoubtedly knows that what she's going through is affecting you & your relationship and that's probably exacerbating her symptoms because she can't control them and is afraid you'll leave among other consequences in her life, this triggers more symptoms, and around and around we go. It's a vicious cycle that's hard to break.
That's not to say you *must* stay. Only you know what you can handle; I'm just saying it can't hurt to try to see it from her side a bit & encourage her to get more help since it looks like what she's doing isn't effective for her.
2006-11-08 08:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by Compassionate Chick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like she may need to see a shrink instead of a family doctor and maybe take a mood stabilizer instead of prozac. the zanax will help calm and will be a big help but it sounds like some under lying problems there.
the sex is due to the pills it makes you not have a sex drive and seeming like 2 people is probably true and if she is like me it probably gets on her own nerves how she is feeling if you care for her stick it out but this could be a problem until the right meds are taken and some professional help is seeked a family doctor will not be able to help as much and may not understand the full problem she could even be bi polar and that is a whole nother issue meds are a very important part of her problem and if it is not working she should be telling her doctor and making adjustments to the perscibed meds.
hop this helped
2006-11-08 08:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by faithfullyyours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read some litterature about panic attacks. But they allways seem to have a more scientific approach and that is nothing I need in my struggle to survive those horrible panic attacks. This is a "hand on" and very practical book. I felt it was written to me. I am sure that you are going to feel the same.
Joe Barry writes exactly how I think. The examples are perfectly described. And the method is genius. I recommend this book and thanks Joe Barry for writing it. It changes your life
2016-05-17 12:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Been married to her for 30 years, too! If you really love her, and can put her needs before yours, and can provide the care and loving she needs, and will ALWAYS need, stay with her.
If you are not positive that you have the moral and physical stamina to do this, get your wimpy *** out now and let her find her man.
2006-11-08 08:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Thorbjorn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dated a man with serious mental problems. in fact, i overlooked them and married him. it was a disaster, was over in six months and he bled me dry on top of the mental anguish. i'm still paying for this mistake. i'm trying to say, don't ignore the evidence of your senses.
2006-11-08 08:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her....women are psycho enough normally, you don't need it cause you sound like you don't have the time, effort or love this attention/sympathy seeking girl needs.
2006-11-08 08:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by quarterinchbolts 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋