What would you do?

Question

Okay I have a bf, been with him for a very long time(6yrs) We had a break up last year for about six months. When we first got back together, he didn't care if I went out with my girlfriends (that was one of the reasons we split up-him trying to control me) so like I said he was fine with me going out when we first got back together, but this last august, he found text messages on my phone and assumed I was skrewing around with my best friends boyfriend (which was totally UN TRUE) so now he doesn't really like my friend, or me hanging out with her, but I've known her for 15 years! So anyway, it's that friend of mines birthday tomorrow, and I wanted to take her out "just us girls" and I don't know how my bf's going to take it, and how to get him to let me go out on my own if he wants to go with me. And it's not like I'm trying to go out and do bad things, I would just like a night out with the girls, cuz I haven't had that since the whole August incident...any sincere advice? t.y.

I did cheat on him-that's why we seperated. And he's never cheated on me.

Answer 1

tell him exactly what you told us

Answer 2

ohh first of all you shouldn't have cheated on him
but now he feels like he can't trust you well it's your fault it guess
i mean i hate to bust balls over the matter he feels insecure about you going out but rightfuly so. i guess tell him what you wrote here and see how it goes. he'll just have to deal with it

Answer 3

what is he so insecure about? is he or has he cheated on YOU? that would be my question to him.

his insecurity and accusations are totally unjustified and he has no right whatsoever to tell you who you can and can't hang out with. he shouldn't be trying to control you like that, and you shouldn't let him. you're not cheating on him and should do whatever you please. if it pleases you to take your friend out for her bday, then do that. you don't need his permission. if he has a problem with it, tough.