i have a 4 yr old son and im doing everything i can but all he does is tell me no and laugh. he laughs when he is getting talked to, time-outs dont phase him, and he lies to me. i make him sit n timeout til he tells me the truth but he doesnt care... help please
2006-11-08 07:30:30 · 12 answers · asked by noonoo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Give him a warning and if he doesn't listen spank him.
"Spare the rod, spoil the child"
Just another example that time outs are useless...
2006-11-08 07:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
My son is just as nutty but he is only 3. Did your son just start kindergarten and now going to your sister's? Maybe it's an adjustment thing. I am wondering how your sister handles him differently than you do- perhaps she's more strict and then he lets out his frustration on you? Perhaps school tires him out? I know my son is always way more hyper and draining when he's tired. What does he say when you ask him why he gets angry? Tantrums are hard- there's ignoring them or the understanding approach "I can see your angry about xXX" or the let's go sit down in your room until you can relax. I didn't read anything you wrote that made you sound like a bad mom so don't worry about that!
2016-05-21 22:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he doesn't care is because (whether you're aware or not) you're not following through with discipline. Time out works for some kids, but spanking handles just about all the rest. But even if you're not for spanking, you MUST follow through with any discipline you give. When you tell your son not to do something, the first time he does it after warning him, he needs punished. Immediately, don't wait or he already knows he can push further. Be prompt, consistent and make your boundaries and rules known. He'll learn soon. Best of luck!
2006-11-08 07:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to be firm, consistent and follow through each time you give him a time-out. Watch Supernanny and follow her steps. She even has a book out. It works for my 4 year old because I never back down or give in. You could also take away privileges. Nip this in the bud now because you don't want to deal with this when he is a teen.
2006-11-08 08:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 'control' issue. My almost 2 year old tries to control me. Ignore his acts if they are to get attention from you and control him. Be firm, consistant and give your orders in a firm serious tone. Good luck, I know easier said than done.
2006-11-08 07:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find him a corner somewhere and tell him if he's going to behave in the way he is he'll have to do it from there and no where else in the house. Be firm about it. Eventually he'll give up.
2006-11-08 07:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by john h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's frustrating but you have to follow thru with the every thing you say and be consistent-for all unacceptable behavior there is a consequence,you have to decide what that is.but,remember always let him know when he's being good,so he sees he's getting positive attention,if he is being good just say[ wow, i'm proud that you are being a good boy ] and go about your bussiness but, do this often. takes time but works. good luck.
2006-11-08 08:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to control you.....my little guy tries the same thing. Just stay the course, and remember that you are the mom. It's tough and there is no easy advice.
2006-11-08 07:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by funrdhdpeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop responding to his behavior. once he sees that it is getting him no where, he will stop. at this age children love to think that they are in control of everything around them
2006-11-08 09:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by psychologistnovelist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take away his things then let him earn them back.
2006-11-08 07:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋